Guys ask me my real name with a "So you think I'm one of the crazy ones, huh?" when I say no. They ask personal questions. I try to dodge them. Then I go too far in one area and some get all freaked out because it ruins their fantasy.

And when they volunteer an aspect of themselves, like that they play a violin or raise zebras, I hardly think of that as "personal" information.

A lack of experience and performance anxiety adds to the problem. You do read the posts here of very sincere, yet odd gents right? Surely this can't come as a shock to you.

There's a couple of providers I really love. I don't love the real person, as I don't know her and don't want to. For all I know her real name is Hilda Schumanfreude and she's a dreadful bitch. When I'm with her alter ego--Suzie Sucksalot--I'm the happiest guy  in the world, and I love her. Why screw that up?

Women tell me their real name, give me their private number, ask me if I'm married...I just go with it and leave it at that.

and how ladies can deal with so many different guys and keep things balanced.
In an alternate universe, if the tables were flipped and I was servicing ladies for pay - yes, a VERY alternate universe - I really have no clue how I'd balance trying to be real, offer good services, yet maintain correct boundaries with so many highly varying maturity levels (and game players too).

There are a lot of things worth saying that take years to understand. Even if things improve just a little bit it's worth saying. Just understanding helps people have more peace. It helps them chill and just have fun. It won't change. It will get worse. I still wanted to talk about it LOL

Dear Master of the obvious:
I just wanted to ask if you had to give a psychological profile of the men who usually contact you? Also during the course of your verification process are you starting to ask question with respect to regularity of visits and if they contact you for other reasons that are not relevant to business?  The aforementioned questions are things that you should be inquiring when going through verification with fellow providers.  Also another question is do your guys compartmentalize and are they able to discern the difference between what is real and what is not?  Use these  guidelines
when going through your verification process and look for providers that they have seen multiple times to ask the aforementioned questions.

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fascinating (yawn) lives than hear about others.

I know that is the case with me, and kudos to you ladies for putting up with it without dropping off to sleep on me.

8o)

Be a good GFE and of course he'll want to know more, how can you not be intimate without the intimacy, then it's just scripted. I do allow some guys to get closer but it is a part of the fantasy they want to explore. Some aspects of the real J are available OTC and hooker Jaye is what they get in an appointment. Hooker Jaye keeps the convo light in session, if he opens up well I let him vent, and keep my whore mouth occupied with kissing or a BJ or something not talking!!! I don't volunteer more of myself that leaves me too vulnerable, I do allow open communication OTC via cell phone, after we meet, but I make it clear, if you call me in the middle of the day, I am NOT going to be sitting around eating bon bons with a dildo up my pussy!!! Lol! The real J is probably on the way to the gym, picking up my kid, or in Costco. Lol! The few that take the opportunity to contact me OTC get the balance and get the hobby and have no issue with the fantasy v. real. Experienced hobbyist are the clients I like, I stay away from newbies since they don't get it yet.

May be you can’t handle such an experience, may be you don’t how, may be you immature and never able to carry on relationship with anyone.

I guess you figured out how to post a gif

What's your phone number? Where do you work? Are you married? Will you send me a picture of yourself? What kind of car do you drive? Do you have any kids? Those are questions I've been asked before the session even happened. My stellar references, who just happen to be well known, and well respected ladies in the profession, will tell you I'm safe, clean, honest, and extremely dependable. Why do you need to get personal, and know anything else?

I have had a guy purposefully get the real name and use it against me because I didn't fall in love. You never know who can and can't. When you are dealing with a hundred plus men in a year, determining who can and cannot handle fantasy vs P4P is impossible. Over time, I can see why some girls here have turned into real professionals. Some can't handle the balance, and I'm not only talking about the boys here.  

Uh-oh.  

I wouldn't do a thing. lol

First off, I would probably forget it five minutes later, or even if I did remember it. I call people in this business (or any other walk of life for that matter) whatever they want to be called. If a woman prefers Bambi over Sarah, I will call her Bambi. I just don't see what is the big deal.

Even if you get fat, there is a huge market for "fat broads"

I am happy to hear that you put out the extra effort to stay in shape though. If I can quit drinking beer, and force my lazy ass into the gym, even though my livelihood hardly is dependent on being in shape, it's nice to hear that at least some hookers take enough pride in their appearance to do the same.

Just wait until you get old. Once upon a time (it seems like decades ago) I used to hit the gym because it felt good to get the blood flowing. Now I hit the gym because if I don't, I will rapidly turn into a big tub of lard and mongering won't be a choice, but a necessity. lol

That way you could both be excited. lol

Yes, some guys really get way too wrapped up in the "fantasy" I guess for the price of an hour session they get jerk off material for weeks.

Or, they might be struggling to come up with the right thing to say. As a shy person myself, I can relate. I often say the wrong thing, or say something dumb, or just totally stick my foot in my mouth, and people have generally been forgiving to me (to my face, anyway).  

I think a little personal interest and connection makes for a more intimate and hotter session.

If a provider does not want a lot of personal questions.

Sure. What version of Photoshop do you have?

... he was just way too excited about it. *sighs* Thought he had an 'in' no on else did lol.

I've had one or all of these happen with three different providers now:  I'll be given the cell phone number, the address of an apartment (rather than a hotel), or some other thing that I'm asked to be discrete about. I'm told that nobody else knows this.  

A small-to-medium tub of lard is about the best you're capable of attaining.

I do enjoy working out. But with this job, I have to be almost too diligent, as if I were a serious athlete. I go every day, whereas if I wasn't so concerned w/my photos and ratings, etc., I'd probably go less frequently. Three days per week vs. 6-7.  

I'm with you, Jaye. Looks like I'm in the minority here, but I for one could give a shit less about the fantasy. A cool lady is a cool lady, and I love getting to know the ladies I see. I love the intimacy, and I'm cool with anything she wants to share, and willingly share things about myself if she shows an interest. My regular provider and I talk about everything; ex's, clients, providers, the hobby, family, friends, politics, religion, current events, you name it. And it hasn't fucked up anything. We've been seeing each other for a year and a half now, we always have a great time together, and I always look forward to seeing and/or talking to her again to find out what's new in her life. I would often find myself reading her reviews and saying to myself, "she's not like that with me", and I think that's pretty cool. When we're together, she doesn't have to be "on". No Oscar-worthy performances required. She can just be herself, and that's fine with me. I like who she is. I don't need to be bullshitted. I take this same approach with all the ladies I've seen. Some are pretty open with me, others are a little more reserved and business like. I just go with the flow. However things naturally progress. I just prefer the ladies be genuine. A little sincerity goes a long ways with me. Just my 2c ~~~~Rob

That would actually turn me on!

… if you mention that violin-playing or zebra-raising in a TER review, the administrators are likely to deny publication.

… is the new "hobbying."