Jail? Married? Legit occupation? Changed name? Moved? Outted to family or BF or Hubby? On a binge?

For providers, when a regular customer disappears on you, do you wonder why he (or his money) disappeared? Just wondering.

It not funny. It drives some providers off the boards.

You're a coward for insulting behind an alias, as well.


HalfHour

I have had this happen with several clients over the past few years.  To be completely honest, it did hurt my feelings a bit with one of them.  But then I had to remind myself that this is a business.  Clients will come and go.

Variety is the spice of life.  If he wants to move on, I'm sure he has his reasons.  There's really no need for me to dwell on it.  I am not his wife or girlfriend.  I am his paid companion, and that's all I am.  A goodbye would be nice.  But if not, that's okay too.  I understand.  I am paid to be understanding, and to be free of drama.  Life goes on.  One client leaves and another quickly takes his place.  I just continue to go with the flow.  That's all I can do.  

I had an ATF, seen her many times. Last couple of visits, her performance, professionalism, and behavior was slowly sinking. She was doing all sorts of strange stuff before our session, informing me about way too much of her personal life, and her behavior was lacking. She got too comfortable with me I guess, and viewed that I would tolerate her behavior. But, I didn't. So, when I stopped seeing her, she ask me, whats wrong? Told her, I just ain't got the time for her anymore (spent 4G's on her in 1 month, and to think she would appreciate me as a client), she can sense that her behavior caused it, & knew sooner or later I would drop her. She asked me, "Am I being mean?", WTH!! She was a young provider, and I was much older then her. It takes experience and time for the maturation of professionalism to emerge. I think she knew that, and hopefully change her behavior for the next guys. For me, I had to drop her, if I didn't, she would never emerge into being a well-rounded provider.

If a regular disappears on a provider, its usually b/c they are unhappy with the service or the provider as a whole. At least with me.  

It's a term of endearment Half Hour.  Most dudes/guys have no problem with the term.

A year ago, a provider I really liked just disappeared from the trade.  She dropped off P411  and shortly after I last saw her, a guy on my local board reported that she was NCNS for his appt.   Afterwards, there were no more reviews on her, nothing.   When she didn't reply to  a couple of my e-mails and texts, I gave up on her.  

I knew her real name, and sometimes I'd google her name just to see what would pop up.  Last month I saw  her marriage announcement in a nearby city.  I'm glad the story has a happy ending, wish her the best.  --z

.... according to him he'd started having a civvie relationship and wanted to be a good boy to her lol. If that's the truth dunno....more power to him.

Especially in civie life!

There is just too little time in life to waste any of it by stepping into drama created by people that have no class, have no clue, or have no life.

Ignore the bozos and they will move on.

This board is a bit different of a situation as I see it.

I enjoy reading the reading and participating because, if one wades through the muck, one can find very interesting people and their perspectives related to a lifestyle that is not accepted by the general public, and thereby makes open intellegent discussion difficult.

After being on the boards for a number of years and seeing them deteriorate I decided I would be more direct and call out the stupidity when I see it. It's apprantly made my very unpopular with some, but that's fine.

I'm all for diversity in opinion, passion in one's point of view, and strong debate. I see  disagreement, when handled respectfully and intellegently, as an opportunity for personal growth and a positive force for social advancement.

But on this board, I sometime wonder if there aren't just a bunch of ASSCLOWNS from the Westboro Baptist Church sneakin' it with aliases to simply cause trouble?!?!

Personally, at times here, I am embarrased FOR my gender at the utter lack of decency and respect shown toward providers. That is hypocracy at its most base level.

I am glad that providers such as yourself continue to be involved on the boards. Without you it would be nothing more than a pathetic virtual circle-jerk.

I have tremendous respect for women, especially those who go against the norm and choose to provide. I hope to see a change in societies viewpoint toward providing in my lifetime, although I not sure it will happen.

On a side note, another hope I have is to someday meet you. ?

In the meantime, I'll continue to call out the ASSCLOWNS here, as I see them.


HalfHour

Sometimes it is best to ignore idiots..

Assclown.. is such an example..

but, you are right.. when idiots do not know how to behave or speak and the board is full of them
it does to tend to lead one to believe that everyone in general on the board is that way.. I know this is not true.. It is a shame we have to weed through them to find the good ones....

Same for me. I knew her name. After a year Goggled. Got her announcement as to what stores to shop in for wedding gifts. Great girl. Good Luck. The groom. He is in the same profession as I and I sometimes see him at professional meetings. I never spoke with him but he looks happy. Some days life is good. Sure do miss her professionally though.

Especially if they are older or have health issues.

"Most dudes/guys have no problem with the term."

You hang around my family for a day. You'll hear the black guys say "my n----r" this or that. Now you say that & you'll get punched (not by me) for disrespecting them. I don't say the word.  I don't write it. Cause I'm a cracker. And I show respect.

I call myself a cracker 'cuz I'm lilly white. Call me a cracker in front in front of my black brothers and you'll get punched (not by me) for disrespecting me.

That's the funny thing about language in our culture. If you want to use a derogatory term for someone, but you don't mean it that way, you better make damn sure that person(s) is OK with it.

I don't think all the women on this board are OK with being refered to as 'HO.'

So, I'm saying it's disrespectful to use it in this situation.


HalfHour