For the latest on "Tayla" of Chicago.

We all wish her well.

not that i mind reading inconclusive back and forth about somebody who needs to find someone to take care of their dog so they can ... oh, it's not worth going into.

but "just another john" thinks this is pretty important stuff, this inconclusive recursive soap opera, and since he couldn't get staff to keep the topic AT THE TOP OF THE PAGE, he'll just repost the topic every few days, asking, "hey, what ever happened to that topic about the topic about that girl who somebody knew in chicago who ..." oh, never mind.

why am i thinking about the emails that go around about the little boy with cancer, and if you send in lots of emails he'll get better? isn't that a very old hoax? aren't there a lot of hoaxes going around on the internet about people in need, send money, send emails, post get well messages?

i have a nose, and it's twitching.

I'm going to kill myself, but first I'll post a message about it on several discussion boards.

At a certain point, giving a person the attention they're trying to extort is also unhealthy.

Sometimes the most compassionate thing you can do is tell someone to shut the hell up and get over it.

She is now in the hands of some real-life people. The board has done all that it can do.

This is the life she chose and if she dosen't like it she should change it...Killing herself is the cowards way out!!!

I agree whole heartedly with Riker.  Compassion and help has been offered.  Strangers have gone out of their way to give a helping hand.  It is now up to her to deal with this privately.

We need to move on to other things.

Lauren

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Echoing others' sentiment, it is time to let it go.  After all, we are just spectators at this point.

From her message on the previous thread, she was talking with someone and is dealing with her problem one day at a time.

The situation is like someone in an accident on a freeway.  Some of us notified the authority and some of us stopped and offered help.  After things get stabilized, there is no point in being a gawker and intruded further into someone’s personal life.


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Clearly you are both sweet, compassionate and balanced. I'm impressed.

riker

I think for the most part most of you are right although I think some of you stated it better than others.  If this little gal read a couple of the posts in this thread it could of been the catalyst to pull the trigger.  I wouldn't be 20 again for anything and this is about how old this gal is---not a lot of whole life experiences to draw from at this tender age.  As far as a scam I never heard anyone pleading for us to come out of pocket with cash---just outreach--outreach takes on numerous forms but a scam---I don't beleive it was---if you did I wouldn't have even wasted my time responding than.  There was never an indication for sure that her troubled feelings stemmed from being a provider--it was actually though it had nothing to do with it. So if your tired of hearing about (hope you never hit a snag and need friends to stand by you through bizarre outbreaks of behaviour even when it drags on)ignore the thread and read on.  If anything I believe she felt quite good possibly about being a provider and that is why her call for help ended up here.  I think she had met some positive folks and maybe seen some positive posts and felt a kinship.  Funny how people can look at the same thing and not realise their could be countless explanation to the very complex human behaviour.  Kind of on the lines is the cup half full or is it half empty.

today's new york times, front page, describes several people who made up stories about 9/11 simply to get attention, not to get money. a "scam" is any con for personal benefit.

yes, friends are great -- anonymous respondents to public national discussion boards are not "friends." they are not even "acquaintances." i am not a person who can help, i am lines of text on your computer screen.

the psychological needs of a specific individual should be addressed by her immediate friends, family and qualified mental health workers. a cry for help, and a cry for attention, are two different things.

your comparison is poor and I believe you missed the intent of my post---

Easy for you to say "get a grip". You weren't where I was a few weeks ago. Maybe you're a stronger person than I am, but I don't appreciate your comment, not knowing anything about how I was feeling.

I don't know who the gentleman above is. And I also don't appreciate your implications that I'm running a scam. But I will tell you this, I was indeed very upset a couple of weeks ago, more than you know. I don't care if you believe me or not, you don't know me. But I will never again tell strangers the way I feel, that I can promise you. So you don't have to worry about hearing about what I'm going through anymore(at least from me).

I don't even feel comfortable telling friends how I feel.

I feel a little better now, but I'm still unsure about my future. I'm still trying to think things through. Thanks for asking.

I did meet a lot of positive people here who offered their help and support. I realized there were some people here who were at one time worse off than I am by the stories they sent me, so I'm going to try to stick around. It is still hard, I keep getting discouraged easily, but I believe I can get through it.

Having tragedy befallen on my family recently and being a previous victim of depression, I can only tell you that there are always good and bad things in life; it all depends on what you are focusing on.  It is much better to look at the bright side.

The event of 9/11 ruined my friends’ travel business; but now she and her husband grew closer and spend more times together.  My dropping out from graduate school probably limits my career potentials but it opened up a whole new chapter of my life and makes my life fuller and more vibrant.  The failure of starting up a business earlier led me to refocus on myself; I lost 20+ lbs, become a hobbyist once again and overall, have the time of my life.

I am getting close to 40 but I feel like I am only 25.  There are lots of places I want to visit (Prague, St. Peterberg, China, Alaska and Greece), lots of things I want to do (wall climbing, horse riding, skydiving, marathron), lots of movies I want to watch (Matrix 2, 3; Lord of the Rings 2, 3; The Hulk), a number of languages I want to learn (Japanese, Spanish) and lots of ladies I want to meet (Playmate Ashley, Belle De Jour, Miami Companions and other Montreal Girl Friends).  Some of these need lots of time and money; others only need efforts and determination.  I am looking forward to meet new friends and expand my horizon.  There are too many good things in life to dwell on the sorrows and let time slip by.

Take care and have fun.

Hey , I got ya thinking, right?? Sometimes when your depressed and someone pisses you off you snap out of it or you work harder to figure out what you have to do.. Sometimes its overwelming (sp) but you learn to take one step at a time..

You seem to think this is a joke, but it isn't to me.