I know it has been mentioned before on here. But just reminder. Providers are in  the sex worker business, not the friendship business.  They are not your friend but a business partner at best.

There is no "one size fits all" way to navigate this lifestyle. I have become RW friends with several SWs. I never expect friendship, and it is rare, but it does happen.

you can truly be friends with a small circle. But given the type of exchange, I wouldn’t give more to someone than he was able to give to me.   What I dislike, is a sense of obligation on my private time: I once was in an exclusive arrangement and I always felt on edge that I needed to return a text immediately: he paid for my life. But my life was both broadened and limited by the relationship. We were most certainly friends. For years. But I find the freedom of being independent is worth a lot to me.  I imagine a lot of women appreciate their time  when they don’t need to be on point and charming - they would want the freedom to exchange with a client/friend when it meets her schedule. That’s my reality of paid companionship & friendship. Xo Sydney

@ nailit You can be friends with SPs but it'll not be free..she'll hit you up for money when she's in need. Since you are her friend, you are obligated to help her. Sky is the limit. She needs yo to buy her a car, pay her mortgage, buy her a house.

It really sounds like you don't. The only thing I am obligated to is to be her friend, which I have done on a handful of occasions. I have never bought any of them a car or a house. I have paid for lunches and dinners on occasion, but that is more of a traditional guy/girl dynamic, than it is client/provider one. I can't speak to your experiences but mine are totally different than the ones you speak of.

Best guess: the OP is talking to himself.

If you're actually nice to girls and have a decent sense of humor they tend to warm up to you. I never did it to seek a relationship but several happened. I've done more off-the-clock dinners with girls than I can count and some were truly memorable.

We've also just learned from reliable sources that Water Is Wet!

It's the truth

Which is the truth: Nailit or RR?

She replied to RR's post.

I think if you do this enough (client and provider)  you'll eventually  / naturally make a good friend or 2. I know I have. 2 in particular actually. We have a good connection, we know what each other is "doing" obviously and just good chemistry.  
It's a perk really!  
I value the friends I've made as they are more than just an off the clock meeting or dinner. That's not necessarily friendship but just an extension or addition of the paid meeting.  
It's been a great thing for me to make some real friendships as a bonus!

Do tell

If you resist putting them on a pedestal and just treat them like civvie girls, long friendships are possible, and some even turn into real-life girlfriends.  A sense of humor and a quick wit DO go a long way with smarter providers.  Disingenuous fawning and pandering is a turnoff for most.  Mongers would do well to leave their list of gratuitous compliments at home and just be themselves, unless of course, they are boring as hell, in which case, just try to keep them awake while you're talking.  Lol              (None of this is directed to you, just some general advice on the topic for those that may wonder how some of us get OTC dates, which are often at the suggestion of the provider who wants a break from the same old shit.)

Never trust the ones who say they love you or call you a friend. These ladies are master manipulators.

I take off points for lack of clarity: "It's the truth." WHAT'S the truth?
Is it an approving "RR speaks the truth" agreeing with RR's view of client-Provider friendships?
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Is it a reprimanding, "No RR, nailit speaks the truth and the APPEARANCE of friendship in a client - Provider relationship isn't (is not EVER?) real friendship."?  
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What is the "it" in "It's the truth."?

I agree with the other post that suggested there might be some back story here. Otherwise I kind of agree with helixir that this is more like letting us know water is wet.

The question is with whom? LoL.  
I agree with you here. I was thinking the same thing. What’s the truth?  
It?  

When you become friends do you continue seeing them as providers or does the business relationship end? Have you ever remained friends after you stopped seeing them as a provider?

Just like any other profession, it's possible they could become your friend but probably its not going to happen.  

I do continue to see them as providers but there is a clear distinction; it is either a paid date or a platonic one, as we don't mix the two. Paid dates involve sex, platonic ones are just that i.e. only lunches, dinners, movies, etc with no bedroom time. Outside of some very rare instances, I always treat for the platonic dates but to me, again, that is more attributable to the male/female dynamic and less to do with client/provider, if that makes sense.  
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Yes to the second question. Some girls pop in and out of retirement and some I have become close to no longer provide but we still remain friends. It's been a total of 4 women I became very close to, and a few others I would describe as more cyber friends i.e. email/text pen pals and phone calls, as we dont live near each other anymore or we never did as they were touring girls I would see whenever they came to town.
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I think the issue some allude to is can you really be friends while only doing compensated time for every meet up or contact? I would say no, that isnt real friendship. That is pay for play. That doesn't mean you cant become close, you can, but per my definition of the word "friends" means it is doing certain things totally off the clock.

I think you're spot on about brokers etc part

Interesting how this thread which seemed to suggest providers shouldn't be seen as possible friends, became a discussion on how they actually can be in some instances. That said, it takes two to want that in a relationship. I'm guessing the OP does not and had a client that wanted differently. I think it is important to respect what each wants. Some providers and some clients never want to cross that line. Being honest, I am a client who is not looking nor wants a friendship with a provider I am seeing.  

friendship with sex. Most friendships aren’t sexual.  

I never said it can't happen tho? Literally said it's possible but not likely.

So not sure why you’d say it is. That’s a business relationship, plain and simple. A friendship goes way beyond having sessions together. And it obviously it depends on both parties.

When I lived in NY I saw a provider in Westchester a bunch of times. She came to trust me pretty quickly and told me her whole life story. Over time she and I became friends. At one point I told her that I felt uncomfortable seeing her in a provider-client way because I came to regard her as kind of a younger sister. She thought that was cute and even though I've moved away we still see each other when I visit NY and she even let me stay in her apartment instead of getting a hotel if I'm up there alone (air mattress in the living room lol). We talk on the phone and text quite a bit too.

Sorry, I misspoke, my fault. I meant "to extend that biz relationship to friendship" .

I feel equipped to answer this as well. I have two providers that I’m very friendly with, and I’ve had the opportunity of seeing both of them non-transactionally while also still maintaining a client-provider relationship.