I would be interested on what both providers and hobbyists would say to this.  Earlier in the day I was texting with a provider I have seen several times, although not in the past year.  We had very good sessions previously.  As it turns out, she was in the area, reached out and contacted me to let me know she was near by and wanted to know if I was interested in getting together.  We found a mutual time and date that worked.  As a final thought I asked her if I could request she dress a certain way when I arrived.  I didn't ask her to be naked.  But I was thinking about a minimalist approach to her clothing.  Before I could even request what I wanted she replied that it would need to be classy and nice.  I don't have a problem with classy and nice in general, but she has a great body which I haven't seen for awhile so I had some other ideas.  And since I am the one paying I thought it was not unreasonable to have some input into how she would be dressed.  Nope, she made it quite clear that she controlled what she would be wearing, and my opinion or request would not be honored.  So the question is this: was I being unreasonable to request a specific type of clothing?  Was she being unreasonable to disregard my request and tell me she wasn't interested in my request?  I just thought it was rather inflexible on her part.

It's reasonable to make a clothing request, but it's also reasonable for a provider to decline. She may have an appointment or other prior commitment right before or after you that requires classy attire.

First, It's totally reasonable for her to decline any of your requests.  

...I don't do BCD clothing requests. It's largely because I don't do any kind of role play or dress up - I'm me and that's what you get. There's really not anything more to it than that.

I ask her to greet me in high heels and lipstick, nothing else.  Never been turned down, it never cost me anything extra, and no awkward conversation.  Problem solved.  

If, and I want to be clear, if that's what you asked for then she's a nut for not providing that for you. Most or all traveling ladies surly must carry that along. If you requestd a school girl or a nun outfit, I can see her telling you no way Jose.
Sounds to me that she must be that elusive, "Elite Provider"....in her mind.

...then I can't see her having any issues with a clothing request. If she's cutting her other obligations timing so tight as to make that an issue then she's got bigger problems than just a wardrobe request.

sounds like you are paying for the Wife Experience, not the GFE.

It is VERY important to me what a woman is wearing when I see her.  So I ALWAYS ask after the date is booked and I've been screened if it's OK for me to make a clothing request.  I have NEVER been told no.  If I were told what you were told I would break the date.

I figure the gentleman is paying, so I do whatever I can in my power within reason to accommodate his clothing request. I want to fulfill his fantasy and make sure he has a pleasurable time.

Perhaps I'm blind, and no I'm not reading every single word of every ad I check out, but I don't recall noticing any providers prominently flashing an extensive wardrobe (yes, I've seen a few where one or two sets of lingerie, etc...are displayed, but I'm talking a full set).  Perhaps this could be a strong marketing angle, escorts can display their variety of clothing and underwear sets and hobbyists can make requests?  

Now to further your point, how would you feel if a potential client asked for something you did not have, and then when you could not fulfill the request posted about it here, complaining and calling you "unaccommodating"?

Some girls post photos in outfits they don't own. Other women have the wardrobe to accommodate your requests and have no problem doing so. I love that. Some girls agree to wear what you requested and don't. It is such a mixed bag I rarely ask for anything more specific than stockings and heels, or a garder belt.  

Well you did not mention in your post what it was that you were requesting her to wear?Is this a touring lady or a local lady?I can't say if she was being unreasonable since you did not mention what you wanted her to wear.
I have guys who have booked appts mention they have a clothing request.I will accommodate them as long as it is nothing extreme.Most guys will mention heels,stockings,garters,maybe a certain color of lingerie,jeans,or a dress.

Two band-aids and a cork.  

I've had plenty of girls say, "I couldn't find that outfit so I hope this one's OK."  That's fine, but at least she tried and didn't say no.

It's not unreasonable to make clothing requests.  Most providers have something on the websites about clothing requests.  So unless you were asking her to wear stripper clothes to a fancy restaurant then I don't think it was unreasonable.  

have only brought certain wardrobe items along with her.  

I can't help but think that the details have been purposefully omitted by OP in order to save face.

If I've seen a provider before, and there's something I'd like to see her in,  I just buy it. It can be as simple as bra, panties and heels, or more complex such as jackets and boots and stockings, etc, , but I get the color I want, the texture, and she always looks great in it.

I do not honor "minimal" clothing requests (i.e. very short skirts, super low cut tops, etc) if I'm doing outcall. It's funny how guys value discretion so highly and yet would want me looking like a whore walking up to the door. However, I wouldn't mind changing at the location only if bringing the clothes was convenient for me.  

Yes your paying so it seems she should accomodate and when i get simple requests like thigh highs,the color red,secretary,etc i will do my best.

Afterall, you're the one who's paying for her service, and in this hobby wardrobe is a very important service detail that can't be disregarded. It may be the very thing that triggers a more intense arousal, especially if the client is into CFNM. I think she was being totally unreasonable to think it was all about how she felt, and that's the surest way for her to lose business, especially when word starts to spread. It's her body as long as we're not paying for it.

We're paying enough, we don't need to be paying for wardrobe, and we don't need elitists like u telling us, "ok, don't, and just be happy with whatever she has on"  (I know BTW, obviously have no clue if you're actually an elitist, just throwing it in for effect).  

In my case I want the ladies I see to be wearing a smile, and nothing else. My donation covers that just fine. lol

I am sorry but I have to totally agree with Abbi. I simply will not dress in public like a whore. I am happy to dress like one in private.

be right more often and I'll get better at it. lol

for any number of reasons. Maybe she doesn't own what you want (in which case offering to buy it might work), she may have other engagements that day that require different dress, your request might be more of a fetish than she is comfortable with. Guys ask for some pretty specific and sometimes bizarre things.

..... without all the specific details, it's hard to say who was being "unreasonable".  

I like wearing what I think looks good on me. There are guys that request I wear things I've worn in photo shoots and that's annoying because for one I don't keep those clothes and number two they can be uncomfortable or impossible to get into alone. I need another person to lace up a corset from the back. Wearing thigh highs looks great in a picture but they don't stay up in person so they look bad. I would prefer to wear what I like. I don't feel like being uncomfortable for dates. However if a guy BUYS me something to wear, that I can actually fit, I will wear it if he insists.

You were not unreasonable to ask. And she is in her right to decline your request. After all, it was a REQUEST, not a demand. That's not how it works.