"she really doesn't like one hour appointments for the first visit; she prefers appointments for an hour and a half for the first meeting so you can get to know each other."

Ususaly get to know where her gag reflex is in the first three minutes.  I figure I know her well when she either spits or swallows.  By that time I've decided to repeat or not.

Your beef, (and you have a legitimate beef) is with the booker, not the provider.  This booker is doing her boss a great disservice, first by trying to strong arm you into a longer appointment than what you requested and secondly by leaving money on the table by offering you a 30 minute appointment when you were clearly willing and wanting to book an hour.

Yes, the girl seemed great; it was probably a missed opportunity for us both.  I just got pissed off and said I'd go blue balls before seeing her - but you're right, it's because of the booker.  I bet if I told the girl let's do an hour, she'd have smiled and taken it gladly.

I realize there might be more to this conversation than written here but if you feel this "not good" during the initial conversation, its usually a smart idea to skip the BS negotiations and move on. For most folks, there's usually no good way for this story to end otherwise.

unless she's an agency girl, I doubt the assistant is doing anything that the provider is not aware of.  
Plenty of fish in the sea.

... I've made a few exceptions and scheduled 90 minute first dates.  Once was because the provider was clear on her web site that she prefers that length for a first date.  And she offers a very reasonable rate for 90 mins (much less than 1.5 X her hour rate) so it was easy to agree to her preference. And I'm glad I did. We talked for about 20 minutes at the start and I think we had a more enjoyable time because of it. Also she's a delightful person, smart as a tack with many interests, so our chat was enjoyable in itself.  

The lady in question has decided that a longer appointment is the most fruitful, probably not just in terms of the extra $250. "Getting to know each other" doesn't necessarily mean a half hour of "talk."

Than an hour for the first session with a new girl. Nothing is more excruciating than being stuck for 90 minutes or more with a girl you have zero connection with. It's probably much the same for the provider, but since they're getting paid, they manage to power through it.

Very well explained! 👌🏼

til a provider suggested that we didn't need that long & she would fnish what we started irrespective of time.  I think as a nervious newbie I needed the 90 minutes...  but once i was past that, it wasn't needed.

...a thirty minute rate when you were willing to pay for an hour.  It makes no sense.

I was wondering that myself as the booker is the gatekeeper.  Posting locally is a good idea! thanks!!

Unless of course a minimum was clearly stated on her website, then it would clearly be on me for not reading.

if we don't click then I'm not stuck.  after, that I go for 2 hour minimum

Who cares? So you feel taken advantage of for ten seconds. Just move on.

According to the OP, he said "no thanks" and moved on only to have the booker contact HIM with an offer, and a veiled insult that a thirty minute appointment was on the table.

But even still, if just one booker reads this an avoids making the same stupid mistake, then it will all have been worth it

Stewing and being annoyed is ok for a little while, but after a while fuck it - who cares. lol. Not saying he shouldn't post about it to vent or correct, but a shady person is going to be a shady person. An honest booker is going to be honest by default, and this stuff is just common sense. You can't really be trained in honesty, just avoid people who are shady.

I just wanted to test my pov against what others might think, as this is a fuck board, it wasn't an off the wall question, and there are some pretty darn good people here to get advice from.

Personally I feel an hour is rushed.  But since I have to cough up the dough and unlike some here who claimed to have spent millions of dollars so far in the hobby, I have to budget.  So an hour it is

first and foremost, follow your pocket. If you only want to invest in 60 min., cordially explain that to the booker. This is a bi-directional business venture ...  

If the hour rate is posted, and there is no mention of stipulations for first time clients. Then it was an attempt at a up sell

Very well said.