it's really something bizarre. If she's a GF, you won't have to say anything. However, you might want to email her and tell her what you have in mind. It may differ tremendously from her idea of a good time. If it's out of her realm, she can always decline and cancel the date.

Hugs,
Ciara

just show up, be respectful, and go with the flow.  Love making is like a dance, only let her lead.  I often times go into a situation with a new provider and I am usually very happy with where things lead.  Also, you may find new and interesting things if you are not directing the situation.

She's doing her best to avoid legal liability.  It sounds like she's worried about getting busted, so keep that in mind when you do contact her. Like others here have said, go with the flow once you get there, unless there's something specific that you've got in mind that might not come up otherwise ("I'd like you to ride me in reverse-cowgirl while wearing a clown nose and screaming, 'Do me, Your Holiness!!!' ").

Once she's convinced herself you're not a cop (certainly by the time you've finished the first round), I would expect that you can bring up any requests you might have.  She may or may not be in a position to do anything about your request at that moment, but you can discuss it for the next time.

If so, and the previous gents cover all the things you're hoping to have happen...great.  If not, determine if the missing elements are show-stoppers.  Assuming they aren't...have fun.  Once in the heat of things, a well worded "can I put it there" will be just fine.