How much do you have?

You find a lady that is your type, good reviews, over twenty of them, average score of 7.

You email her with all require details that she wants from you. Then set up a date and time with her. The day comes and a hour before the time she sends a email to cancel the date with you. She does have a valid reason for cancelling with you. She reschulde the date with you. Then that day comes and she cancel again, she does few times with you.

Now my question for you is how many times do you let her cancel before you move on? Keep in mind that every time she has a valid excuse for canceling with you. She does keep in touch with you during the time frame between dates. Also she is totally your type and you truly want to see her so maybe you would give a little leave way for that reason alone.

Yes this did happen to me with a lady it took almost two months before we meet in person. I am happy that I waited for her to find the time to come for a visit with m

I'm OK with one cancellation.  Beyond that, time to move along.

There is no shortage of girls here.  Find one that isn't a drug addict please.

and she is not a drug addict. I have been seeing her now for over three months with no problem with her. Couple times she had to cancel on me but she is well worth the wait for me.

but that doesn't mean he's wrong on this.

and an average score of 7 in this age of "grade inflation" hardly makes her the belle of the ball.  

One cancellation would most likely be one too many for me. The second time, I guarantee I'd lose her number. But that's just me, I make a lousy piñata.

I hear you and I get it. For most lady's I would of gave up sooner. But she was the type of girl I was looking for when I got into this hobby. I looked every where for that type of girl and she was the only one in my area.

FYI I did see other girls during the time it took us to meet in person. I am happy that I put up with cancelling on me because she turn out to be a sweetheart of a girl and a lot fun to be with.

Each to their own everybody has a limit before they give up and move on.

I tend to be attracted by the physical but that's not sufficient to keep me interested. Reviews can be helpful but I'm not those other guys writing the review not they me -- so it's going to be a YMMV case, even when I can compare my experience with the review of a provider.

Moreover, I'm not sure "just my type" in this world is really what I'm looking for unless you put some qualifiers on that phrase. We're typically not talking long-term relationships here and that's really true for me -- that's not saying I would not pursue such an event but experience tells me that's not really going to be an option unless I win the lottery and bank a couple hundred million

That was really just a lengthy lead into my question. How long have you been doing this and when you say "just my type" are you getting all starry-eyed here. If so you're potentially leading your self down a nice smelling garden pat but it's likely to have some thorns you're going to find.

However, hard to say as you're post with a alias so....

For the last question, Why do you care what others would do. You're clearly posting that everything worked out. Are you suggesting others do the same rather than taking the approach that it's, once the fantasy layer is unveiled, just a business transaction and punctuality and commitment expected. Flip you story around -- home many times should a provider give a client for NS or forgetting to pay -- even if they pay up later for keep the books balanced?

..I will give a provider 2 times to cancel and then I move on. Maybe if my schedule was more forgiving I would be more willing to keep trying, but time is money and I just don't have the time to be dicked around, regardless of her reasons.

If it takes a week I wait a week if it takes a month I wait a month. Longest time I had to wait for a schedule to mesh was three months. If it's someone I want to see I won't move on. Sometimes the best things in life are the things that we wait for.

check back with this lady you are pursuing for availability.  Do not let this provider alter your MO though...easier said than done I know.  I have been in a similar situation.  Move on, have fun, and check back.

I can see once. I have had that happen, and the second dates I made sure I made it. I have cancelled three dates while the guys were in the parking lot.

First one: While I was puking fluorescent green into a toilet. I could barely text him. He was understanding. When we confirmed the night before the next date, he reminded me: "No rotten protein shakes tonight." lol! We ended up meeting regularly for some pretty awesome dates. Always brought coffee for me too. 😍 I did let him stay over the next time. I can't remember. He was understanding, because I booked and paid for the hotel.

Second one: There was a cop at the front desk while I was on tour. I emailed him an hour prior to his arrival that morning, but he didn't check his email. He emailed his arrival, and I asked him to call me. SO embarrassing. I left the hotel lol! We have met numerous times since. I offered a hundred bucks off, and he refused- and he even reimbursed the hotel. (That guy is awesome - please keep coming back ha ha ha)

Third one: I was at a local hotel, and there were cops throughout my floor. I didn't realize it until they all got dressed for work in the morning ha ha ha. There was some kind of conference and - while many girls would "just do it", I would have no part of that. No fucking way was I going to do it. Lost that one, unfortunately. Though if he did book again, I'd scratch off a hundie for him too.

All had booked weeks in advance too.

But - I did have a valid excuse, and I felt really bad. But if a girl keeps doing it, I would move on.  

If a girl asks me to hang out while I'm traveling, or even in town, and I move my schedule around for her (my money making, work schedule, or at this time of my life, my close family schedule,) and she cancels on me with a dumb excuse, I honestly feel "small" and unimportant. So what I do is - never agree to hang out again. Especially if I lose money on it. It just makes me feel unimportant, which is not a good feeling.

Another thing I have started doing, is if someone in my life is chronically very late when we meet, and I've gone out of my way to see them, and they really are a once in a while person - it's just rude to be late. I'm sorry. Sometimes I'm five minutes late because my shoe fell off or whatever. But if someone is always always late and it's just me and them - it's embarrassing for me if it's a public meet up. It shows everyone else at the bar or restaurant that I'm not important enough for someone else to show up on time. How can I grow a better person if I'm hanging around people who don't even get the fundamentals of mutual respect? Once, I understand. But constantly? With no excuse? Numerous times? No thanks. Being on time is one of the best ways to show someone you are EXCITED and HAPPY to see them. However - shit does happen. But numerous times gets pretty old, and everybody is replaceable.

Now, if a good friend starts doing the whole excuse thing over and over again, and it becomes a damn crap shoot trying to get schedules to align, I just can't work with them anymore. You know, as much as us women are in a "business", we are all people. Men, and women. And if either start feeling unimportant, there are plenty more looking to snatch up your business and show up every time.

In my case - if a person (any person, even a family member,) makes it extremely difficult for our schedules to line up, what I think to myself is, they're hanging out with me because they feel like they have to. So what they do is make it look like they are "trying" so they don't hurt my feelings.

I have tons and tons of people in my life that love me, and I love them. So no need to feel sorry for me. lol. Same goes with many people trying to book appointments.

I say, ask if something's up, or just find someone who will accommodate you and respect you. Better way to put it, if they seem to be trying to avoid you, let them off the hook and find a new ATF.

 
One of the things that has put this into perspective for me as of late is dealing with really close friends and family undergoing some pretty intense life situations that I am an important role in. Me being there for them is a HUGE thing. And when someone gets in the way of it, it really upsets me. I don't get upset at the person, I get disappointed with myself for not responsibly holding my world in check when others try to get in it.

And the same goes for anybody who is living this life.

I got on a tangeon. LOL

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I agree with you about the reviews and YMMV. Couple of her review was not good ones but most were.

My type is 5' 0" 95lbs a tiny little spinner.

No I am not all starry-eyed with her. I know what it is all about. I pay her to come and visit me and show me a good time then go home. I am ok with that because that is all I am looking for when I see a provider nothing more. If it would end tomorrow I will have to look for a new girl. until then I will enjoy her company, and hope that she on some level enjoy her time with me also. Over a year and thirty five plus ladies if you must know.

I am wondering on how long most people will put up with a provider cancelling on them before then move on nothing more then that. As I said each to their own. I had three ladies cancel on me at the last minute, and I never even tried to reschedule with them just because I was not that interested in meeting them. If they show up I would of enjoy their company I am sure but they cancel so I move on to the next lady.

Yep very true

Fool me once, shame on you.... fool me can't get fooled agai

also fyi the last couple times she sent me a email asking me if I wanted to see her again. She did show up on time. As I said before she is a sweetheart of a girl. If she does became more of problem I would stop seeing her for the very reason you stated.

Thank you

I will now show up late on someone because of this post. Usually happens after I vent about pet - peeves lol!

I keep pursuing other ladies until she was able to come and see me.

END OF MESSAGE

because there's "shit happening" in their lives. I think lately I am deciding in my life, that if someone starts jacking me around, I"m just going to let them off the hook, and they can get their shit together and then hang out with me. Until then, I have my own "shit happening" - good or bad, I have a life to live.

This is something I am working on at this moment - people I don't feel respected by, and part of that is the assumption I have nothing to do but twiddle my thumbs or post on TER. lol!

I can jump off of TER and in two seconds be able to help someone I love if they've fallen, or extract someone from a situation. Or give someone a cup of tea... Or save a fucking kitten. LOL. (I save kittens a lot lately lol.) I can't if I'm sitting at a restaurant waiting for someone to get their shit together and show up on time. LOL

I know right? Maybe you shouldn't! lol!

She ass you c-as-h

On your reason. If it was due to Chicago traffic then I would. But nothing else lol

In my case I was at a hotel waiting on her to stop by. So it was not a big deal if she didn't show up. I went to bed early that night. If she did show up it would of been a late night for me, plus a early morning due to work. That is why I did not have to much of a problem with her not showing up.

I did asked her on the fifth cancelation if she wanted to see me or not, and I did tell if she did not want to please tell me for I can leave her alone. She told that that she wanted to and she will make it up to me once we meet in person, Boy did she ever make it up to me.

bumped in favor of one of her regulars, or else a customer who wants an extended session.  Book two hours and she's less likely to mess with your appointment.  Then if you repeat regularly, then you become the guy she's bumping other new customers for.  Its a business, so most will run it like a business and try to maximize revenues by giving priority to their best customers.

to reschedule or did you try to contact her at any time after she cancelled?
 

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More power to her. It is her business and she will run it to suit her needs. I am good with that.

I have give her credit because of her communication before during and after the cancelation. That is one of the reason I keep in touch with her for so long. Before we meet in person, if it was not for it I would of gave up on her after the first one.

But I'm more talking about chronically late and not showing up. As a habit.

Chicago traffic, on the other hand, and those damn pedestrians and one - way - streets. Oh, boy. 😫

So with that  info my answer would be I would have given her another chance too.

Looks like it worked out for you. After a year or so you'll know for sure.

It should be case by case basis.  I  gave a lady a second chance after she cancelled. It didnt turn out well in the long run.

I had a cancellation but she offered an immediate rescheduling for the next evening.  If someone has to cancel but pushes off the next time for a week or more, sorry.  Otherwise I'd say cancelling once for a good reason is okay if the reschedule is in a few days.  Otherwise move on.  I have a list I'll never get through as it is

When I realized a few years ago that other guys were getting bumped to accommodate the time and date I wanted, I started booking farther in advance, because I didn't want to be the guy bumping others because I didn't like it when it was done to me when I was starting out.  The fact that she is initiating contact to keep you on the string for the future kind of supports that this might be the case.

Most of us would have moved on after the second cancellation, especially if they were last minute.  But if you are cool with her despite her flakiness, well...

Meet the new boss, the boss, it's the same boss, right

It's as American as baseball and apple fucking pie.

I find it hillarious that you pose a question, rant on about it, and then tell us you waited and saw the girl anyway and are glad you did.  I hope you have good luck in the future if it happens again.

reviewed she is, what extra benefits I might receive for her cancelling, and how believable her reasons are. If she is extremely professional about the whole process, then she gets the full 3 strikes.