Much like dating, now it's becoming all about looks in the hobby and SD? I'm 63 and don't look good, I know that. I'm not totally run down but the majority of women won't give me the time of day. An Asian gal here in KC wanted to Facetime, she really wasn't that hot but after the Facetime, she bailed saying she couldn't verify me. It's the first time in my long career anyone has had a problem with verification. I believe it was based on my looks. With Social Media now in complete control of our society, have things changed in the hobby and sugar dating? I don't have any experience with SDing but have entertained the idea, would rather find something organic instead of on the internet but that seems nearly impossible especially here in KC
old enough to remember the singles bars of the 80's that followed the free-love hippy period of the 70's. To find women, you have to go where they are. I'm a few years older than you and while there is no way to hide the years in my face, I have found that if you keep your body fit, muscular and healthy, you can still perform as well as you did in your 30's and 40's. Because I'm a gym rat I have done my most successful hunting at the gym. There are a lot of women in their 30's to mid-40's, pre-menopausal, either recently divorced or with a fat husband who are trying to improve their appearance and are open to new sexual partners. I'm not looking for something permanent because I know once they find a guy to be monogamous with, they will get chubby again, but I'm happy to enjoy the journey with them while they are looking. If you still have the game in you from when you were younger, there are plenty of woman to bed if you would rather not pay for a professional.
As long as you are clean , respectful and paying, you should not have any problems in P4P world .
If it was about your looks, which TBH I would not assume, it's likely an outlier. If an escort wants to make good money, being selective about looks isn't going to work out well. While there are some good looking guys who hobby, being exclusive to them would make this a tough career. Good looking guys tend to have different reasons they see provider, like it's easier, more convenient, they're stepping out in a relationship, they're socially awkward, and/or they want younger tail. But if they are single, willing to mingle, and fine with a lady closer to their age, they shouldn't have a challenge. Whereas if you're not that good looking, it's more difficult without paying regardless. But if you put money on the table, as long as you're clean, respectful, and safe, you should not have much of a problem.
If your paying and are clean + respectful their should not be any issues. I verify with real ID. I don't understand the FaceTime verification unless she's just going on looks. Criminal background checks are what's important to me personally.
As a Provider/Business, one has the right
to "refuse service".
It's unfortunate some choose to decline
Clients based on a person's physicality,
Race or Religion;
Caveats: Charles Manson &
John Wayne Gacy doppelgangers are
a hard-pass 🚫 so please don't apply! 🫣
Disregard those whom request "Facetime"
"Reference/Screening".
Seek Providers requiring standard
"Screening" which is a safety-factor for
both Provider & Client.
Verification, respect, kindness and a little
effort in one's personal hygiene;
A.K.A. a meticulously sanitized Client goes
a long way in any rendezvous!
Xo Angelina Jones 💋
As they say, one observation doesn't make a trend. You might just take her at her word rather than making up any scenarios in your mind about what she was thinking. Looks? Maybe. Personality? Maybe. Actually could not verify you somehow? Maybe. Has better options she prefers? Maybe.
I understand you have said KC isn't a great location for finding a lot of great options you like and that might be what it is. But just move on and not not sweat the small stuff there of one provider saying no. I hear a lot of guys saying "X is what happened." even when they cannot know or sometimes were not even one of the people involved. To me that seems a waste of time. You know she is not an option. Worrying too much about that just gets people no where.
For what it's worth, while you see some of the same as you do in the US about girls going for the hot guys wandering around in a number of Asian countries I have see a lot of very attractive women of all ages that are with very average looking to even unattractive guys and it's clear these are real life relationships not P4P. I would not worry too much about your looks (and I suspect most of us see ourselves through more critical eyes than others do).
