Better question, would she answer any other way than "yes"??

one fucking stupid question after another------

so how do you ask a provider if she is disease free?

If you feel you have to ask, then you should not have booked a date with her.....hello!!!!!!


Swim

Instead you do your diligence carefully; find someone who is well and favorably reviewed; who seems to be concerned about hygiene and safety with you (and likely others), and exercise due care - i.e. no BBFS.  If you get to the appointment and there seems to be a lack of cleanliness, you can always leave (though your probably out the donation) or restrcit activities to a very safe menu (i.e. BBBJ, no DATY,).  To me, after having done diligence and scheduled an appointment, to ask a question such as that just seems crass - If she does have something, do you expect her to tell you yes?

BBBJ is not a safe activity

Do you think it is not cool ask a gal if she get regular STD screening?

I guess just trying to find a provider that is and if you guys know of one please tell me so I can review her..Kinda dumb question I know just new to this and dont want to catch anything

isn't it still possible to catch an STD via bbbj? or am I wrong? truth be told I'd prefer a bj

Neither is crossing the street. So fucking what. Play the odds and live your life.

You seem to be searching for an answer that does not exist. There is no way to totally eliminate all possibility of LE or STD risk, so you have to do you own risk calculation, and then act in accordance with it. Suppose a lady showed you her negative test results. What confidence would that give you? How many guys has she seen since the blood for the test was drawn? No matter how careful she is in her work and personal life, the odds of infection can never be zero. What good does it do to ask someone if she is disease free. None that I can see.

My opinion is to always treat each provider with the proper respect when & if you ask, however, she may not even know if she has a STD. The best rule to live by is to play it safe & use protection & use common sense. I run an agency & my providers have clients everyday that want to "play" with out protection. The bottom line, you can never be sure so PLAY IT SAFE WHEN YOU PLAY!

Neither is pay-for-play.

It's below the gd board. All of these types of questions have been asked and answered ad nauseum on the newbie board.  Also you should read the The Self Help center on the newbie board main page in red print, upper right corner.

I'm certain you'll get a honest answer.

Involving a full bush and a self-inspection using a cigarette lighter for illumination.
However, I shall defer going further.

Interestingly enough, according to what I read a year or so ago on the CDC's website, there has never actually been a confirmed case of HIV/AIDS transmitted via oral sex. Mind you, they still say that it is "possible"...I guess the same way getting struck by lightning and winning the lottery is possible.

On the other hand, there are a host of other things that could be transmitted that way, all of which are curable - save for herpes, although all of them would be highly unpleasant.

The question is a bit insulting to say the least. There is no such thing as safe sex. If you have sex there is a chance of catching an STD especially if your partner has more then one sex partner like almost everyone in the hobby. Play safe and your risk drops but it will never be zero especially in P4P.

What you do to reduce your odds of getting an STD is to first educate yourself about STD and safe sex practices. Second, don't go bare back, always where a condom during any sexual activity that you find risky. Every sexual activity has some risk of spreading an STD. Remember condoms are not 100% effective on stopping the spread of STD but do greatly reduce the risk. Third, get screened often for STD yourself. That way you don't go spreading an STD yourself. Fourth, one of the reasons I love DATY is that I get a good look at the ladies pussy and can visually inspect her before any sexual activity including DATY. Fifth, There is a hepatitis A and B vaccine, get it.

If the risk of catching an STD is to high for you and remember the odds are never zero, you should not play. There are many risks in this hobby and an STD is just one of them. I posted a link to a good STD information site.

Why would someone callous and indifferent enough to continue working with a known STD honestly admit to having it?   They wouldn't.

The result is that you may screen out the women you want to see - those who take all necessary precautions.

If she is not disease free, does not know, or does not care, she will easily say yeah, no problem. If she is fastidious, takes care of herself and looks out for your well being, you run a real risk of offending her and ending the discussion. So the question is not going to get you any good information, and pretty likely to alienate the very women you want to find.

Next question is, okay, if I cannot ask, how can I know? You can't. You can infer that an established provider who conducts herself in a sensible and professional manner in other ways probably also pays attention to STD testing and safe sex (and there is one provider I know of who provides counseling and links for STD testing on her web site, so that seems a good sign, probably others like that out there, too). Between that, and taking all available precautions I can, I think this works.

But asking will not make things safer and may well make you less safe by making some safe providers unavailable to you.

Zig

About as honest an answer if I asked a monger...so I guess it's a waste of time eh?