It's hard to believe that some women have a very difficult time getting off. Some women don't even get off at all. It's always a different story "I can only cum if I am on top" or " I can only get off if I diddle myself" or "I can only reach release when he's going down on me." I consider my self blessed with the gift of orgasm. I have it down to a science. Now, I am not one of those ladies that can cum from you touching my arm *(I always thought the orgasm from touching a girl somewhere other then her vagina was bullshit, but I used to think squirting was just peeing until it happened to me one exciting afternoon but, thats another blog in itself)*,
My orgasm does require a little work but its just enough work to make a man feel accomplished and not winded.  I would rate myself  MEDIUM ORGASM DIFFICULTY. On a normal day I can cum after about 15-20 minutes of penetration in any position. This process can be sped up with about 5 minutes (or longer for those of you who love to snack on the Snatch) of oral or sucking my nipples while I hump at a steady pace. The easiest way for me to cum is on top but my favorite and most intense way is underneath. Now on a good day and with a good (usually regular) partner I can cum 4-6 times in two rounds of intercourse.
What's your orgasm difficulty? What makes you tick and explode like a time bomb?

what i was told was "gals take longer" - gals are frigid.  gals don't need to have sex... you can't tell if a gal is having an orgasm.

Oddly enough, some gals are so uptight about this, they can't.  They have been fed the same exact BS I have.  Only difference, believing it, makes it so for them.  One of my greater joys, is in going to a strip club - and getting THE STRIPPER OFF.

yea, i know, you can't tell!  BS.  When I'm setting there and the gal contracts, her vagina gushes and she breaks out in a fine mist all over her body with her eyes rolled into the back of her head.... not a fake.  How often?  often enough but not so often as to be an act.  and not every gal  as I say, some women are in fact brain washed - convinced of it.

Key in all of this, is how comfortable a lady is with her own sexuality.... not sex, but her sexuality.  Does she want to feel it?  Does she need to feel it? is there a longing to experience the orgasm.  or has she been psych blocked?

The solution to female orgasm difficulty is to dump all the hangups and freakin' have sex already.

Who knew?

I discovered that if you charge women "per pop" for orgasms, they don't fake them

in the divorce proceedings at least once the wife will proclaim to the entire world... "we never had sex!" even when kids are involved.... I swear I have heard this from so many divorced women it is stupid....

For me its all about repetitive motion..
The same continous motion at the same speed ....just keep it going for atleast 10 minutes non stop, whether its fast or slow.
Any different movement or interference will kill it.

If I am unable to orgasm from penetration, I usually beg to have the guy face fuck me or spread his ass cheeks and sit on my face while he talks dirty to me and I use a toys to get myself off.
The thought of being so filthy gets me off.

Dirty talk is the best, my mind is my biggest sex organ.
I have had the best orgasms with a guy laying next to me squeezing my nipples whispering filth in my ear as I fuck myself with toys.

I love to orgasm!
fuck ya
Licks,
Nicole

much more easily than from penetration.

Maybe this would not be true if not for condoms, but that's the way it is.

Of those who get off on DATY, the quickest get off after about five minutes, and some take about 30 minutes.  (Whew!)

Usually it helps to massage the G spot, but several gals don't want any fingers in there.

Of those that don't get off on DATY, I would say that about fifteen to twenty minutes of penetration is needed, and mish is usually needed, or cowgirl.

Each gal is very individual in their orgasm needs, much more so than guys.

...And that would be penetration.

A lot of clients seem to be preoccupied with DATY and that presents a personal difficulty for me because I simply can't guarantee that will make me reach orgasm.  In the instances when it does make me cum it usually takes a really long time and there has to be a combination of two things:
1.  I have to be very relaxed.  No one who walks into my bedroom and puts their head in my muffin within 10 minutes is going to make me cum lol
2.  I have to think that my partner is deriving his own pleasure from going down on me.  If I think that he's doing it just to bring me off it does utterly nothing for me.
I saw someone recently who spent the better part of two hours DATY and I came over and over and over again (which shocked the daylights out of me).  He reviewed it and only then did I realize why I enjoyed it so much:  he wanted to have me that way, he wasn't fixated on my enjoyment - he was just doing what satisfied him.  I felt that in the session but couldn't place it at the time.

I most easily reach orgasm from penetration - being fucked OR digitally.  I love to be fingered (clitoral or insertion) and mutual masturbation or kissing while being manipulated with fingers does it for me in less than 5 minutes usually.  Its orgasm express.

And that much was true. She didn't add the rest of the context: "Because I was deliberately cutting him off."

I live ALONE! That is my difficulty!

I have taught over 200 hundred anorgasmic women and their partners.
ALOT of it is in the mind.
You gents have it easy. Taught in the gym room how or what to do.
We are STILL taught to keep the pussy PRIVATE.
How is one to discover what gets them off if it's not EVER spoken of.
The CRYSTAL WAND a great tool for the "I cant cum" or "MEDIUM difficulty".
For the wanna be squirter's (giving out secret's here) the wand can get her to the next level.
I am SOO easy DATY, 69 for warm up, 2 mins to start 20 min better.
Add the fingers and I start gushing-but it's the penetration of cock that pushes me over the top.
And for the few who gone greek with me....that does it BIG TIME.
Kisses Delilah