Over the past year I've met many really great people but one of the constant refrains I hear despite my very positive reviews is that I'm "too young". I've written great ads, got good reviews, have a very professional and well laid out site, etc... But I still hear this at least once a week. Just wondering, what makes guys predisposed against young providers. I've looked around and there are certainly a lot of women older than me who aren't half as good or have any of the presentation...  

its nothing personal.  Its just that being 20 you do not yet know what you don't know.

Some men don't like young girls because it reminds them of their daughters and others if the girl looks too young they are just afraid, I think it's a legal thing. But everyone is different.

But I feel like it's such a generalization because theres a lot of really bad providers out there who are way older... Most of my clients are shocked by the depth of conversation and how I approach dates. Still doesn't stop me from booking a lot but it is quite a hassle to convince some of these guys lol.

.... and without talking to you like you're one of my children.  Because you're the same age group as my kids, that's gonna be really difficult for this "way older" provider.  LOL.  

its really not something to worry about, it just is.  Be yourself and be happy that you can bring some joy into an older dudes life.  In due time you will still be you and older too.  Don't let a landslide bring it down.

In a couple years you are gonna be too old for me.

I was just going to say that it's not that "she" is too young, it's that "they" are too old, or at least think that way.

And I am sure your service level is fantastic. But for me.......JUST ME....you are too young. I am in my mid fifties and I have a hard and fast rule. If a provider is younger than my children I simply can not do anything with her. To me, again, JUST ME, it is out of the question. Like GGA said "It is their hang-up" Also as Debbie and GGA indicated there are many reasons as to why but just know that just as there are many who may find you "Too whatever" , like Debbie pointed out, there will be those who find you "just right".

to view the galleries? That might be eating into your market share.

you are even too young for me. I don't play in that age range.

You're definitely not too young for me.
I think Debbie had the best answer in this thread.  
I also agree withdabi. Unlock your photos!

The simple answer is yes....you're just too young for some older hobbyists. Speaking for myself, in the last few years I looked exclusively for 35+. Generally, not always, but generally the best connections, the hottest chemistry, the most engaging dates I found were older.  I think there are a few reasons for that.....in my mind it was more likely a mature provider was in the business because she enjoyed as opposed to needed it...I was always uncomfortable with the idea I was helping someone "get by" financially. There is also something about a sensual woman who has grown comfortable with herself...that  is a huge turn on to me. The biggest reason for me is that mature providers are able to sense a connection, and embrace the experience.....it didn't  "seem" to be a transaction, and there was no feeling on my part that someone was performing for me.  

She is a "lovelydancer"
 

and to add to it...

+1

Too bad you're so far away

Thank you SO MUCH for the words of advice Debbie. I do hope I didn't come off as condescending in any way towards older providers. Actually my posting this was a statement AGAINST that mentality. My point was that age is no indicator of quality young or old. As a woman who has been with women and men who were twice my age in my private life I guess I have a different view of things. Honestly, the issue doesn't bother me all that much, however I figured it would be a great topic to post here to see what peoples different and unique viewpoints are. I believe I've accomplished that goal!

Yes, I am indeed aware. Unfortunately I had to do that because a close "friend" that I confided in decided it was a good idea to show my site to as many people as possible. I am a professional ballet dancer and having some of my more recognizable pictures out there was too much of a risk... As a result I was forced to put passwords on the site but provide the passwords on my ad sites so only people who know about places like this could see my pictures... it is by no means my preference.

Fuck no you are not too young.  I checked out your website and you are very hot.  If you were local I would be booking you ASAP.  My only concern with someone young would be their skill level.  However the tight body and beauty of youth have very much positive going for them.

At age 20, was I having a lot of sex?? Yes!  I've always been more sexual than the average person. However, it was purely civvie stuff.... hookups after going out dancing (I had a fake ID , dinner dates, etc.  

wait 2-3 years and it won't be a problem...

That this post inspired some really interesting discussion and positive discourse. That's the whole purpose of the forums and it's really cool to see everyone's perspective on these things. I would like to say that some of my comments came off as being flippant or condescending. That was TOTALLY not my intention. The point of my starting this thread was to highlight something that I think is rather important for people to understand. Age, like beauty and a variety of other superficial criteria, is not always an indication of experience. There are people who only choose to see young providers based on preconceived notions about how much better they may be and conversely there are those who believe that only a woman of a certain age has the kind of experience necessary to do this. The truth is we are just products of the sum totals of our experiences. Some women find themselves sexually at 30, 20, 60, etc... It really varies.  

OTHFB club members bash their younger and more attractive competition all the time. Why, I honestly don't know because it's plain that there are PLENTY of guys who prefer an older woman over a woman they deem to be "too young"

I've heard other guys say that many providers will give them shit for seeing "young" providers it's done with a half jest type of comment that the sayer can always back peddle out of it, but it's still there. Also, clients are worried about young looking providers because no one wants a visit from LE only to find out that hot 20 year old was actually 16. That's damage no one walks away from. I've heard of one young looking provider showing her ID, but that's not going to be a get out of jail free card if it turns out to be fake ID.  
Lastly, some guys are worried about experience and maturity. And that's it.

So although you are a PYT looks wise, your comment, "I've looked around and there are certainly a lot of women older than me who aren't half as good or have  any of the presentation."  

As I said before it really wasn't my intention to say that I'm really sorry honestly. This is the kind of ageism I was trying to defeat and as a result I ended up making it sound worse. If you can get past what I said (sometimes we say things the wrong way.. it happens) and take my clarification for what it really meant you'd understand what I mean. I don't understand why so many people think I was talking about them! There are AMAZING providers of all ages and some women who don't give a crap at ALL ages. Age is irrelevant to my point. I said what I said because honestly many men prefer women who are older (which is awesome btw.. sometimes I do too!) and discount young providers or regard us with less esteem because of our age alone. Btw I DO have experience seeing providers as I have actually had sessions with some women outside of the profession just for fun! I've seen some AMAZING women and some women who left me truly disappointed with uninspired sessions! I'm upset because all the women who are offended by my post are REALLY REALLY great providers and thats disappointing because I was NOT aiming what I said at them. Hope this clears things up...

From a John's perspective they just get off on feeling superior. Stereo-typically men get aroused dominating and women get aroused being submissive. During cuddling I always like to give the provider advice, I like helping people but I get how sometimes it comes off as arrogant or condescending.  

I'm sure the providers don't need advice on how to give good head or prep for Greek ... just saying that it may NOT be welcome

Many men tell me they prefer providers who are at least 30 because they don't want to see women who are the same age as their daughters.

for now...because that's the age of the youngest provider I've been excited to see (and she was AMAZING).

30+ ladies.  
However, for someone who is young...  you have got to get it together.  
You need to keep your head on straight...  maybe devolupe a separate work personna...  that you put asside when on your own time.  
You may need to blur your pictures so you can properly advertize.  Watermake them if they are not yet.  
I would urge you to act professionally.  Manage your business.  Set some goals.  Is it to pay school expenses or save for the future.  Too often we see providers who spend the money friviously...  & are no better for the efforts.  I know a few who really did work their way through college & grad school...  graduated debt free...  and retired to their chosen profession.   One gal I know...  only works occasionally, to supplememt her day job...  she just doesn't make enough to pay everything other wise.    

My age preferences depend on the type of appointment. If its 3 hours or less, then I am fine as long as she is over 21. I will not sleep with someone I cannot at least enjoy a drink with.

I feel like I have to work so much harder to "prove" myself to potential clients... to prove that I'm mature enough to spend time with. That's why I invest a lot of energy into social media and blogging, because it's my writing that most clients told me "sealed the deal" for them.  

I actually prefer my " date" to be younger than myself (being 53 most of them are lol).  Although I've seen very few if any in the 18-20 range, most of my previous dates have been in the 26-30 range.

Hmm... I am 27 myself. I do look younger though, and I'm aware of it.
I have never experienced anyone telling me I'm too young to do anything (except for buying cigarettes few years ago). I consider young age being a pro of that profession, whenever older gentlemen desire young lady. Of course I know some of them prefer mature ladies, and that is understandable as well, but even if you're 20, I still can't see a problem. I have a friend who's 22 and she looks almost underage, but her business goes on pretty well. Isn't there always demand for younger girls?

That's the beauty of this hobby, being with people you normally are not going to ever give you the time of day.   You could dominate me any day  

based on their own experiences. When a bad experience happens, you adjust your rules accordingly. Not exactly fair, but since this is sooooo expensive, one must set their parameters to gain the optimum experience. We get to be exacting in that regard, as do you ladies with your own varied set of boundaries. Of course, no parameters/boundaries are foolproof, but for the most part, they keep you happy and comfortable.  

Many, actually most of us do this for variety, I certainly do. Now I will freely admit I much prefer the younger ladies, but that doesn't mean a woman has to be under 25 before I will see her. I will say that a woman pretty needs to be able to at least pass for thirty before I will see her, but that's a matter of appearance, not a hard and fast rule of chronological age.

you'd enjoy spending time with an 18 yr old guy and his friends.

And I don't remember. When did we get married? But nah, if she was so pissed by my so called breach of etiquette, she wouldn't have bothered with a follow up explanation invitation. It would have been delete delete. Even after I said no thank you, she followed up yet again with a, 'if you ever feel like it in the future' response. Two things. She did ruin it for all younger girls, and while some guys find bipolar wildly hot, I do not.  

That's what my wife says to me when I masterbate, "That's someone daughter" uh yea and so are you I am thinking.

I must admit that there have been times when I've avoided meeting a few younger escorts because they were near the age of a daughter -- perhaps in part because I had a fear of opening the door and meeting one of her friends.  LOL