I even called out a provider for espousing the same opinion as "racist" herself, but I have now heard it from several women.
Whatever it is, I really don't care where a person's preferences lie. The occassional idiot that propagates racial stereotypes aside, we all like what we like and that's just fine with me. Of course I have never had anyone say to me that they won't see me because I am a "little dicked asian" to my face. Of course that might just mean that my dick isn't so little after all. lol
I've noticed that in civilian life, I've had bad luck with blondes (I am a blond guy), and that my most successful relationships have been with dark-haired ladies (Asian, Black & Latina).
A recent study suggests that this may be an evolutionary adaptation that most humans have: A preference for partners who are more genetically different than ourselves:
This from the annual conference of the European Society of Human Genetics today.
I've noticed that as far as providers go, I really do seem to have a preference for the "exotic". Even tho I still think Heather Locklear and Paris Hilton are extremely beautiful (In Ms Hilton's case, I think it's a perfect example of being only skin deep, however).
What do others think about their own preferences? And do you notice a preference difference between civvie and provider partners?
.....domestic and foreign.
of course early in my military career I developed a taste for Asian and Latina women and that influences me to this day.
Yes I see ladies or other races. But I enjoy the company of white ladies as well.
I'm strying into hot water here, but f@ck it.
I have found that there is a certain relational and sexual style, a certain spark, that African American ladies possess, that I particularly enjoy. And a disctinctly different such style that Asian ladies seem to have that likewise attracts me. And an altogether different style that Latinas seem to possess(ducking now).
Perhaps what I experience is a result of this inter-racial attraction, on both our parts...
HOWEVER, several of my favorite ladies in this whole world are just as "white" as I am lol....
And I would not want to be deprived of their delightful company (you know who you are ' )
GTM
For civie partners, I'm strictly into WASPs As for providers, it depends on my mood. I enjoy Asian girls for their petite size and willingness to do whatever the client wants. I like Latinos for their pure passion. I also like white providers as well. I've never been with a black provider; although I would consider it if she were truly upscale. I think I'm biased in the stereotypical view of black providers being on drugs and pimped out. I tend to see them as more a risk. Maybe one of you fine black providers here can change my mind
But as GAGambler said below, "life is not politically correct".
I'm off to go smoke some crack and check in with my pimp.
But in the meantime- to answer the question of the thread, I did have preferences before I entered the business. Or at least I thought I did.
Exposure to men I would have previously never had an opportunity to meet opened my mind greatly and I am exceedingly comfortable with any race/ethnicity so long as cultural hangups don't interfere (political ideologies, attitudes towards women, etc.).
Education or a worldly attitude/savvy breach color lines for me.
With that being said, 90% of my clients are middle-aged WASP and that has certainly colored my civilian dating but it has not defined a "type" of partner that I wish to have.
but certainly a stupid and insensitive thing to say. Personal preferences are one thing, perpetuating racial sterotypes are quite another.
My personal preference leans strongly towards asian and latinas, with white and black women coming in third and fourth if and only "IF" we want to talk about my tastes in general.
In specific my "racial preferences" did not stop me from spending Friday, Saturday and Sunday night with the same ebony provider, Sunday night at her insistence, and off the clock. I also have plans to spend 4-5 five days with her in Bogata (her home city) as Novia and Novio, not as a client. So much for generalizations.
I do have to admit, the ebony providers that claim that asian men don't like black women are not just making shit up. Several women of color have been surprised that I as an asian man would be interested in a "Negrita". Oh well, if Chinese guys don't want to see black girls, their loss. lol
I have many Chinese, Vietnamese & Korean clients specifically.
Following them are Eastern Indian (I worked with a screener recently who said "I have never seen a provider with as many Indian clients as you").
With 200+ universities, think tanks & technology-based corporations here in Boston, MA I have experienced a very large pool of Asian clients.
As far as the Indian men go, I've asked a few why they chose me and they always say that they like my coloring, dark looks and full shape.
Interestingly, I can count on probably two hands how many Latino men I've seen in 3 years and I have only a handful of black clients, most of whom are located in DC & Atlanta.
I've been chosen for my race/ethnicity and presumably avoided because of my race/ethnicity - and its all good.
We all know what we like to look at and what does it for us. This is a business about fantasy and pursuit of fulfillment of our personal needs. An understanding of what we enjoy is not a bad thing, but as you said above, perpetuation of stereotypes is insensitive.
I will say that color differences excite me in bed and I am keenly aware of it but I do not fetishize men of other races or denigrate those of my own.
I even called out a provider for espousing the same opinion as "racist" herself, but I have now heard it from several women.
Whatever it is, I really don't care where a person's preferences lie. The occassional idiot that propagates racial stereotypes aside, we all like what we like and that's just fine with me. Of course I have never had anyone say to me that they won't see me because I am a "little dicked asian" to my face. Of course that might just mean that my dick isn't so little after all. lol
"that might just mean that my dick isn't so little after all"
i have some asian clients, one Taiwanese gent in particular, who leaves me literally wobbly-kneed after his visits. my goodness!
I mostly find asian women attractive....especially half asians like I am
"I think I'm biased in the stereotypical view of black providers being on drugs and pimped out."
-cmpalson
This made my blood boil. I know that everyone is entitled to their opinion but this is ludicrous and incindiary!!! The vast majority of ebony providers I know are some of the most upscale women you will find. We have high standards and live well appointed lives publicly and privately. I am sure that if he were trolling the streets then his thoughts may have some merit, but to assume that ebony providers here wouldn't have the same business savvy as any other racial/ ethnic group is grounds for being placed in the "stupid MF'er Files". Then to add insult to injury, he states "Maybe one of you fine black providers here can change my mind"- which self-respecting, reference checking ebony diva would really want that honor? Bitch, Please.
I find that statement he made very insulting and downright worong. I've never used drugs nor have I been pimped out. In my private life, I'm pretty much low profile, and low-key.
After re-reading what I posted, I can see how my comments could be seen as offensive to some. That was not my intent. I am not opposed to seeing any provider based on race/ethnicity. All I seek is a quality time with a quality lady. Once again, I'm sorry and I'll leave it at that.
orange alien women....they tend to vaporize you, at least that's what I've seen in the movies. Not taking any chances. LOL
I've always dated interracially since my adolescent years. As long as a gentleman is a gentleman and I can have fun, then it really doesn't matter.
Have fun everyone!
Mackenzi : ))
In Star Treck, Captain Kirk seemed to find women -- especially green ones -- very attractive. But I think he had a closeted submissive streak and so had a weakness for heavily armed women with a desire to wipe out all humanity. (*grin*)
I'm European-American and, with no offense intended to very wonderful ladies of other ethnicities, I simply don't find women of other ethnicities physically attractive.
That is not to say that I don't find some of them attractive in other ways; and there is one provider in particular, due to her ideas and attitudes, I really really wish I could find physically attractive because I know she is a fantastic person. Forget anything else, I know I'd appreciate her company in its own right.
For me, without regard to whatever else I may believe, ethnic preference is just as hard-wired into my brain as my heterosexual preference. It would be just as difficult for me to engage in ... activities ... with a non-European provider as it would be for me to engage in those activities with a male.
I know that's not politically correct -- but it is what it is. The fact that I happen to be hardwired a certain way doesn't mean that I would ever expect others to adhere to my own behavioral patterns in that regard. Guys who can find women of races other than their own physically attractive obviously have many more choices available to them!
You don't have to apologize for your preferences.
I happen to prefer Asians and Latinas myself, but that doesn't stop me from seeing and enjoying women of every other race and color.
Very well put. This to me is a perfect example of speaking ones truth...whether the masses consider it PC or not but with common sense, and kindness.
I've heard dancers say that the white guys want lap dances from black girls, and black guys want dances from the white girls. We are all hear because we want something diffrent.
i have been consistently rejected by women of partial or whole african descent. in both cases the relationship was of a civy nature and i was extremely sincere in my aspirations.
in the first instance she was a career woman but very beautiful and no one could get near her since she was totally devoted to perfecting her craft. she has since had a career of international importance and is Googlable with extreme ease.
in the second instance she was much hotter but not as talented or dedicated. when i finally got around to telling her how i felt she broke down in tears and told me she had just accepted a position that required a move. in 3 weeks she was gone.
maybe it is time i break my curse?
But I do prefer white or hispanic males. And Im African-American female. Why? Because its a preference, Ive ALWAYS been attracted to the opposite race. Doesn't mean I don't like black males, I LOVE them I just won't date them. Has business sufffered because of that, Maybe. But I rather have that than give crappy service to someone Im not attracted.
I know Im BAD!!
Just my 2 cents!
Trina
...it was not until this hobby that I truly was able to enjoy the various men out there (though I still have not been booked by a black/African American man in the hobby). I have met with several Asian and white men. This experience has shown me that I certainly enjoy a variety of men! Why? Well, truly I look at the man as a man. If he is respectful and a gentleman (plus good in bed *winks*), I am attracted to him. Race does not matter. Perhaps this is due to my multi-racial background with a rainbow colored family? Who knows! I just know I love ALL men! Yes indeed. Xoxo, Giamarie
Yes. My preference is white and hispanic males. It has been my preference since grade school. I find the emotional, intellectual and sexual interaction to be more stimulating. Due to past experiences with African American males, I have to say that I am quick to judge them and don't give them a fair chance. It's my choice.
I don't have a preference. People are people to me.
I do not put a stereotype on any particular race of people. I have had white clients treat me ver well and black clients who were equally wonderful. I have had white clients play games with me and were very rude, and I have had Middle Eastern men do the same. However I have a middle eastern client who is wonderful. I do not attribute any of their behaviors to their culture....it is their personality, their spirit, and their social skills.....that is what will attract me to someone.
I said this to say skin color means nothing....it is all about that wonderful sexual organ between our ears.
For those who need it explained to them. I am male, and I want the other person to be female.
Nothing more than that!
But, anyways. Why are you reading this?
There is nothing to see here! Why are you still reading??
Bye for now!
ladies of all heights, hair colors, breast sizes, ages, educational backgrounds, etc.
and in the hobby I want to try to experience all types of women.
It seems that most of us are very open in our choice of partners, at least in the hobby. Not really a big surprise.
For strictly business-minded providers, green is green, and for everyone else, the ability to experiment and discover new flavors is probably universal. I never thought I would like pineapple on my pizza until I tried it .
The study I cited in the original post focused on long-term partnerships & marriages. It ignored the short-term (1-hour) marriages we are all familiar with...
And for the record, while I noted that I've had bad luck with blondes, I don't think there is anything inherent about them that has led to that. A beautiful blonde still turns me on, I think it has just been the luck of the draw...