It drives me f'ing crazy. It's like a stream of consciousness core dump. Like she has reached the blue screen of death. I am not a f'ing dump reader lol. Nobody should be expected to endure it.

I adore a woman with whom I can pass companionable silence. Where speech is a practical and economical matter, whether about the mundane, the practical, or genuine *communication*, or an act of intimacy.

But it is not overused. No wonder so many men develop situational deafness, and so many women get shriller and more insistent about being "listened to".

If she'd cut back on the quantity and improve the quality, maybe it would happen LOL

My absolute #1 deal breaker in personal relationships is *chatter*.  Good Lord.....

You know, I even fired the girl who cuts my hair. The scissors were going a mile a minute and so was her mouth. Then to top it off, she would go from one subject to another, then back again.

Then I hate it when you take them out to eat and they are non stop. One time a waiter came over and asked her if she didn't like the food. I was already nearly finished.

I won't even get into the chatty providers aside from saying "I have no psychiatric training" Please don't treat me like a shrink.

with her mouth full

seriously, I can tune it out for an hour while pounding her. My tool could care less. And I smile inwardly, knowing that I won't have to listen to it after the appointment is up. And sometimes what some of these women - especially the young and inexperienced ones - have to say, is really entertaining.....

have you not figured it out yet. They are women. They want to feel something before they have sex with you

Many ladies who chatter –which is another word for “communication” - incessantly are vibrant, alive, and good natured. They usually have wide interests and display that by making a comment about everything.

     That the lady would chatter to you all is a gift showing that she feels comfortable in your presence. Rather than be annoyed, perhaps it is time for self-evaluation. Have your interests grown so narrow that what is important to her seems like drivel to you? Are you now actually measuring her talk in terms of as quality and quantity? Have your relationships withered so badly that you’ve forgotten the joy of simply talking about nothing with someone you like?

       It’s the reverse situation that is the real problem. Beware the morose, introverted, and taciturn companion. As Bob Dylan wrote in his classic breaking-up song, “we never did too much talking anyway.”  When she has little to say to you, that’s when you should become concerned.

Yes chatter can be annoying but,you are right,one must remember it can be comforting and compainuable

that *is* conversation, and not an incessant stream of inanity.

"conversation" - purposeful speech, aimed at conveying thoughts, ideas, opinions.

And when there is nothing of the moment to "converse" about, how about just *being* together.

I love a philosophical conversation, a friendly debate, an exchange of ideas, with someone with whom I am intimate.

But a constant stream of chatter about anything and everything and nothing at all....

no thank you...

At that point, it is not a creative thing or an act of "sharing" but an act of devaluing me to the status of an inanimate object lol

As long as it's not fueled by anxiety. As long as I'm interested in what she has to say, and there's not something else I'd rather be doing, it's fine with me. But, I do agree, that being with a woman that's just as comfortable with silence as she is with talking is very refreshing.

the relationships that I would rank as the best I have ever enjoyed, including my current lady faire, have been with women who were more do-ers than talkers. Practical minded. Intellectual and capable of vigorous debate indeed but not prattlers. Not verbal-time-wasters.

women with whom a glance, a touch, eye contact held forever , certain gestures and movements, were the conversational currency of our relationships.

Chatterers never make it past the first date.

I don't like wasting my time getting my hair cut to begin with, and I don't want it to take any longer because s/he has a lot to say about things I could care less about. Though I use to see an add where a woman cut hair while topless. I can imagine I might have had a little more patience with her. I always regretting not giving that a whirl.

I generally don't mind, as long as the incessant chatter does not involve the frequent mention of trendy, mindless, pretentious, quasi-artistic nonsense.

Actually, it's a test: how able are you to tune her out and still be able to respond appropriately when she gives it a rest and allows you to get in a word edgewise?  and to respond in a way which does not piss her off?

I was raised with four sisters, and many extended family adult females, and got lots of practice with this at an early age.

Just make it a game, it's way more entertaining than soduku, crossword puzzles and acrostics, and the practical value cannot be overestimated.

Question : is a chattering woman the counterpart to the male who practice stoic silence?  Is it possible that many women find that as annoying as you find chatter?

Women are relational by nature.

I used to complain about(still do sometimes)coming home and enduring the barrage of 'tell me about your day' crap. It bugged the jeepers out of me until i realized that she spent most of her day changing diapers and "rewinding Barney for the 18th time". I was INTERESTING to her(poor thing).

in fact it seems to be antithetical to anything of relationship value. It actually functions like a non-permeable membrane. It shuts of genuine relationship and substitutes a barrage of words for any real meaningful communication. It drives a wedge between men and women and promotes communication breakdown.

I fucking love it! Haven't done it in 14 years, and I miss the shit out of it.

Coke and sex? Ohh fuck! I gotta make a phone call. I'll be back...

After all, one of your ATF's was perhaps the biggest chatterbox this hobby has ever known. Thankfully she has retired again, for the 6th time.

Oh, my bad. I thought you said 'RATIONAL by nature'.

Whoa. Dodged a bullet there...!

pshhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh........


when they deflate....I love to talk!  My guys love to hear it...we have something called:


F U N!    


Next time, get those ear covers-Noise cancelling earbob deals... the rampers use at the airport..You will look goofy, but you won't here a fucking thing!  


Trust me, I worked with LOUD airplanes...... kiss..
LOL Take care

Too bad they can't be silent fuck dolls, huh?

Class shows itself in many ways....or the lack thereof.

"Words are very unnecessary.  They can only do harm." - Depeche Mode