to know about being with you, or to do, that they generally do not? Something you for whatever reason may not have communicated about or revealed or asked for?

Let's not discuss NC/NS - we all know that one. And, let's be positive and constructive here.

Cheers -  Gregory

no sound... that is, turn the TV OFF.... or if you've a hotel nite stand radio... do NOT turn it on... the sound is like a tin cup...

One lady, and one lady only, has a unique auditory experience... I love what she does and have told her... In fact, when I see her again I would love to give her some music for her iPod and sound system, but I am afraid that it would throw her selections off.... as the music she plays is perfect.... and you cannot improve on perfection....   it is romantic and varried... with just the right blend of styles...

it reflects her refined and cultured taste in ways you cannot imagine.

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For me, it's all about communication, starting before the meeting.

I am frustrated by the slow (or no) response from providers, especially those that mention they prefer to be contacted by email. Understand, I do not expect these beautiful ladies to be sitting by the Mac waiting for my email, but not getting a response for 3,4,5 or more days is a little frustrating. I do my best to follow the email rules and give all the information requested so I do not think that is the problem. And though I am more UTR than most on this board, (though I do read it and others frequently, and have tried to post a few recently...guess I am being moderated), I have pretty decent number of reviews and am more than happy to do what is necessary to make providers comfortable. And I get it if for whatever reason it won't work, but a simple reply/acknowledgement is too much to ask? It's the primary reason that I have used Agency providers more than Independents. For the good Agencies, the response times are really good and even if my choices are not available, I get feedback quickly.

And for the meeting itself, I also value communication. I am in it for the ultimate GFE experience and for me that involves pleasing my partner as much as I can. I want to know if you have erogenous zones that like attention (outside of the usual). I read a post from Rae where she mentioned liking the back of her neck kissed (BTW, I have GOT to get to Augusta) and that is perfect. Tell me that kind of stuff...for me it's a two-way experience.

JMTC,
K

Don't ask me about my wife, my kids......I'm there to escape those!!

When I'm first getting in touch with a lady, after the first introductory contact with my reference details and so forth, if the lady seems receptive I like to exchange a few additional emails or PMs before we meet for the first time. In these exchanges (which I liken to an Electronic Dance, or Electronic Foreplay) we have the opportunity to get to know each other better. During these exchanges I reveal information about me that I tend not to share during the initial contact. Without getting overly graphic in these exchanges (or here for that matter) I explain that due to complications associated with me being diabetic (namely that I suffer from ED and I frequently experience poor results from Vitamin V) there might be some limitations to the "activities" we can share. Of course that still leaves a multitude of activates that both of us can enjoy to our mutual satisfaction which I mention in the most gentlemanly manner I can.

Perhaps it’s TMI (Too Much Information) but I like the ladies to know up-front about my condition and the “challenges“ and opportunities it can create. But I share that information to make sure they are aware of it before we meet so there are no surprises when we do meet. The ladies I have visited with up to this point have been very receptive and understanding of my situation and I have not been disappointed with the experience when we finally meet. I have had some truly memorable and I believe mutually satisfying experiences.

Hope this rather wordy response answsers some of your questions.

C_K

I would like the ladies I've seen more than three times to send me a sexy email or even some kind of email to let me know they have thought about me or missed me every once in awhile. Maybe they don't as I know they have busy lives and maybe they think I would take it as them begging for repeat business but hey, if I've seen you more than three times I must like something you're doing for me. I always let the ladies know it's o.k. to contact me through my Hobbie email address.

Hello C_K

I also like to exchange a bit of email between first contact and first date. I have found that the more mature providers, say late 30s and older, do this frequently and delightfully.

I usually advise a lady in advance about my facial hair and about my scars. And also that due to a cervical spine injury I experience variability in my male functioning.  I've never had a lady "disappear" after these revelations.  And I feel that this avoids some degree of perhaps unpleasant surprise on the lady's part.

Thanks for your post -


Gregory

Do you have PM access here on TER? If you do, than you have mail from me and if not, if you'd care to share another method of email contact with me at [email protected] I'd welcome the opportunity to share something with you that I'd prefer to do in a more private manner....

C_K

Please, steal linens off the maid's cart if you have to but don't come anywhere near me or my penis with a baby wipe!  It's cold, it feels stupid. It's not sexy...

Please know that asking "are you close" or "do you take a long time" are both statements guaranteed to kill my erection and make your job harder.

As I said, neither of these happens very often but they are both extreme turn-offs.

Not only do I positively hate the "are you close" or "are you going to come for me" routines, but I also find that sometimes ladies don't take a fairly direct hint. Many are justifiably proud of their oral skills but seem to have a script in their mind and a set of assumptions about how it will / should go. Now maybe I'm really different, but the "usual" oral approach doesn't do it for me. I do try to communicate about what I prefer - what will make the task shorter and more pleasant for both of us - however, many ladies, even ladies with a great deal of experience, otherwise very sensitive GFE ladies, will return to their script pretty soon... I'm starting to almost dread "the finish" with ladies that I do not know well, who have not learned how to make it good for me..... and I've moved on from some ladies that I otherwise very much enjoyed who for some reason would not take a pretty direct hint....

But hang around anyway, because I'd hate to see you split.

3 suggestions - all easy to do:
1. In email correspondence, give the impression that you're looking forward to meeting. Even the "xoxo" before your name at the bottom enhances my anticipation of the visit.

2. Use my name. I started a General Thread on this, and didn't get a good insight from providers on why they never use my name in person, and rarely in emails. I guess I should be proactive and ask them to do this.

3. Follow-up email. Sending a brief email saying that you had a good time and look forward to meeting again would make me feel good, and increase the chance that I'll be a repeat client.

Maybe I'm too touchy-feely; feel free to tell me if you think so. Maybe providers feel like they give us plenty during the visit, and they shouldn't have to put in extra time or thought on the emails. Maybe providers think that using first names or emailing clients after the visit will increase the chance of guys getting too involved, stalking, etc.  I hope some providers comment.

The LAST thing I am trying to do is make the experience shorter!

are important to me. CK and I emailed back and forth for months before he asked me for a date.

I do like to get to know a lady's personality a little. These boards have been terrific for that, but the private emails are the best. When a lady actually takes the time to write a nice little note, it tells me that there is at least some interest. There are those who simply write "Call me". That's a bit of a turn off for me.

in wine glasses... it was a nice subtle scent... and the effect was spectacular... on another occasion I had strategically placed candles around the room.... we got so involved that we both forgot about the candles.... not good.... as the place almost caught on fire as the candles burned down to the base...

a very pleasant evening....

Are you trying to make it so that the lovely ladies here reading this post will avoid me like the plague because they think I’m a switch hitter when I try to contact them?!?!?!?

A date??  
A DATE !!?!?!?

This Kid don't swing that way. Now the emails setting up our mini M&G when you came East was a different story..

I expect a full explanation, retraction and compensation. Like perhaps using you as an excuse to be able to sneak away and spend some quality time with a certain lady of our mutual acquaintance?

Oh.

Never mind.

Did that already!!

LMAO

C_K

written me a nice glowing review.

1)  Turn your cell phone "off".  I turn mine off and don't wish to be disturbed for our time.

2)  My name isn't "Hon", "Honey" or whatever.  I will call you by your (stage) name, could you call me by my name?

3)  Be businesslike when necessary.  Return e-mails and phone calls promptly.  Be on time.  Once I had a very well respected lady show up an hour late and act as if nothing was wrong.  "Oh, I thought we were getting together at [time]."  I forgave her and we have become friends since but it was a downer at the time.

4)  Let's have fun together!!  Thank you ladies for helping us escape reality for a while.