That's like asking how do I go about dating a Playboy model?

There is no right answer to your question.

is not looking for a shell of a man.

Not sure, but I am thinking the perfect wife is the one you are not married to.

a woman who doesn't insist on trying to change you and then gets mad when you don't.

I don't mean to brag, but my SO is pretty sweet in terms of looks. Now, if she was a prostitute, I would probably rate her in a 9 in looks, and figure that she would charge somewhere between $600-$800 a pop. Some of my friends don't even believe that thats my SO, then I had to smack her ass and stuff. For me, I really ain't that good looking honestly IMO.

How I meet this chick, well, it was at a social gathering site. Not much to pay, but the site set up local events for singles to mingle and properly introduce ourselves. I guess, the only suggestion I can give is, to be yourself, and have humility. I don't like guys that base their egos and prestige on their careers, accomplishment, who they know, or their social economic status--some girls dig that I guess, but thats not the girl I am looking for.

Anyways, be yourself when talking to her, don't overwhelm her by your success, overwhelm her by your personality. Fill her in on your character, what you've done as a humanitarian (doesn't have to be extreme--like me, I like to volunteer in elementary schools to help educate low income students). Just show her that your human is what I am trying to say. Oh, another thing, don't make judgements on the girl either, if you think she is too good for you and you decided she won't see you, then your behavior will reflect your ideology.

Guess that's how I meet hot girls, and thats how I am with my hot SO.

i assume you meant a wife who would not ask questions or even look the other way when you hobby.

A dumb girl might help...one so taken in by the Cinderella fantasy that she doesn't want to believe anything could go wrong.

Or a girl so accomodating and selfless that she wouldn't want to ever kill your buzz for any reason.

Or, a latent lesbian.  She'll look the other way because she knows there's something secret she wants as well.  

Basically, you don't really want to marry the kind of girl who is tolerant of hobbying.

Why?

Why would you want one if you're gonna fuck around on her anyway? And I thought my values were fuckin' twisted. Want your cake and eat it too, don'tcha.

Here's my deal. Never been married. Asked a lady once, then I sobered up the next day. Don't have any kids that I know of, unless you count my dogs. They just turned 10 and seeing as how they're Shepard crosses, I probably only have half that time left with them if I'm lucky.

44 years old, mortgage, decent job. Fucking great family and friends, civvie and here.

Yeah, my eyes are bigger than my stomach. But I'll get there.

I wouldn't complicate it with a wife if I knew beforehand I was going to fuck around on her. What's the fucking point? So maybe I'll get caught and have to give her all the shit I worked my life for? Fuck it.

Figure I got 10 years or so in this 'thing' before I get totally burnt out on it. What can I say? I get bored sometimes. Just takes a while to realize it.

Had a conversation with a provider. Well, many talks, but she thinks she wants out in 10 years. This was 2 years ago, I think. Would eat your children, give your left nut, and commit all sorts of crime on humanity to spend the rest of my days with her.

But seeing as how I've pissed her off as of late, I'm taking applications, lol!

My point is, commitment is a serious thing. I don't let my mouth write checks my ass can't cash.

I committed myself to meeting as many people as possible at this time. Experiences. Some will go on, some won't. A day will come when I'll wake up and say I had enough and it won't be the first time.

A wife is not in the cards right now, for me. She should deserve my undivided attention, respect, love, and time. Just can't do that now.

But never say never, and they're wile's and ware's are soooo fucking enticing....!

but if he asks for a bbbj or even stutters asking for a bj Im gonna be on alert.