arousing the passions of your partner.

To simply f*ck the person as if they were an object is perverse, IMHO.

Loving can exist without the usual ties that society places on it.

I know because I have done it.

And I love it.

if the hobbyist is looking for a GFE experience, then the answer is obvious.  If all the hobbyist wants is to see how many times he can explode or wants to act out a porn scene he remembers, then the choice is obvious as well.  Individual preferences.

well it all depends on what the need is, somedays clients just want to pound me for all I'm worth, which apparently is around $350 an hour. Other days they want to be a bit slower and talk, then pound the crxp out of me. Making love takes longer than an hour to do it with any sense of who the other person is. Let's be real.

The question would I rather fuck or make love doesn't have a single answer.

It depends on the chemistry between me and the man I am with. Sometimes absolutely nothing beats a pure animal lust heart pounding fuck. I mean, what more can I add to that?

On the other hand, making love - well, with the right person, when you have that mind/body/spirit connnection going on - it just doesn't get any better than that.

There is no choosing between the two. Sometimes a fuck is a fuck and it feels awesome, doesn't have to have any meaning whatsoever, and just leaves you gasping for air and trying to remember how to dial 911. Sometimes the connection is so deep and intense it takes my breath away and sends me into outer space for a while. And sometimes - its both all wrapped up in one and that's when its really good. But I can't say really that I make a choice between either end. Whatever happens - love or passion or both - happens all on its own through the connection between myself and the gentleman.

Just my two cents.

Personally, I like aggressive, animal lust that settles into slow, sensuous sex.

Re:Question to Providers

At the risk of ticking someone off, I feel that making love with a provider is a contradiction in terms, given  that a provider is acting in her chosen profession during the 'event'. Expecting love is inappropriate.  An analogy might be having dinner with the chef at a restaurant: enjoying a great meal with a friend or eating food?.  Having said that, my greatest respect is for those providers who, before, during and after the event, make me feel like we are making love, like it is a relationship.  I include 2 among my long list of providers seen who have delivered this amzaing skill -- Kate Bishop is one, the other is unreviewed by me and was a long time ago. Could I have I would have married either of them, just based on the connection I felt.  Happy hobbying to all.