I was reading a review that stated the provider
was one month pregnant.  It made me wonder what
people here think about that.

Should a provider keep working while pregnant?

And if so, how long?

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I say no if she intends to have it. STDs can screw up a developing fetus pretty bad, and the risk isn't worth it. I would decline a "date" with a pregnant provider.

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Speaking for myself, and then going further....

Well the sex itself is one thing, but dealing with the agitation of booking clients who might write demeaning reviews is yet another story completely divorced of being pregnant which can make the burden more difficult if not a no go.

I have been pregnant and was even more highly sexual, as I tend to be around aunt flo's visits - I have the utmost bedroom passion,  but then at these times I just cannot attend to the needs of my consort when it comes to the subtle extras of entertaining... the extra massage, the entertaining on other levels...so I would get a 4 in a review (she just laid there)

Now as for other situations....

We LA people had someone on the LA Board (Raquel) who is a beloved lady and recently had a baby.  She was providing during her pregnancy.  I cannot speak for her about the level on which she interacted.   Oh and btw, there is a market for lactating providers as well.  

On the other hand, think this one through.  Are women supposed to NOT have sex while pregnant?  When I was pregnant I had some of the best sex...I know that two of my colleagues (aerobics teachers) were teaching & exercising  up until 8 months and it  made their childbearing much better.

Ever hear of gyrotonics?  Oh my gosh,






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Pregnancy is not a disease!

Pregnancy can be very, VERY attractive. Some women can actually get more stimulated because of the physiology of pregnancy.

I can visualize a sexual encounter with a mom to be as a fertility rite. Worshiping at an altar of the ultimate power. The ultimate power of life and death. I get to reveal a little of my submissive side.

I've always wondered why they call sex with a virgin....deflowering... when in my humble opinion, a woman who is having a baby is blooming.

Yes, a provider can and IMHO should continue to push.
And until the 30-32 week. Of course that late you gotta spoon!

Now THAT's an E Ticket ride!



TET

To each is own, but me personally would not work at all if I was pregnant and intended to keep the baby!  But, I don't knock anyone who does, I too had the best sex when I was pregnant, so go figure!

Always,
Sade Nickole

It is bending.  Did you intend to keep the baby?  Did you love him?  Were you horney?

all of that.

It is an indepth question , maybe not for the board.  a private decision. I've been there.  Good god.  it was hard, but luckily i was not providing at that time....it was 8 years ago when this happened....

It is bending.  Did you intend to keep the baby?  Did you love him?  Were you horney?

all of that.

It is an indepth question , maybe not for the board.  a private decision. I've been there.  Good god.  it was hard, but luckily i was not providing at that time....it was 8 years ago when this happened....

It is bending.  Did you intend to keep the baby?  Did you love him?  Were you horney?

all of that.

It is an indepth question , maybe not for the board.  a private decision. I've been there.  Good god.  it was hard, but luckily i was not providing at that time....it was 8 years ago when this happened....

Isn't he gonna grow up being neurotic after being repeatedly being smacked in the head by a baseball bat?

whatever you want with your life and time, but not with the life of another.  There is something saintly and sacred about motherhood.  I just wouldn't.

I have worked through two pregnancies doing S&M and FBSM.

However, I don't do f/s, BJ, DATY or anything that would be a danger to the baby. And I didn't take on any new clients during that time so no danger of meeting someone scary or unclean, only saw a handful of old and trusted clients who didn't mind my changing figure.

Now, working while lactating is another story. I breastfed my daughter for 16 months and worked that whole time, this time around (my son was born last month) I will most likely be lactating for at least another year. I don't see a problem with sharing that for clients who are interested - and MANY of them are.

MM

I'd like to see a provider noticible far along, just once....


Just a matter of curiousity.

I agree with you.

I feel bad when I hear that a provider has no other recourse or resources than to keep working in this field while pregnant. What a sad, desperate situation.

It's no secret that I WAS one (a pregnant provider).  However, I did not make a habit of providing full service while pregnant; just a matter of personal preference, but I DID have requests.

For me, it was just overall bad timing that I happened to be working as a provider when I became pregnant (not by a client BTW).Finding legit employment was difficult because of my pre-existing condition, so I did what I had to do to pay the bills.

I have no regrets, and through the experience, I made some wonderful friends in the TER community. My son is healthy and  happy; though conceived by accident...he is not a mistake. And believe it or not...it made me realize that MOST of my clients are more than just horny guys looking to get laid...they're actually GOOD human beings with generous hearts, emotions, and caring thoughts. Who'd a thunk it?  

Thanks guys! : )

Maybe it's not sad or desperate. Maybe she actually likes her work and wants to continue doing it. I'm a little tired of the stereotype that providers do this work because they aren't qualified to do anything else and/or they make the decision to provide out of desperation. Come on guys, there have been enough discussions on this board and others reiterating this point that I think it's a shame that it continues to come up, but that's another issue.
Since I don't have children, have never been pregnant, and don't intend to be anytime soon, I don't know what I would do. I do believe that if a provider is mindful of her health and safety, as well as the health and safety of her fetus, and makes a thoughtful decision about what she wants to do, I see no problem with it.
And as someone said earlier in this discussion, there is a niche for pregnant providers. I see ISO's all the time regarding visibly pregnant and/or lactating providers.
So much like any other provider, if a client doesn't want to see a pregnant provider, he doesn't have to...but if he does, well, I hope he has a great time! xxx Octavia

Glad to see you and your son are doing well. We wish you all the best!

To those ladies who found sex to be even better when pregnant....would you please tell us if the physical sensations were different..stronger..or was it emotional/psychological?

BTW the offer of all manner of clothes still stands- the SO has declared the garage must be emptied- and paying for clothes that will last less than three  months at a time is insane!

But you are probably a Hannah Anderson regular...

I've been pregnant (before I got into the biz). It's hard to explain to someone who has never been pregnant, but your outlook does change (or at least it did for me and other pregnant women I talked to.) I did feel special, "saintly and maternal." People treated me with the greatest respect and care for my feelings and comfort.

Whle pregnant, you have these tremendous strong (postive) feelings, and you want to be the best mother possible even though the baby isn't born yet. You quit smoking and alcohol use, you take vitamins and get regular check-ups.

So, with all this healthy living, I would have felt terrible to work in an illegal field that is looked down as being dishonorable by most of America (because they are not part of it and really don't understand the hobby).

Most providers of my acquitance DO quit when they get pregnant and they find work elsewhere (like retail sales or secretarial work).  One girl who worked throughout did so out of desperation because she was not very smart, never finished high school, and had no other skills besides prostituion. Her pimp/boyfriend didn't work either (he lived off her money), and he couldn't be bothered to get a job to help out. Very sad and very desperate. That's what I'm talking about.