and won't shut up...#makeitstop
oh you are so sexy...i want to take you away for the weekend...i want to see you every week...i want to marry you...blah blah
wait at least till second or third date,so us, gals, can take you seriously
it is annoying and every seasoned provider can read through your bullshit...these type of guys rarely even book a second session with the same provider...especially it is funny to hear it from guys who review a new girl every week...
action speak louder that words...
is hearing silly promises part of providing gfe experience? i am not gonna show fake excitement if i know it is not sincere and just some generic promises the guy feeds to every girls who sucked his d*ck to completion
I am even guilty of this from time to time. In the heat of the moment I have probably promised 500 different chicas that I wanted to take them away for the weekend, go to the beach together, or all sorts of other promises that drunk horny guys often make.
In my defense I sometimes do make good on my promises, but I will confess most of the time I/we wake up in the morning, often with a huge hangover and our fabulous plans from the night before no longer seem like such a great idea.
It happens, men are pigs, oink oink.
and yes, some women still "glow" in the morning and all those promises I made while drunk I am happy to not only meet, but exceed even sober the next day. A little tip for you ladies, if you want your man to make good on his promises from the night before, waking him up with a blow job is a GREAT way to refresh his memory. lol
Interested in hearing further. Have most hobbyists lost their minds?
Translation - I like spending time with you, but I'd rater get it for free.
Trickanese.... That's funny! Is there a Rosetta on that language? LOL
I would think most hobbyists would know better. IMHO that sounds a little insecure and for the ones that do feed those lines, they're just trying to get more menu items for their compliments.
On the other hand..ill be the first to give a girl a (sincere) compliment 
D.
With a VERY nice TER hobbyist. We had a great time together, and the passion and our chemistry was off the charts. He didn't make false promises, except to say he'll see me again, and I sincerely believe he will.
I just received an unexpected gift from him, and no BS, it actually made me cry tears of joy. HE WROTE A REVIEW ABOUT OUR RENDEZVOUS (Yayyy) and I never even asked him to write one. Now to many providers, this might not be a big deal, but because I'm just restarting my escort career, this is a VERY special gift for me!
Perhaps I've been extra lucky, but with the hobbyists I've had the honor of spending time with, none have ever been fake with me. In fact, I'd say the civie gentlemen I've been with in my lifetime, fed me more lies and caused me more heartache, than any hobbyist ever could.
The way I see it, a hobbyist who spends his hard earned money to rendezvous with me, can promise me the moon, while we're together (even if he doesn't mean it), because that's why I'm with him...To fulfill his fantasies, and allow him an escape from reality!
and yours is outstanding
I am not sure that some of the ladies on this board understand how much being positive about things reflects well on them. I, for one, occasionally read posts and gravitate toward those ladies with a optimistic attitude.
I tend to see a few regular friends and try out others from time to time hoping to find another regular friend.
I am criticizing no one but I found this reply refreshing
in compliments, real or embellished. If you can elicit a compliment
for your services, appreciate it. Every one comes from a different place because each comes from a different guy.
It's certainly ok to differentiate comments and compliments that
you receive regardless. But it might be unrealistic to discard them because there not from one of your ATFs, someone you want to hear that from ... we guys are the same.
If an escort I know and trust tells me something, I'll probably believe it or appreciate it more than from a provider I'm meeting for the first time.
Yea, there probably are some guys out there trying to get over on someone every day. 80/20 rule I'd imagine.
Enjoy the compliments .... they may eventually dry up. LOL
geez, i would think that part of the p4p experience is to make it a fantasy that both parties realize is just a fantasy. and part of my fantasy with women is to tell them how incredibly beautiful they are.
i always tell my date they are the most beautiful woman i've ever been with. for one thing, i always choose very pretty providers. another thing is, even as a young man i learned that it never hurts to flatter a woman's looks. (another thing is, when i'm not with the woman i love, i love the woman i'm with. every girl who is with me IS the most beautiful woman i've ever been with ... at the time.)
and usually my dates smile broadly and flutter their eyes a little and say something like "ah, really, how nice." however a couple months ago i was with a girl and i told her she was the most beautiful woman i had ever made love to. she stopped and gave me a look of disbelief and said "yeah, right."
the ironic thing is, she was really right up there in gorgeousness. cute gorgeous 20 something blonde with a knock out body (not to mention mad skillz). but she wasn't willing to let me indulge in the romantic fantasy of complimenting her as the most beautiful woman ever.
now she either was jaded and not able to indulge in the p4p fantasy, or maybe she actually didn't have a good self image (which was hard to believe, she was a knock out). but it did ruin the erotic rhythm of the date.
i know this kind of high jacked the thread, but if a client isn't trying to get anything out of you other than a "thanks" for the compliment, play along.
Perhaps you’ve been in the business so long that the annoyance is getting to you with those first date redundant, continuous over-the-top affectionate expressions of love. Although it is odd that dudes can say how much in love they are with you on first meeting, but if it’s fickle or not until the next one comes along, they’re still paying for that fantasy at that moment. Every provider should be so special and entitled to taking the money and faulting the customer for doing so over what appears to be such a minor inconvenience.
But maybe you want so much more, like everyone else
until the hour is up and IMO he certainly should be able
dream it, even want it at the time and dare I say, "say it".
Reality sets in about the same time he gets out of the hotel and opens his car door
I agree with others that it's his fantasy, and he's expressing that fantasy, even if that fantasy could never become reality.
We're all built differently, though, and some don't like to go that far into fantasy, especially when they know it's fake. For example, I don't like the porn star experience. It's all fake. I know, all of this is, but it especially is. I guess I like mine to be "believably real", which is maybe what you prefer, too.
Nothing wrong with that.
with words like you are so sexy/beautiful, etc... If I said them, I meant them. Just as providers often assert that their compliments are genuine, so must I assert that the guys' compliments are probably genuinely felt.
I have also met women where that first date was so electric and the chemistry so good, that I've asked if she'd like to meet again, because I certainly would (and likely will).
Sorry, but any promises made beyond that ARE probably bullshit for the most part, and end for both when the time is up and reality sets in as he/she leaves.
If you know it is in all likelihood bullshit, then you know also that it probably comes from that persons fantasies about their life and the date, not from some nefarious intent to irritate or deceive. Moreover, I doubt it is something a guy repeats for every woman he see; it is more likely something inspired by his date with YOU - maybe not something to condemn in every case.
Like when I first walk into a session and she confirms how long I want to stay and I tell her I want to stay for the entire weekend, or if at the end of the session I tell her I will be back in a couple of hours to come see her again, these kinds of "Promises" are rarely meant to be taken seriously
Now if I actually make a specific promise, like instead of "I will come back and see you everyday" which of course is bullshit, but then there is "I want to come back and see you tomorrow at 2:00" now that is a commitment and if I put it that way you can bet she will be getting a text at 1:55 the very next day telling her I am downstairs in the parking lot.
Why would a guy do that?... Kind of presumptuous that the girl might actually be interested as well.. silly..
Sometimes, over time, things may develop.. but on the first date? We exist in an upside down World.. In the real World.. there is time to get to know someone before intimacy . in our World, intimacy is first and then maybe we are lucky enough to make some sort of connection.. after a while. For sure after more than one meeting..
(Yes, I'm being facetious.
Also just say to the hobbyist.
We can talk after our third or fourth date.
So what time next week?
Posted By: octavia.lexa
and won't shut up...#makeitstop
oh you are so sexy...i want to take you away for the weekend...i want to see you every week...i want to marry you...blah blah
wait at least till second or third date,so us, gals, can take you seriously
it is annoying and every seasoned provider can read through your bullshit...these type of guys rarely even book a second session with the same provider...especially it is funny to hear it from guys who review a new girl every week...
action speak louder that words...
is hearing silly promises part of providing gfe experience? i am not gonna show fake excitement if i know it is not sincere and just some generic promises the guy feeds to every girls who sucked his d*ck to completion
Telling her how beautiful and sexy she is doesn't promise anything...if I feel that way and had a good time I'm going to say so...but at the same time I try not to make grand gestures and promises...my tendency after a particularly good first date is to ask her if I can call on her again...
Then another thing to make promises, like the ones in octavia.lexa thread.
I can see how it can be a annoying at times.
If a person is all talk and does not back it up. Lol
Posted By: jelloman42
Telling her how beautiful and sexy she is doesn't promise anything...if I feel that way and had a good time I'm going to say so...but at the same time I try not to make grand gestures and promises...my tendency after a particularly good first date is to ask her if I can call on her again...
Some guys can be prone to say anything and it means zero. They just have poor social skills and/or are neurotic. So what? You're being paid to support whatever illusion they want to spin. Just roll with it. But feel free to come here to vent. It's fine.
Ladies say things all the time that are part of the fantasy, and are certainly not completely true. One of my ATFs offered to show me around town the first time I met her....no way was that going to happen, at least for free. I have had women say "I adore you", this is "my best date in a year", "that was my favorite review ever". (And an old girlfriend said I had a "perfect penis", but I digress...) Let's not even talk about what might be said in the throes of passion (fake passion or real passion).
Octavia, I have not met you (and would LOVE to, btw -- not a line, pure truth), but I would guess that you have a few things that you say during a session that might not be entirely be true. I guess I would agree with you that talk of marriage in a P4P session is a bit scary, but other than that, I would hope that getting carried away with the enjoyment of a session is seen as a compliment and a testament to your charms.
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... I never promised any lady anything except a good time.
After the 3rd time, I still don't promise anything. Never have and never will.
Why?
Because providers never promised me anything, either!!
Just saying...
At least he showed up and wasn't a no show-no call.
Don't you think those guys are just trying to get something "extra" from you?
OK, that's bit of an exaggeration, but only one provider gets the "I love you's": my ATF. And it took probably about 2 years to get to that comfort level, where I could say it and mean it, and she could hear it and not freak out: "OH SHIT...he's attached to me!!!"
A grandiose, post-orgasm promise that is completely sincere for no more than 1 hour after ejaculation
No time to read all the replies so I apologize for any duplicated sentiments, but I have to very seriously mention:
There's a line between love and fascination
That's hard to see, on an evening such as this
For they both give the very same sensation
When you're lost in the magic of a kiss
