It seems to me that all successful escorts fit into one of these three character types;

1. Nympho Type, heterosexual or bixexual. They love sex, would do it often and widely anyway, so figure why not get paid for it. They realize that most men are at their most courteous, kindly, and best behavior in a situation in which they're expection or hoping to have sex.  

Such escorts exploit the  time and relationship constraints intrinsic to escorting to keep men well behaved, and paradoxically, harmless, even when in a longer, fuller relationship they might be quite dangerous. (Most men who end up beating their significant other do so when they believe their connection with the s/o is secure, either through financial or emotional attachment, or both.
It's like going to a movie.

2. Nurse Type. Thes escorts are merely used to physicality. A penis and  them is  just another parts of the anatomy, likew a hand or a foot. They're comfortable with the body there own and that of others, and are usually competent if always inspired. And like nurses, they're acutely aware of health risks (though that doesn't stop many of them from smoking!), so are most likely to insist on cbj, and will never swallow though they may not be aesthetically averse it it. For some reason, nurse types may have an aversion to tongues, so may shun FK. They're usually not  a GFE, but can be counted on to be professional, wordly, efficient, and practical.

3. Lesbian/Actor type. may feel a range of emotion toward men from boredom to rage, but usually dislike men. They must be distinguished from the bi/nympho type. Lesbian types usually fail at this profession unless they're competent actors, and  share some Nurse-type traits or are very beautiful.

Next installment--the mixed types: narcissists and talkers, or the erratically successful.

However, if they were not paid for it, they would not have sex with as wide a range of men.

I remember a provider saying on this board that "if the truth be known, this is therapy for a lot of women".

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Most providers do it for the money... not in a sick, greedy way but just because its a BUSINESS. I mean, why do you do what you do: to satisfy some Freudian impulse?

For many providers, there is precious little else they can do to earn as much. I met a 19 y.o provider a couple of months ago, well reviewed and a very good promoter, who is pulling down $5k per week and owns a house... a 19 y.o... in San Diego. Other options for a 19 y.o? Oh, Starbucks maybe, $350/week?

For women who can handle it, its just a smart business decision.

O.

not why women enter the business, but what traits will make them successful in it. And of course, EVERY analysis is an overanalysis, or rather an underanalysis-- because it must leave things out, and assume others. As the economists say...ceterus paribus...To understand anything requires simplification.

Gotta agree with you, Ozymandias!

Okay, lets not OVER-Analyze this subject here. YES, it's a business and YES...I certainly do ENJOY, what I do. YES- I want dick (sorry for the language) 24-7 (literally). YES-if I can find a man who can keep up with me, then YES-he and I would be "banging" so much, that I wouldn't have time for variety/clients (although, I must admit, variety is awesome!!!). Damn, I am horny lol Where are you, Clarence??? lol

p.s.

I am probably not making sense here for I am in thattttt mooooood for love right about now lol

I agree with Oz that it is purely business.  I'm sure there are some that seek affirmation, but I seriously doubt that is the general case.

Seems to me you're talking past each other. If he were attempting to explain why women choose to be escorts, you'ld be dead on.  But my read is that he's talking about why a woman who chooses this business (for whatever reason) is able to succeed at it.  In different words, what are the characteristics of a "woman who can handle it".

Whether he's right or not I plain don't know.  Sounds plausible, but so do lots of things that turn out to be wrong.  BTW, all providers who post on these boards (except occassionally under an alias) claim to be type 1.

Re:Gotta agree with you, Ozymandias!

Melinda you are the kind of girl that many of us feel like we have struck gold when we find.  I met a provider like this about three weeks ago, very pretty 28 yr. blonde with pirced nipples that she loves pulled and chewed on.  She also loves, and I mean loves to suck dick.  She can go off in minutes sucking cock while I pull on the nipple rings.  And she can't get enough fucking.  Not only does she not look at the clock, but the three times I have seen her I have to call an end to the session.  The last time was almost three hr. and she still wanted more.  And its not all about the money, she said I agreed on an hour and I would pay for one hour, the rest was for her.

A gal like this that can cum ten or twelve times makes any man feel like a stud.  Thank God for small favors

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I am right dagnabbit! lol (just jokin)

You are are right, "D", I just talked right past him, in a sense. As for why a woman who has choosen this profession, and is able to succeed with it: That I can only answer for my own experiences.

Well, it started many moons ago ( lol) ....

End of story

Mel lol

Your friend and I should hook up one day..meowzaaa I love knowing that there are other ladies out there, who love dirty, raunchy, sex I would love to have a contest  with her, on how many licks it would take you to break into the center your lollipop When she is done, then it's my turn to lay you back, and start the process right back up lol


OMIGOSH-I cannot wait until 8pm tonight, when I meet my client LOL

Mel lol

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Ozy was responding to the post from Telling...to which his response made sense (and I agreed with).  Were you thinking he was responding to How's post?  That one also makes a potentially good point, although his analysis is definitely from a small study group.

Melinda: Though I have been plaing on TER for a long time, I am new to the boards so you are new to me. But what I know so far is delightful. Please fill me in on the details of you...

If you like a black Jessica Rabbit, then that is me lol If not, then I will do the bunny hop somewhere else lol Reviews can be found under Melinda/Boston

Mel

and it has nothing to do with me affirming anything. I am an escort, because I make great money in short periods of time. I work when I want to, and I choose whom I see. Again, it has NOTHING to do with affirmations of any kind. I knew I was hot long before I became a provider.

mel, you gotta cool your jets, you are melting my monitor

some girls become providers because they are in the right place at the right time, they need some money, they know somebody who helps them get started, bam. some love men and some hate 'em and some are undecided. some love sex and some couldn't care less, and some have libidos that go up and down just like... well, just like regular people! some had unhappy childhoods while others grew up in happy families with houses and picket fences.

why is it necessary to boil human beings down to categories? what's the point? what do you gain? when i see a provider for the first time i don't want to analyze her, proselytize her, categorize her, or define her - all i really want to do (is baby, be friends with you)

... and lick her pussy, of course. if we like each other and see more of each other then maybe i want to know more of that other stuff, but i want to learn about her as an individual, not just say "aha! you are a type 36C slash OICU812"

sorry for the rant! but you americans and your goddamned "top ten" lists ......

WOMAN: if i'm gonna work for it, i might as well make it enjoyable

MAN: if you're getting paid for it, you MUST make it enjoyable!

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a hypothetical dialogue  ... NOT a movie quote!  

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get laid..do something! Crack a smile, why don't you? Life is tooo short to be miserable

Mel

Just Jokin' (just in case you decide to get huffy with me lol)

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he couldn't possibly be more right!  

it's a BUSINESS ... until she says it ain't and stops taking your MONEY

and if-n-when so ... it could be about another "dangerous" bizness!

LOL

Hey, I will spank you over there! lol

I was only jivin'with him..hopefully, he will pick up on that. Anyways, of course it's a business! But, it's also a sexual adventure, as well..that I will never deny ;0

Mel

What are you talking about, Mr. Singleton?

Mel

For your humor, your good sense, your compassion, and last but far from least for your handling of disagreement with CLASS.

If you want that information private message me, she is not on the internet.  But I must warn you we have a date for 5:00pm Wed. there may not be much left.  I have taken more pills the past three days than I have in the past three years.  If I don't live through it than I will have died a very happy man.

I owe a few women a hell of a lot of money.  I hope it isn't true.

You are absolutely right.  My careless mistake.  Apologies to Ozymandias and all who agreed with him.

Not necessarily. A provider has direct insight only into her own motivation, and this  insight might not  be accurate. Just because a provider thinks she's only in it for the money doesn't make it so.

When it comes to the motivations of other providers, her insight is even more questionable. She's as much an outsider to them as any client is, and can only  infer their motives, same as anyone else. She possibly has LESS first hand experience with providers than many clients do, so her understanding might be inferior to theirs.

Lets look at the other side of the coin. Who has more insight into why clients see providers?  The knee-jerk answer would be thatthe clients themselves do: they must know their own motives!


But motives are tricky things to catch. Possibly providers might know the motives of clients best, simply because they see so many of them. As with the provider, a client only knows his own motivation first hand, the motivation of others can at best only be surmised.

Even what the client thinks when he explains himself might only be a rationalization, misleading his hearer and/or deluding himself. And what he learns from other hobbyists well be similarly cultured, filtered through a net of caution to prevent seepage of any motives they do not wish to reveal to the world or to themselves.

But there is a method that might provide some understanding. What one does reveals more  about ones motivation than  what one says. (Ihat's why there's a law against heresay evidence in court.) Don't look to what someone says, but at what he or she does. That is the key to their motivation. What fellow hobbyists and fellow escorts learn about themselves is usually learned in bull sessions,What they learn about each other is learned in action. Look at the persons behavior, then ask yourself  for the reasons YOU might do it (even if its something ytou would never IN FACT do.)  This type of empathetic understanding, perhaps fictive, is the most anyone can hope to achieve.


Of course, one might say that there are as many reasons for becoming an escort as there are escorts. That's true, but useless.It's lazy, like saying all politicians lie. Under the guise of worldliness,  it  saves one the effort of thinking--and saves one from the embarassment of ever being wrong.

give her a good tip.

I leave the session right on time and I don't mind they bump off my appointment to see someone else.  (Of course, they can't do that all the time.)

A couple of times, I deliberately scheduled an appointment later in the day so my ATF can relax and unwind.  We just cuddled, kissed and talked.

To me, it is all about having a good time.  For them, it is about making enough money.  We all know what we wanted.  That is the best.

Take care.

p.s. I am learning to lighten up.  Thanks for reminding me. Lol.