So i saw this provider coming to the area and i really wanted to setup an appointment so i proceeded with the scheduling system. It seems i passed the screening but she said because of my reviews she thinks we are "not a good match". I have no idea what that means and she just responded not a good match. I read her reviews and it is not like the services she provides and the reviews written about her differs than my reviews of others. I mean if my review i written about how i like S&M and she doesn't provide it then yeah it makes sense but mine is pretty normal so i am kind of confused. I understand i just let it go not like she's only provider but I am curious as to if reading possible client reviews of others is something providers do or this is one of those rare cases? And she is asian btw for those who would say she thinks she is not the ethnic type...

Winning a lottery than understanding a woman's logic. Lucky for you there are many fishes in the sea.

And you might bring her rating dow

Of 17 reviews, only one provider got a 10 for appearance and another a 10 for performance. You gave a lot of 7s and 8s across the categories. In this TER world those are mediocre to poor evaluations. Appreciate your candor, but very few providers are going to risk those scores which affects their rating and their brand.

...or it could be one thing she's read in your reviews and you'll never know what that is.

I didn't bother to read them, so I'll just take a guess and say that something you wrote rubbed her the wrong way. It's anyone's guess as to what that could have been, just trust her evaluation and be glad that you didn't throw away money on a date that may not have turned out to be all that fun.

Is a catch all phrase used by many escorts. It's impossible to speculate the exact reason. Time to simply move on.  

I have rejected johns on their reviews for numerous reasons which all would have made the session unpleasant for me. It doesn't take much to turn a hooker off seeing someone. And has been spoken about on here many times, too much honesty does not pay off.

Probably at least one of these:

Its the content of some of your reviews, honestly.
While you're not too crass, you have certain verbiage in a few of the reviews I read that rub me the wrong way. You also discuss price in one of your reviews which I know from personal experience can be a major bummer because rates change.  

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I mean damn! You seem to nit pick on every little imperfection someone has and put it in your review and drop scores or have it hinder your overall experience because of it. Yeah your numerical scoring is OK, and seems fair, but leg veins and a butter face? WOW!!!  

Thanks for the feedbacks. I think my scores generally falls inline with the average of the provider so maybe that's not it? And i guess it is hard to say someone will give you a 10 just because he gives only 9/10? I guess like others said it could be anything and there's nothing i could do and am not gonna lose any sleep over it. However, it does help to know maybe i should fudge the scores a bit perhaps and make review less honest?

And scored as he saw fit he is now a pariah amongst would be highly rated providers?  What if he is trying to "up his game" and get away from the lower ratings?  What if he doesn't score 9's and 10's because none will see him? Granted, I didn't read the content of his reviews but perhaps he would score higher if he could see someone who deserved higher scores who wasn't so afraid of manipulating the system so they only get 10's.  Considering he has a few 9's and 10's in his list suggests that his candor is fairly honest by his own standards.

"Granted, I didn't read the content of his reviews "
maybe you should read his reviews first.
either that or don't assume that it has a thing to do with the numbers. she didn't say that, you made it up.

He asked the question. My answer was to address the 'why' question. I'm not dogging him, just giving my opinion on why she passed based on his reviews. I do think he is nit picky after reading some of his reviews.

IMO she either said no thanks because of his scores or the content of his reviews, or both, lol.

Just one lady's opinion.

Steph xoxo

If I notice that a potential playmate seems to prefer a certain type. I'm not going to reject the guy for this reason alone!   There's been many times I've responded with something like "Hey, I see you have a preference for some pretty luscious porn star types.  I am anything but voluptuous - are you sure I will meet your needs?"  Or "Hey, I got all excited reading your DT scenes, but if your member is any bigger than average, my little mouth might be a bit of a disappointment!"  Without exception, I've heard something back like "I've seen your pictures/read your reviews and I'm pretty sure you are exactly what I'm in the mood for."  However, if the response had been "Thanks for letting me know - I think I'll look elsewhere," that would have been great too.  The last thing I want is playtime plagued by disappointment, frustration, or even plain ol' awkwardness - on either side.

I see the gals I want to see.  

Have we all forgotten that here peeps? No need to give out handles. I have never had a girl tell me she wouldn't see me if I skipped the handle/boards I played on request.

I run on too long with what I say sometimes, so I didn't get into that part of it in my reply, but you are SPOT ON with communication being key.  Also, getting a little better feel for each other can really ramp-up the anticipation, and help ensure that the date kicks off with a great vibe right from the start.  And in cases where the lady is a little different from a guy's more typical type, it probably makes sense to proactively add an extra sentence or two (beyond the norm) in the first contact to say what particularly has peaked his interest in her.

I would like to believe that an adult has enough ability to decide if they want what the hooker is selling.

Just for shits and giggles.

Posted By: JackDunphy

I see the gals I want to see.  
   
 This isn't the providers fault, its YOURS.  
   
 Now you know.  
   
 

This is probably not going to go over well, and I want to be clear - I never, ever judge a provider's business model.  It works for them, like mine works for me.

But not everyone comes off as unlikeable.

The guys I have rejected because I read their reviews would have had a not so fun time with me had I  seen them. I prefer a good fit, not because I am worried about a shit review, because they don't concern me. I am concerned that I am what a guy wants and I do not want to be alone with a dissatisfied guy pissed because I will not allow or I stop something that is uncomfortable.

Gentlemen who write positive reviews are often enjoyable clients.

Nothing...it's simply a P4P experience.

If a guy is going to wear her out for a week and she knows it, it IS her business to protect her business and the customers she already has lined up from her being taken out of commission.  

Personally I don't care what the business "prefers." I care about what I prefer, and since I am paying $$$-$$$$$ and hour, I get to make that determination.  

There are nuances that we know about ourselves that you cannot decipher simply by looking at our website or reviews.  For example, if a woman feels sexiest with a man larger than her, and a gentleman writes and says he's 5'4" and 110 lbs, she has every right to say "I don't think we're a good match".  She might feel totally self-conscious around a small guy and it would reflect on her performance.  I could come up with many more examples of incompatibility, but that is all for now.

I'm not stupid, I know where bad reviews comes from - unhappy customers and unhappy ladies. One of the most important things I can do for not only the guys but myself and my business is to make sure that we are a good match, and that I am personally happy at the office.  

No gal I know of demands board posting/review history.  

But since you may not perform well when a munchkin shows up...perhaps take that accelerated class on "How to pretend to like someone".

Gets an email/s from you and says the same thing just by the tone of your email/s? I have done that countless times as the "fit" in conversation was off and I did not want to be alone with them.

I see it went well  LOL

And they don't need a "good fit." That's bullshit as you well know. They need a good review. LOL

I'm sure it's as creative and artistic as some of the glowing reviews written by johns for the benefit of women just like you.

Well...most that I know don't ask for them.  But seems a few here think they somehow are meaningful so THEY can decide if it's a fit  LOL

But this is also nonsense...on nearly every point you're trying to make.

We can agree to disagree. And as for you determining what actually goes on, well there is two people in that room and even if she sucked 6 cocks bare before you show up, she can still plop a cover on yours.  

But I have never had one turn me down for not providing a handle. EVER. So the point is moot HT.

Both of them do the same nonsense...."it's my way or the highway".

I am merely stating that a gal can not bitch about info that isn't provided to her if she didtn ask to begin with.

Please share with the class on how you know who anyone has contacted....I'm quite curious.

I don't demand anything but references.

I am concerned, heavily concerned that I am not alone with a guy who wants to pound me into the mattress for 59 minutes roughly because he feels it is his right.  

Nothing new there. If a guy is pounding you, tell him to stop.  

And read that you won't provide such info if asked.  

Got to love the cherry pickers. She did you  favor. Move on and count your blessings.

You sure do seem quite obsessed over the reviews  LOL

At least it would have some value to me.

Or did I say that it is my duty, as a business woman, to provide a good service?

No a review history is not required in order to get a date, but if a guy hands it over and she finds him unsuitable, then is it not her right to refuse him? If we agree on that fine.

So you're saying that unless she explicitly requires board handles for screening, she's wrong to reject a request if she discovers his handle during the course of her screening?

And you are now heading into total WK territory.  Perhaps you should name a hooker or two so that they'll recognize your brave efforts on their behalf?

It is just a question of semantics at this point. I don't get "asked" though HT, and that's the point.

you have boundaries and desires as does a hooker, how about we both follow what works for us and leave others to their own choices and be done with it.  

The simplicity of the argument escapes them.  

Do I need them to enjoy my dining experience too? :

Now we have tricks telling us what criteria we can use to refuse a date. Does it matter if it was scores? It could have been his tone or one word he said, the bottom line is they both dodged a bullet for different reasons.  

Well now we know why she dodged this creature. Oh and he doesn't have to be good looking, he is possibly hideous. All he has to do is have  money and that should allow him full court access to whatever he wants right?

In all of my years of whoring, the only once has a client "shown up...paid...and left".  (This particular gent had to cancel late and dropped the fee off anyways.

Wouldn't that be a "One-cott?" Or is it "No-cott?"  

I was told once that my reviews were all over the place.
I can only say that each review has to stand on it's own merit.
Some will be better and some worse if one tells the truth about each experience.
Just my 2...

I guess you'll just have to work on your attitude then  LOL

I see on your TER page that you have a one and two hour rate.

...rather than take on every offer they have time for. Sessions are objectively better when there's an easy rapport and mutual pleasure.  

While I won't speak for Jack....I know exactly how I operate.

First of all, there's very little I'm not interested in trying. And, I honesty don't particularly care how we spend our time. You wanna look into my eyes? Oggle away, baby. You wanna talk about some filthy stuff? Go for it! Wanna snuggle? Do something high energy? I don't care. That variety is exactly why I'm here. So, a review isn't going to give me much of anything useful, as I prefer to work with what I'm given. Now, will I read them and take them into account? Sure. But if he wants something more than I can generally read from him when he walks in, something out of the norm, he's probably going to mention it.  

If a lady has a notion in her head that we will not be a good fit, and has made the determination that she doesn't want to meet, then so be it.  This hasn't happened to me yet, but if it did, I would just move along.  It doesn't even matter if I think her conclusion is brilliantly insightful or based on out-in-space nutty logic (if she gave me the full reason).  A big part of the enjoyment of dates for me is the vibe - and when there are so many great opportunities out there which can start off with a positive vibe, I don't "get" the idea of trying to twist a lady's arm to have sex with me if she doesn't want to.  And despite all the somewhat cold "this is just a business" speak that goes on - this really is A LOT different from all other service businesses.  Who a lady has sex with is always - and should always - be her decision based on comfort level, EVEN IF with things like TER and P411 we guys can be lulled into thinking of this as any other internet shopping we might do - like Amazon - and that this comes with all the same rights to not be refused service.  This just isn't the same thing as that.  Not at all.

That comment is quite the outlier.  Most women seem to bitch about the guys for a multitude of reasons.  But yet, need to see them so they aren't evicted.

No matter what the overall impression this thread might give, the vast majority of guys aren't in it to see X body on X day, they're in it to have a good time, and will appreciate if you let them know they won't

I don't recall saying that...but it does tell me more about you.

No reason to share my "stories" with anyone else either.

So fierce, you!  But you left out the "fuck" part in your initial analysis.  

Bankrupt?

I turn people down every day for information I didn't outright ask for. So do others. The only thing worse than making up random "rules" for each argument you try to have is making up random rules that are not and will clearly never be followed.

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A hooker can judge you on those reviews and do as she sees fit. If you don't want her to see your reviews, that is your right, just as it is a hookers right to refuse anything she feels uncomfortable with regardless of what said hooker did with the last 5 guys she saw.

THATS what it had to do with your post.  

You have been away for awhile so your posting "skills" are a bit rusty. LOL

And said everything else was fine, just couldn't get over her face. C'mon! The chick made him cum at least twice and he had a great experience. He said he was into faces more than body. OK...  

This is not McDonald's. While this is just business, it is still extremely intimate. Both sides need to feel comfortable and can reject the other for any reason. Being rejected, while annoying, is a good thing as if one is not comfortable nether is likely happy.  

But yes, women being so put off by you and others that they'll take their tits and go home is definitely worth a giggle or two. Forrrr suuuure.  

I will ask if the guy is a reviewer and then if he minds if I take look to make sure we are going to be a good fit. If he refuses, well he gets whatever I serve up within my boundaries. If that is not what he looking for, oh well. He had his chance. I don't like my time wasted nor do I want to waste a johns time and money on me if I am not going to satisfy him.

...I also think you are far from being able to definitively say whether the guy would enjoy the session with you based on the scraps of information you have to go on.  I mean, I enjoy different kinds of service, so when I contact a lady it will always indicate that I am interested in the type of service that is described in her reviews, regardless of what services I may have enjoyed with others in the past.  Now if YOUR REVIEWS do not present an accurate picture of your services and personality, then that's another issue altogether.  Also, if a lady goes into a date thinking it won't go well, I could see that being a self-fulfilling prophesy.

Up front, a lady markets to the clients she desires.

Hobbyists use reviews to select providers, why not provider using reviews to select hobbyists? Fair to me.  

As far the OP is concerned - as usual - you are right in your inimitably tactless manner.   You really are good at that.  Yes - Your handle is none of her business if you don't want it to be.  

I have never before observed anyone with your talent to state true things and really piss everybody off.  There's a radio talk show or a column in the Times in your future....