I've been seeing a provider for a little over a year.  We see each other 2 times a month for several hours at a time  She works for an agency.  We seem to get along great and she says she "really" enjoys being with me.  I've asked if we could possibly go on a "real" date and have asked for her phone to text but she said she can't go against her agency.

and actions speak much louder than words, If she wanted to pursue a "real" relationship with you, she would have done it by now. You've done all you can, or at least all that you should. You put it out there that you are interested, she can either take it or leave it. Apparently she has decided to "leave it"

and while I am not a provider, I do have a lot of experience in this, having dated many providers, including a few that worked for agencies.

My advice, if you still want to see her professionally at least, is to drop it. If you persist in pushing this, she will most likely drop you as a client as well. Every hookers nightmare is a guy who falls in love and won't take no for an answer, do you really want to be looked at as a stalker? Well that's the road you are headed on. Why put her in a position to either have to lie to you to spare your feelings, or tell you the truth that you obviously don't want to hear?

Don't mess with a good thing. You get the best part of her without having to listen to the bullshit or do the honey do list.

Enjoy the sex and forget about seeing her off the clock.  If you push too hard you will wind up with neither.

Sorry to tell you that but it is the way it is here for most. Sure she probably does enjoy being with you instead of some total stranger but that is a lot different than her wanting to have anything close to a real relationship with you and probably any other guy she meets while escorting and more that likely her agency does have rules about OTC time but even if she was indy it probably would not be any different. If she wanted to just spend civie time with you then she would have brought it up to you.

Even when she has been seeing you for a while, she doesn't really know you or know what intentions you have with her. Eventually she may go independent (normal course of action for the majority of ladies in the industry). If she truly wants to pursue a nice "friendship" with you, (not a relationship, most of us don't want a boyfriend), let her make the first move.
Nothing worst than mixing lust with genuine feelings.... In the meantime.. Enjoy her company!!

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from time to time these posts come up. comments are made but we never know what becomes of the situation.The reason is hobbyists learn after some time that she really didn't "like" them after all and are afraid to admit it.

"Perhaps, and hopefully there's some truth to that"

I had to stop seeing a client because he wanted to go out on a real (unpaid) date with me...and got upset when I turned him down. I told him that I had a boyfriend and he said "why don't you live with him" and "your boyfriend is a loser for not being able to support you financially." Needless to say, I no longer have any contact wit this person. T

There's a big difference between "I love being with so-and-so. I hope he books an appointment with me soon!" and "I love being with so-and-so. I hope he asks me out and wants to date me!" Know what I mean, chili bean?

If she wanted to date you as a civvie, she would have by now, but her excuse, real or not, is your answer that she is not going to date you.  It is hard not to believe, at times, that you are "special" or "different" to the provider after a lot of time spent in close intimate physical contact with her.  When those feelings arise in you, you should either pull back those feelings and not discuss dating her anymore, or start seeing other girls to help you break those feelings.  

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It happens all the time with girls looking to cut the agency out of the deal.

If she wanted a personal relationship, she would've made the first move.  
Now you're just contemplating harassment.

that 99% of providers are only interested in the gentlemen they regularly see, as clients.

Why in the heck would she give up the money to see you for a real date which I am imagining you would want to have sex with her after? She is doing her job, she possibly does like you as far as a client goes. Her answer to your question has little to do with her agency. If she really liked you IRL, she would. However she is quite happy seeing you and getting paid.  

in the first place... to be able to use that excuse.

We can like a customer, but take it as a compliment that we like you as a customer. A lot of guys mistake, "It was a pleasure serving you. Thank you, come again." for "You have become someone I want to date and possibly grow a relationship with." Yeah, the sex really distorts things around here.

She says: I love the size of your dick
She really means: Oh thank god it's a small one, less wear and tear

How about this one

She says: I'll make it up to you

I have never said that and never will. If I cancel, I file it under "shit happens" and if client cancels, I file it under "shit happens". Never had an issue with that as I can't remember when the last time a guy has canceled and not re-booked. Although one crabby trick on here refuses to believe I have a very low cancellation rate.

Now I am hbyist+truth=;(  

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I'll wear an eye patch if that does it for you. Just kidding with you, you're cool....and of course a hotty.

You are really pretty = you are really pretty but I'd prefer to look at how pretty you are sucking my Dick

I say:  Damn you look sexy!
I mean:  Damn you look sexy!

So that's what ATF means? You call a provider with the expectation that you are getting wat you want - someone to cater to your fantasies & your pleasures....so if she likes ya, she should give ya that time for free? What does she get out of it? To spend her time with a married man doing wat she usually gets paid to do? But she's a provider what more in life could she hope for than to give sexual pleasure to everyone for free?

Not sure what that means...

he met you through the agency.   If she starts dating you for free, she is still essentially stealing from the agency.  If she is doing you for free, you won't be paying and they lose money.

Provider response:
You want to go out on a date OTC? Bwahahahahahahahahahaha.......WTF do I look like, some charity agency?!!!!  Get outta here Ya Bum!!!

If we enjoyed our time and have a rapport and feel comfortable and familiar why wouldn't you want to get paid to do what you enjoy. This is the perk of our jobs, don't take it away from us.