how long it takes to get an escort into bed IRL (when she quits work for the day)? As an escort, it takes an envelop full of money on the first and subsequent  appointmenst.

providers are kinda a

Sure thing . And for me , usually , 1 . But I pass till 3 . Unless I don't care for her , then 0.unlike Rod I don't shoplift the pootie .

to get to the tootsie roll center of a civvy girl?

OK, I'll say - Whatever SHE decides. And women are women. Providers are civvy women in "real life".

Know your market!!!

If you travel in the right circles, a civvie can be done without a date. I have a friend who specifically only targets lesbians. I myself look for the desperate housewives.  

I stopped playing the game years ago, been much happier, much more satasfied, and surprisingly, so have my partners.

how many dates, on average

On average, single civvie women who date single men tend to take it to bed by around the fourth date.  I read that in a woman's magazine some where and the only reason why I remember it is personally, I think that's rushing it a bit.  Some of my civvie gf's also agree that's about average.  Maybe 6 dates would be better, and you'd really get to know someone, that is, if you are thinking about something that could potentially be a long term thing.  I don't imagine providers are any different from civvies in their real world lives when it comes to relationships, but then I'm not speaking for all of them, naturally.

I didn't date a lot "back in the day", but I usually had sex (vaginal or oral) on the first, second or third date. Must have been the kind of women I dated, including my ex.

Before I ventured into this world, I usually wanted to see how things went in the bedroom on date 1 or 2. At the very least there better have been a super hot makeout session on date 1. No use wasting my time on someone who I don't feel chemistry with. Last time I broke that rule, I regretted it. Didn't even get a free meal out of him!!