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chardonay 42 Reviews 2051 reads
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I started to date a very nice lady recently and after a few weeks, the relationship turned more and more sexual (no sex) and she confessed me that she never had an orgasm ever.  The question for the board is if you have any recommendations on helping her to reach an orgasm.  I been with enough ladies to know what to do bcd but this case is new for me and I don't know if I should do/try something different with her.  Please serious answers only.

SinCitySinner625 reads

I guess you don't know how to use your tongue much...

You will learn grasshopper...or in this case lizard..

Say Hi to Gecko...  :D

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xxxenvy4u399 reads

Only you know how to do that! :-)

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xxxenvy4u405 reads

Different strokes for different folks.

First understand, if she has never had an O, then she  as explained in a post above, may have some issues with her personal image in her mind. She may not even be aware of it.

If you really care to make it happen for her, I'd suggest giving these steps a try.

Do not make it an issue.  
Do not make assumptions
Try your best on your end

After asking her what she enjoys most in foreplay, work with  what you learn of her enjoyment. Example, if she says oral, obviously, mix it up a bit. Try kissing her entirely. Shower together, lots if baby oil on each other, oiled bodies sliding together during forplay, then ---> head downstairs to work magic. Remember, if she does not cum, it's not an issue.  
Just keep trying. When done correctly, chanches are she is going to be a squirter. I mean, wow! Are you sure shehas nevercame? Hopefully ahe is not pulling your chain becauaseshe doesnt wanna hurt your ego. But whatever. You just keep trying. Lol
However, when you are performing, try gently inserting your well manicured, just cleansed finger into her while using an upward angle and motion. Be assertive, enjoy it, a little dominant, yet still gentle and tongue @ the same time. Do not be down to long. It tends to get boring.

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London Rayne641 reads

The female orgasm is more mental than physical. I was 25 when I had my first and was married. If a woman is insecure about her body, how she moves, how she sounds, etc. she won't be able to relax enough to allow herself to just let go. The hobby has seriously helped me in that respect. Now, I can have an orgasm whether the guy is good or not.  

Allow her to relax, talk to her while you are doing things to her, make her feel beautiful and sexy, and assure her she is "not taking too long.

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klumberg514 reads

Great advice

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liamdoherty366 reads

Thanks London, perfectly said.
If I might add, the brain is the largest sexual organ. All of us have differnt errogenous triggers. Taking your time with her, and discovering her errogenous zones......those physical touches that excite her, and the mental images that provoke her sexual/erotic responses.
As London said she must allow herself to relax, and release. It will happen, but be patient.
Good Luck

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Dr Who revived560 reads

Tell her how great she is.

Then give her Benjamin's....lots of them!

She'll have at least one big O for you.  If you want to give her another big O....

Give her more Benjamin's.

No need to thank me...it's a pleasure to see guys find their happiness.

Posted By: chardonay
I started to date a very nice lady recently and after a few weeks, the relationship turned more and more sexual (no sex) and she confessed me that she never had an orgasm ever.  The question for the board is if you have any recommendations on helping her to reach an orgasm.  I been with enough ladies to know what to do bcd but this case is new for me and I don't know if I should do/try something different with her.  Please serious answers only.

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London Rayne344 reads

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Dr Who revived436 reads

I think the gal the OP is talking about isn't a hooker.  

Not sure why he posted that shit here....but since you're the TER resident 'Dear Abby' I didn't want your drivel wasted on that dude.

Hey...do you want to suggest that his gal pal spit or swallow?

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London Rayne474 reads

And, it's not "drivel" lol. It is sound advice. If he wants to ask TER about his private affairs, it's not like I have anywhere else to be. :D

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Dr Who revived482 reads

Yep...put the gal in the drivers seat of a new car and push the ignition button.

She'll fucking squirt like hell.  I promise.  And as we all know squirting is an orgasm  LOL

No tips on spit or swallow?

Posted By: London Rayne
And, it's not "drivel" lol. It is sound advice. If he wants to ask TER about his private affairs, it's not like I have anywhere else to be. :D

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Businesses377 reads

Maybe she has a secret fetish that you don't know about.

Posted By: chardonay
I started to date a very nice lady recently and after a few weeks, the relationship turned more and more sexual (no sex) and she confessed me that she never had an orgasm ever.  The question for the board is if you have any recommendations on helping her to reach an orgasm.  I been with enough ladies to know what to do bcd but this case is new for me and I don't know if I should do/try something different with her.  Please serious answers only.

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inicky46341 reads

Just make her relax.  Tell her not to focus on the orgasm or put pressure on herself to have one.  After some repetition it will probably happen naturally, when she's stopped thinking about it.

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anonymousfun402 reads

What you do is only known to you and those you have been with. Based on that, you and those who you have been with know, what different you should do.  

If those who you have been with tells you what you should try different then, you have problem in the la la land. Whatever you did didn’t work for the one giving you the advise to try different.

Dude, you should be careful before asking such question.

Yep, I was bored but, the sun is up and the grass needs cutting so up I go.

Take it for the humor, OK

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lungman393 reads

Wow, what a drag.

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Cannonhome1450 reads

It's what you do outside the bedroom that will help. A woman's orgasm is as much mental as it is physical. I agree with others that she may have a self image problem that prevents her from letting go. Make her feel attractive and sexy to you. When she is confident in that, she will able to be free of her insecurities. Compliment her, flirt with her, tell her how hot she is and give it time to sink in. Good luck.

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