Dear fellow hobbyists...

Recently I chat with a provider (caucasian) in O.C and she said she's not going to "date" an Asian because she has not encountered one before or for whatever reasons that she has. This was rather shocked to me for the fact that she has a very nice review but I did not know that provider does has some sorts of "race/ethnic" preferrences (??). This also made me feel so bad 'cause I'm also a pround-American and I had helped to build and defend this great country from domestic/foreign enemies... Please provide me some opinions and advice for the next encounter...Many thanks...

I prefer not to have sex with bigots. Hey, I get to have preferences too.

Sexual preferences are up to the individual, no matter what the reason.  There is no law anywhere that dictates who one has to screw!

Ah....that's explained why you'd thanked her...and your name is Jean-Paul? Ain't that French homie? Hmmm...we believed those French bigots did not support our Operation Iraqi Freedom did it? )

In fact, on my website I mention that among my few dislikes, I dislike bigots.

I have no racial, age, or body-type preferences, but I will say that I am a stickler for good hygiene.

Love,
SdB

Well...I certaintly thanked you and appreciated all your inputs/opinions. I guessed we did not live in a "perfect" world after all...even...in this kind of "hobby's world" !  Peace to y'all.

I dont see anything wrong with it! Hey Im not attracted to asians or blacks or hispanics! They are not my type! I have never dated one before and I am not going to because they are just not my type but you never know! If I find one I really really really like and is very attractive then why not! I love blondes!

This is a woman's choice about what to do with her own body, not some lame PC exercise in affirmative action.  She doesn't HAVE TO see any of us!  If some Provider doesn't want to do me because of my ethnicity or some other reason, well, boo hoo.  Guess I'll have to find someone else.  The crybabies should just move on to the next ad, or buy a blow up doll.

You may've been joking, but the French SMARTLY not supporting our stupid war in Iraq does not make them bigots.  Maybe it makes you one, though.

I agree.  Please tell us who she is and spare the rest of us the waste of time.
Interestingly, in this hobby, I've never been turned away because of my race, but I've heard two or three providers say they don't get together with black men.  I thought there'd be more prejudice against Asian men.

If a provider refused to see me because of my race (African American) I would thank her and move on, no questions asked. I would only hope that her reasoing would not be one based on any stereotypes. I'm in this hobby of ours to have fun, and there are so many women to choose from that it really wouldn't matter to me. We all have our preferences, and I'm just as picky as the next person.

peace

If you guys can decide to see a provider who is fat or thin, asian or white etc...we can do the same. This is not an equal oppurtunity f***, I see whom I am attratcted to period!

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If she were a stock broker, doctor or even a waitress I would be offended.  But since she is in the business of selling something very intimate, I think she is entitled to sell it to whomever she deems acceptable.  It obviously takes a segment of the population out of her client pool, but if that's ok with her, it's no skin off of my nose.

I might not agree with someone who refuses to see clients of certain races, but I think it is her right to choose. She should be up front and polite about it though, even going so far as to state it in her ads so everyone knows up front.

if a lady doesn't see someone because of race unless she discloses it as this particular lady has with you.  That she hasn't seen a gent of Asian descent is not a surprise to me though, for they are quite rare in my experience.  In the 14 months in this endeavor I have only been contacted by two individuals of Asian descent.  I saw one, the other did not speak english very well and was unable to obtain the screening information needed to meet with him.  It was frustrating trying to communicate with him.

I think ladies tend to see white males more for they are the predominant hobbiests.  Black gents second followed by middle eastern gents.  That is what I have noticed from the gents that have contacted me.  Race isn't an issue with me.  It is how one presents himself to me.  If he is a true gent then I will happily meet with him, no matter what color or ethnic background he has.  I do see patterns within a particular race and/or ethnic background though.

I do not think that it is a racial matter, but more of a cultural matter in that I turn down most middle eastern men.  They do tend to haggle, which is a no-no with me on an initial first meeting.  Those that do not haggle on the get go are the ones that I tend to meet with.

I feel for black gents.  This forum is very biased toward black gents and many ladies do not visit with them because of their color.   This leads to frustration that shows when they contact me.  I think they have it set in their minds that I will not visit with them and tend to have a sarcastic tone in their initial contact.  I tend to converse more with them prior to meeting because of that, for I do not want to meet with a gent with a sceptical attitude.  It leaves for a poor time and no matter how much I try to ensure that my only criteria is that they be a true gent, they do tend to read something else into that, as if that will be my out in not visiting with them.  Once a comfort level has been established the sky is the limit and do believe they are pleasantly surprised.  I suspect many a lady would be also if they gave them a chance, for my experiences have been no different with black men than with white and if nothing else do feel they try harder to be perfect gentlemen because of the biases that are placed on them.

Just some observations in my corner of the world.

Lauren