Heading toward a divorce now and wondering about the next steps.
As a 60+ guy it's a strange world out there.  In some ways it would be nice to have a good personal relationship and someone to come home to. On the other hand.. having been in the hobby and accustomed to seeing girls in their 20s and 30s, it's complicated.  Ihave no real interest in women my age and not clear how young I can fish, or whether it's worth it.
Wondering how some guys have navigated this.. just staying single and mongering, or going after 40-year-olds and hoping for some sparks.

But I have been divorced well over 25 years and I am VERY happy staying that way. lol

 
Even women 20 years younger than me are too old as far as I am concerned.  I still fish in those 20's-30's waters, Perhaps a very well preserved 40 year old might catch my interest, but I sort of doubt it. One thing to fill the gap between hookers and civvie girls that has filled most of my needs over the last five years or so has been Sugar Babies. I keep a rotation of SB's mainly in their 20's with the occasional one over thirty and I get both companionship and sex out of the deal. I don't mind at all going to a restaurant with girl 40 years younger than me in tow. It does bother some guys, but I feel completely natural doing so. Actually I feel kind of weird being out with any woman even close to "age appropriate" for me. I went out with a woman in her late thirties not that long ago and everyone thought we were a married couple. ugh. lol

Soon to be 65....married in my early 20’s and divorced 10 years later.  As we mature the herd grows thinner.....actually dating has gotten so boring.  I don’t have the patience to build rapports through sugaring.  Decided several years back just to p4p.  90 per cent of my encounters are great.  Love the NSA, love the compassion,and most of all love the guarantee I am going to hit a home run on my terms and my schedule. Hobbling has made life so much simpler. Most of the providers I see are American Ladies 25-35 all faiths and all races.  Actually Bi Racial Ladies to me have the most beautiful skin. Alone and Never Lonely!

It is much easier dating now (early 60s) because of - statistics; more women than men. If you want to date 40 to 50 years old, its like shooting fish in a barrel, actually easier. I'm most comfortable with late 20s and early 30s. Enough worldly knowledge to keep up a conversation and for me feels better than early 20's. Also, women date men on looks as third or fourth importance. Young twenty year olds want bad boys. After getting slapped around or treated badly in general, they want somebody nice and stable. Yeah, truth may hurt, but money matters. As Marilyn Monroe said, "Its just as easy to date a rich man than a poor man, so why date a poor man".

Some guys need a woman to come home to.  But if you don't, and just would like meeting them for a few hours a week, then sugar dating, or visiting pros is one option.  You can also date in the civie world -- date, not marry or co-habit.
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Were I newly divorced I would establish a rotation of sugar babes.  It's a lot like civie dating except more guaranteed.  And they leave you alone when the date is over.  It's pretty ideal, actually, if you have the budget.
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So a foot in all worlds is the best variety option ... sugar babes, pros, and civie dates.

but want it with a younger woman looks outside the USA (not so easy to do just now). The extent to which that might still be compatible with P4P for variety not sure. You can definitely find a number or women half your age (and younger) that are interested in a relationship looking over seas. Many are much more interested in the financial and stability aspects than they are in the 100 fidelity aspect.

 
And, I'm sure someone has probably already said it, the SB world might fit the bill for you.

I'm 70 and nearly 14 years flying solo, which suits me just fine.  Went the civie dating route for a while, but found I no longer have the patience for it.  Was quite simply a PITA, and for sure a constant reminder of the headache/heartache/unhappiness that 2 marriages brought my way.  And the reward/withholding of intimacy based on whether I've lived up to someone else's expectation is not how I choose to live.  I'm totally happy with living alone, and without having to answer to anyone but myself.  I do what I want when I want.  I've evolved over the years from Nevada brothel visits, to independent escorts, to today a mix of escorts and sugar dates for companionship.  I identify as heterosexual polyamorous, and like to repeat with those gals that I have great chemistry with.  Something like 3 weeks between dates with a regular keeps things fresh and exciting.  Younger women are sure nice to look at, but I'll have me a hot, sexually confident, mature woman with some life experience that I can carry on a conversation with any day of the week.    

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Your feet are generally in your mouth.
Unless you've already filled it with one of these....

A Sugar Baby is cheaper than divorce. Sugar Baby can be almost as cheap as dating if you factor in the dinners, birthdays, Valentine's Day, and other holidays you don't have to do. Then factor in all the emotional bullshit you don't have to deal with then definitely a better deal. Per Martin Shean, "I'm not paying them for sex, I'm paying for them to go away".

 
Been divorced for awhile. I go out with female friends and have sex with providers. I prefer to keep the two separate. Avoids a lot of problems.

If you can get past the catfish, then you have to prove that you're not a catfish. If you prove you're not a catfish, you have to spend your hard earned money on someone with no expectation of getting anything in return. Then there's the women who want a husband , but don't want sex. IOW, finding someone who's compatible with you and will actually be hot for you is like winning the lottery. I don't reccomend dating or marriage to anyone.

That quote has been attributed to Charlie Sheen and many others, including Clark Gable and Jack Nicholson.