Question for the hobbyist / providers..
           Do you ever share a fantasy  
with your favorite provider even if it is
outside her comfort zone? We realize we  
do not like to ask our providers to do
things not normally on her menu..
but isn't that what a fantasy is all  
about? I am struggling whether to  
share my fantasy or keep it to
myself? Isn't this the reason we  
hobby?
     Maybe I should just find a  
provider whose menu shares my  
fantasy..

I'd wait until you know her very well and there is some trust built up.  

It depends on the fantasy and how it is brought up.  

Your point is well delivered. Timing and trust is very important.

I generally like affection, DATY, BBJ, cowgirl etc but there was time I was very heavy into BDSM as both a dom and a sub.  Every so often I get the old itch and I either find a provider who offers that or I go to one of my friends with benefits with whom the benefits were those activities.  

If she is someone who is familiar with you, you could try to approach it this way...

Then it happened! Of course in true pussy fashion I sent my request via text. The fear of an awkward silence often gets the better of me. Much to my surprise, my seemingly vanilla viking wasn't so vanilla after all. Praise naked baby Jesus and let the good times roll.  

Many providers advertise and do role play, but for most it falls. Into a limited list of options. Schoolgirl/teacher, secretary/boss, nurse/patient, a few others. So if you want something else, like seducing your brother's fiancée the night before their wedding, or a totally nonverbal session where neither of you speaks or "mimes," that's harder to find. Providers usually don't want to get into anything that involves that kind of work.

worst that can happen is she says no. Providers are human too so we have fantasies too

Already know it then I'm sure you already know what she will say. It's not her job to make your fantasy come true if she doesn't offer it. It's her body and her comfort level. I suggest finding a provider that does offer what you want. I have clients that ask me if I'm into certain things and if I'm not I tell them. I don't care if it's a regular client or not. If it's not my thing and I'm not comfortable with it then I won't do it.

You never know how someone is going to react to a new idea. As long as you don't appear to be passive-aggressively trying to push it on her, there is nothing wrong with sharing it. Maybe she will be up for it. Maybe she will know someone else who she can refer you to? Gauge her reaction when you first start sharing to know when to stop, but by all means give it a try..

Just make sure she knows that you're just thinking out loud. If not, she might assume you are trying to make hints or suggestions... if it's something really far out of her comfort zone, that could be extremely intimidating to her.

other than to agree with most of the great advices you're getting from the Ladies and Gents so far. It's up to you to make your choice and find out for yourself now, buddy.

if you are well versed in the power of google, you can probably find a salon or agency or at least a provider that in experienced in your fantasy (unless it's beyond the pale...no strangling babies while you take a dump on your provider friend...)

I have a regular of mine that's been wanting a particular services for years and mentions it every now and again. Bottom line I'm not into it and I don't offer it. I have a wide variety of menu choices, there's always things to do to spice it up or go outside the realm. Will he get it someday? I hope, but not from me.

Thank you for the great responses...
Got some great ideas...
I will keep you posted....
Happy Hunting...!!!