If I read one more review that ends with, 'treat her right', I'm going to treat someone wrong!
For the majority of us who are Gentlemen hobbyists, it doesn't need to be said.  For those pukes that see providers to work out there issues with women by trying to humiliate them (calling names, wanting to do facials, etc), the phrase is a waste of time.
Sorry, probably not a great topic but I read three reviews in a row with 'treat her right' and just couldn't stomach it.

IT NEEDS TO BE SAID !!

Because some post avidly, or hobby avidly, doesnt mean they are ALWAYS avid gentlemen.

Hats off to the men that say " treat her right"

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I enjoy them, but I don't get a "dominance" or "humiliation" thrill out of them. I just think they can be very sexy.

--b.

Ciara,  I guess my objection is how cliche the phrase sounds (as Smegma says in his addition to this).  It just sounds so stupid & obvious.
I've always been a gentlemen and have always 'treated her right' no matter what.  The a-holes who aren't gentlemen won't stop being a-holes just because they read the dreaded phrase in a review.

I secretly cringe everytime somebody calls me "sweetie". I would never burst anyones bubble about it though, as I know I probably do the same thing without knowing.

Even for all those who are gentlemen, it needs to be said over and over.
Because if the gentlemen of this community continue to express this sentiment, maybe it will rub off on someone else.
Granted the jerks aren't going to change , but eventually, they tend to fade from this community.

I have no problem with expressing the thought that you should "treat her right".
The ladies deserve it.
And they need to know that we, the gentlemen of this community, know and promote this behavior.

Just my opinion...
B

...that phrase was a cliche when it arrived here.  Now...well, there's no tread left on that tire.

I don't suggest a new phrase, because guys should think hard about their review writing.  Shortcutting memory of the experience isn't the way to go.  Definitely, that message should get out, but I wouldn't say it the same way for seeing you as I would for seeing, say Bebedoll.

I used those words in a few of my reviews, but it wasn't imploring someone at the end to "treat her right"...it was along ths lines of IF you treat her right (in other words, like a gentleman or in a way I indicated in my review), you will likely have a great time with her (or find her receptive to whatever you like, or whatever).

You know, when someone has a good time with a lady in this business, I would HOPE he wanted her to be treated right.  Even though it is a cliche, it is one that comes from a good place (he liked her), so I am willing to overlook it, because it just means that there is more of a possibility that the lady might be able to make me like her as well.  Hurt me.

Yes that may be true.  But, you are probably one of the ones that complain because a review doesn't include enough details.  Can't make nobody happy around her :p

I personnaly will add it to EVERY review from now on!  For me it is a term of endearment that she was so special to me and I would stand up for her.


Of course everyone is different and if you choose not to do that, it is your right.  If you are sick of reading it, don't read anymore reviews.




BTW:   Treat them ALL right or I will be offended!

Taste great.  Less billing.


Sorry, couldn't resist.  

I take it the same way you did, Mr. SelfDestruct. It means not only acting like a gentleman but to take care of her with positive feedback and the proper donation. At least that's what I've always interpreted it to be. Anyway, I don't mind it.

Hugs,
Ciara

and will comply with your wish sweetie.(oops,sorry!)

"she then told me it was my turn"

"It was the greatest BBBJ I have ever had"

"Who was I to refuse?"

or

"VIPs read on"

This board is a compendium of clichés.

Aphra
Sick as a parrot about clichés and over the moon about this thread.

I don't know how I missed your last post, but the poem was so beautiful, I wanted to post it again.
I hope you don't mind.

You take care over there.

Rhetorical Questions
Hugo Williams
--------------------
How do you think I feel
when you make me talk to you
and won't let me stop
till the words turn into a moan?
Do you think I mind
when you put your hand over my mouth
and tell me not to move
so you can "hear" it happening?

And how do you think I like it
when you tell me what to do
and your mouth opens
and you look straight through me?
Do you think I mind
when the blank expression comes
and you set off alone
down the hall of collapsing columns?

. . . after a memorable session with a fine lady I can't help it.

thought that people treat others as you do.  They don't.  You also seem to have the thought that women all like the same treatment from everyone.  They don't.  Figuring out what "treat her right" means is a bit of a challenge.  

I have one "friend" who INSISTS that during sex, I hit her behind - fairly good hard swats!  I am not into that, but she is.  Indeed if they are too soft, or my aim is off, she becomes a bit testy...  Another lady, tells me that if I hit her - I will be sorry.... and I believe her.  (gotta keep dem too wimin steight!)  

So, it falls to the hapless hobbiest to walk into the room - filled with  a stranger - and try to figure out what she likes - OR to just not care and try to get himself off - and hang her wishes.... and then get criticized for trying to please her as an earlier thread suggested.  

What's a virtually confused hobbiest in this age of political not-quite-political correctness to do?  

I have pondered this question... and figure that if I get it half right, the lady in question will not run from the room, leaving her clothing & other stuff behind.... in utter disgust! (hey, could happen!)

The key?  read the providers "instruction" page -they almost all have one if they are reviewed in TER.  See what they like and don't like.  Don't play with the envelope... that is their pay (you like it when your boss forgets your pay? or cuts you 10% without telling you?)  For the most part, follow their lead - unless they ask or tell you otherwise - I promise you will still have a good time.  Pay attention to time.  Even if they don't.  I have gotten more "extra" time by following these rules than I really merrit by my good looks and charm alone.

Finally, never  - ever forget - this is a business. This is for your safey and sanity as well as hers.  How you treat your employees will determine if they will work for you in the future - and what they will tell their co-workers about you.

Is the phrase "treat her right" over used?  Don't think so.  I have read some of the comments posted on the discussion boards and in reviews.... they are pretty severe... for some facials is humiliating... for others Ok or even desired.... but what is more telling is language in the posts that refers to these ladies as a piece of meat - a tool - and an attitude that you "own them" for an hour.  Ya don't - you employ their services - BIG DIFFERENCE.  As I have posted many times... would I date them? hell yes - if they would have me - but most of them (all?) are well beyond my ability to attract!  I admire many of them - let alone respect.  I do try to impress them - but know what - they are pretty good at seeing through people....

There is also the observation that people do not follow instructions UNLESS you repeat the instruction oh, I don't know, about a billion times - treat her right... yea, saying it is necessary.

One final thing.... I try to identify - somehow, providers who may have an interest in meeting me.  That seems to work better - I have a better time because the lady seems to enjoy herself and relax.  

I don't know... I am kinda a ordinary joe, boring actually - and am energized by some of the gals in the biz... even in civie life - the gal I enjoy being out with is very different from me... she went to start a night-club - one night while we were out, she was taking calls from her various partners in the business from all over (investors) about where the business was in terms of development - at the end of about the 100dth call I said to her, I envy your life - it is so exciting - here you are talking to people all over the country!  Her comment, "NO, that is their lifestyle, me?  I'm out with you! (a green dude)" And yet - I do!

I do feel sorry for the guys who cannot get past the fact that many of these women are accomplished in other areas of life, and do have to be reminded...

Sorry, just on a rant this week!  Don't really know why I have had my knickers all in a twist... but I have!  



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where the smell caused the reviewer's head to snap back so hard he got whiplash. Fortuately, other than one bad experience in a strip joint, I've had nothing but sweet DATY experiences both in the hobby and in real life.

What I thinknis funny are the reviews that said she got the big O and shouted my name. If she can remember your name at that point, it probably was a fake O. LOL

I see it as a girl that cannot handle her own .. someone who is not confident enough to stand up for herself or for some reason she is vunerable.

If this wasn't the case, then treating someone right should be automatically assumed so there is no need to have it stated and written.

xo Lisa Butler

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I think guys write "treat her right" when they know they've been with a classy lady, and feel like telling the rest to follow that she deserves to be treated with respect. "Treat her right"  suggests to me that this is the kind of woman with whom I want to connect. So, when I see that in a review, I for one, appreciate it.

Glad you liked the poem, Mr SD.  It is rather brilliant, isn't it?  Another rhetorical question, LOL.

You take care too.  I'd say, "Let's be careful out there" if it wasn't such a cliché.  LOL a tad more.

Aphra

Wow. Hundreds of different women all giving "the best BBBJ ever". Quite remarkable.

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We are not victems.  We are not weak.  We are responsible and responsive.  Excellent!  Note to self: find excuse to fly to Tampa.  Do you travel?