There is no reason you should feel obligated to continue with the hobby if it is not satisfying to you.

Find other interests and don't beat yourself up over this.  It's supposed to be fun, remember?

In time your interest may come back and then you can decide what you want to do.

In other words, don't force it.

My libido does not seem to be what it used to be period.  I do not know if there is a change in my body over the last few years or what.  I am 56 years old.   I feel self-conscious because I have to practically tear my dick off my body just to cum.

Or could it be that I am wanting a session to be just as graphic as a XXX porn movie, only to have my senses dulled by a condom and a less than sexually graphic performance that I am expecting.

Maybe it is because I am unemployed right now too, and I just have other things on my mind besides sex.  Whatever the case may be, I am thinking of tossing my hat it on meeting with women until I feel that my performance is studly enough to make them happy.

have your testosterone level checked

 I'm not sure how you can still afford sessions if you're unemployed, unless you have a nice pension  rolling in.  I think you have way too much time on your hands now, sitting at home & watching porn.  Once you find a job, your confidence will come back.  Watching a lot of porn can result in 'porn creep', where a guy can no longer have sex & his only outlet is the voyeuristic pleasure of watching other people do it.  

You've kind of fallen into a death spiral here & you need to break out of it, so:
(1) Find a job
(2) Stop watching porn

Good luck, --z

physical or psychological that's causing your problem.  Go get checked out by a doc and at least eliminate the physical part.
Second, if what you want is "a session to be just as graphic as a XXX porn movie," do your homework, find a provider who can do that, then tell her what you want.  It ain't that hard.  I had one do that for me two days ago.
Third, why are you worrying about making anyone happy but yourself?  The provider is there to make you happy, not the other way around.  Find the right one, tell her what you want and let her do her job.  Simple, huh?

Performance anxiety can be aggravated by the time limit of a session. I bet if you search the EH archives you'll find some helpful advice on how to deal with this perceived pressure to "make them happy."

Time to stop feeling sorry for yourself; get up and get some exercise.  Nothing is better for your libido than a run or a few hours in the gym.  Also, stop rubbing that androgel on your nuts; it does not increase you blood testosterone to any significant degree.  Instead, go for the direct route and shoot about 500 mg of testosterone cypionate in your buttocks once a week for 10 weeks!  Just kidding,  go see your doctor (urologist or endocrinologist) for help.  

Limit your masturbation.  Men often condition themselves to orgasm through manual stimulation and find it hard to achieve orgasm with a partner, especially through intercourse.  No one is going to know *exactly* what pace/pressure/technique/spot to manually get you off - at least not better than you know it yourself.  By masturbating too often, you limit your ability to get release from anyone/any act other than masturbation.  Same goes for chicks using vibes.

Good discussion and lots of good advice here.  I am going to quit contacting women unless I am in the mood.  It is the best answer for right now.