I don't know, Shaye. The more I think about it, the sex is important, but its not all about the sex. That's kind of a vague answer, but I think you know what I'm trying to say.
..because it seems to be the 'Issue of the Day'.
First, one would have to define an addiction, which, I think we have before, but my interpretation would be that which consumes a person; disrupts the normal course of life. If you are losing your job, your relationship, family, house, sleep, health, etc because of it, it's an addiction. (Just summarizing here quickly, so I'm sure I'm skimming over key points). If someone is familiar at all with any 12-Step Programs 'questionnaire' and that is you, then it's likely you have an addiction.
I have a (civie) friend who's VP of his company. He can't sit through too many meetings in a row (even the Board meetings) without excusing himself to go to the men's room and relieve himself (no, not his bladder). He's late coming back from lunch because he ended up in the strip club and lost track of time there. He wasn't too happy with me for pointing out that I believe he has some problems. He just spent $7000 on a 'real doll' (www.realdoll.com - see my post on the SD board) and is renting a separate storage facility to house this 'doll' as well as other large toys. He's completely preoccupied with sex.
I would not consider myself a sex addict. I hope I am never consumed by something; that it has control over me. I DO have a high sex drive. My FB tells me that most women do not have a high drive - but, to me, I think my drive is normal. I mean, you eat every day, you sleep every day, I want sex every day. Twice a day's even better. I don't consider that 'high' but maybe it is in relation to the 'average woman'. I know all you sister Providers would agree-is it that we Providers just have high drives, and that's what makes us good providers (in part)?
My assumption would be that the addiction is to the orgasm - the 'high'. Would you agree, or disagree, or is it individual?
That certainly is the addictive part for me - the orgasm. I can't be one day without it. My next business trip is in October and I've made the arrangements, but will be sharing a room with another woman. My first thought is how will I get through even ONE day, let alone FIVE days without that personal time? So, because 'most' people don't even have that as a thought, and I'm seriously wondering about it, maybe that DOES make me an addict? I dunno..What do you think? But, then, as I say, we eat three times a day, if I feel the need to achieve an orgasm three times a day, am I an addict?
Good question, Shaye. Now you've got me wondering..
The worst possible situation is to get bored with sex after doing every possible thing. Personaly, I have tried to experience every type of fantasy that I could. This was simply to achieve relief from fantasy. I have found that the more that I do and see the less I want to do it.
That's my complex plan.
However, your danger is the money. You can't destroy yourself that way, as money is very difficult to get when you have run out of it. Anyway, think about what you are looking for from women and try to focus on how and when you will get it. Just don't go for anything. That bit is for the clients out there.
In general the only time that an "addiction" is bad is when it is causing harm. That's how you assess whether or not you want to stop. You have to ask yourself if you are happy or not. Another important element is long-term benefit of your behavior. I'm not happy to say this, but the escorts out there are really in a bad position when it comes to the long-term. Unless you have some other skill, you will make a lot of money when you are young but very little as you get older. At some point you will have to quit and get a regular job and your choices may be limited. This idea may sound like a lot of crap, but just imagine that if you made 200,000 by the time you were 35. How long would it last? It would not last very long.
Oh well, I don't want to be depressing and I'm not trying to say that anyone has a problem, but I just hate to see people unhappy. Take care!
