Has anyone has had any dating or platonic relationships outside of the office with a provider or client?  If so, how has that worked out and would you recommend it?  Thank you.

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It is okay if you dating a provider only and ONLY if you don't mind she is fucking every other guy while you are working...

i will be doing exactly this shortly. gonna make her my gf hopefully. there will be a bunch of naysayers on here, jealous most likely. but there are success stories, this does happen and it can work out very well for all involved. love

No, I would not recommend it for you.

these ladies are here to make money..not fall in love..

This came up last week, but it is the rare guy that can really "date" a working girl in the biz and for him to know she is still working. I put date in parenthesis b/c some guys will fk the girl on the side and have the girl THINK they are dating, while he is hitting everything else under the sun. I dont consider that dating. lol.  

It would never work for me, but it has worked for others. It all depends on what you are looking for in a mate and a relationship. I am NOT looking for a guy who bangs random women, then comes home to kiss me. I can get that right here, and get paid for it.

But maybe that's b/c we never had sex. lol. But you're right. I dont think it works for too many people, the dating part that is. Dating is hard enough inherently w/o the extra weight of this biz being superimposed on it. Makes it very, very difficult.  

I've been "dating" a provider for a few months, I plan on ending it, not because of MY jealousy, but because of HERS. Until recently, I have abstained from seeing other women because we were in a relationship. The problem is, she doesn't believe me and the green eyed monster is driving me nuts. I've told her that if she doesn't knock it off, we're done, and mentally I am already done with the relationship, if I wanted a nagging wife, I'd go get married again.

The point is, everyone is different. I have dated several providers over the years, both retired and active, and have had even more platonic relationships. Everyone of them had their own unique set of challenges, just like any other relationship between a man and a woman.

I think we are all guilty of projecting, what works for you might not work for anyone else, and the same goes for me. I don't believe in cut and fast rules, people and situations change. I have had a six year relationship with one young lady that has gone from provider/client to boss/employee, to SD/SB to real BF/GF and is now something along the lines of Friends with benefits. Of all the various things we have been to each other over the years, I think I like where we are now, zero pressure, no expectations. When we get together, it's just for our mutual pleasure.

And it honestly never bothered you when she was out on a "date" with another dude? If so, I think you are in a very, very small minority. My question for you is this. If you abstained from seeing other women, you must have had feelings for this girl. And if you had feelings for her, how does that not lend itself to jealousy? Would you quanitify your jealousy as "absolutely zero" or so small as to big insignificant?

That is, if you wish to continue seeing providers, there's some chance she will be cool with that.

That's been the case with me the last 7 years, and it's sort of a case of getting to eat my cake and have it too.

As long as you are cool with her job, and don't turn into Captain Save-a-hoe, then it might work.

Of course even in relationships where neither person is in the hobby, there are issues to be overcome, so maybe you should focus more on those kinds of issues before even looking into the provider/client dating issue.

I wouldn't rule out trying again with the right person.  The problem is that finding the right person is exceedingly hard.  Not impossible, but very unlikely.

I can't imagine it ever working out.  Some of the providers I see get jealous when I see other providers.  They cock block and dissuade me from seeing specific providers.  And I'm not even dating them.  

I have a friend who is convinced that for the past 10 years of her being a provider, that her BF never cheated on her lol. I would never dare ask that of someone, when I was out doing it, but for some...this is just a job that does not involve real feelings, so that is the justification they use when expecting a mate to be faithful.  

She couldn't take Santa's rubbing her face in it all the time, I guess.

like to use sarcasm to bemoan the fact that we are repeating subjects so often?

Sort of like re-frying some re-fried beans.  When we digest them, it all smells the same, n'est-ce pas?

is a terrible idea.  It's a freakin minefield of trouble.  That is the OP's question & the answer.  Guys have done it...  there are boat loads of issues.  It seldom works out for any period of time.  There are enough exceptions...  members who post here...  that we can not say 'never works'.   If you are truely available & (after doing a search on this board to see the posts on this topic) if you still want to go there, then you are an adult.
I've never civie dated a provider but I have a couple who have let me see into their non-provider world...  the personna they sell to us is way prettier than their real life.

The relationship progressed beyond frequent p2p sex to actually caring about each other.  We shared some personal details aout our lives and i felt very comfortable with her.  She was fucking me without fees and I was loving life.  She was about as close to my all time fantasy as anyone has ever come.

but I am able to compartmentalize it, the same as her.

I know she isn't doing this because she likes it, she has a limited window in which to make the money that she needs to make. If I were to simply give it to her, I would be attempting to buy her love which I have no desire to do. I know she is with me because she wants to be with me, as I have told countless guys (suckers) over the years here, you don't know how she really feels until you take the envelope away.

Now if we are able to work past her jealousy and we end up staying together, at some point I will help her transition into some other occupation, and that means help her financially if need be, but It's going to have to be her idea, I am not going to force her, or any other woman I might get involved with, to quit what she is doing to satisfy me.

I will admit though, if things ever get really serious, I would expect her to want to quit, but I would want it to be her idea, not me insisting.