Not all in life is about sex.  But I have to say, and I am not writing this to provide a reason or try to analyze, rather to state the conclusions that I reach based on real life experiences...  On more than one occasion I have been to "Civie" dating events... and for the most part, you put yourself "out there" - that is, I will say, "hey, I like you, here is what I am about" in a totally honest manner... you talk about the things that interest you, your wants needs and other issues... and you try to listen to the other person's life...  For the most part, what I find are exceptionally self-centered egotists, who have never considered anything other than themselves... Sorry - that is just what I find - people who cannot see beyond themselves...  They are so focused on their needs - that they often discuss issues which in my world - are not even trivial... perceived slights - that don't exist... and even when you say, "hey, i kinda like you!  want to just go to lunch?" they act as if you had thrown a hornets' nest at them wrapped in poison ivy.... there is no polite "no, I am not really interested" or "you know what, while I am not attracted to you, maybe I will take you up on lunch, and see if there is something that I missed!?"  Nope! not with civie babes....

Ok, what have I found in escorts.  A couple that I know spent time in Mississippi and Louisiana actually WORKING to provide assistance for the Katrina victims... Others provide a portion of their funds for various charity and church group efforts....   Quite a few are continuing their education...  and some, spent their income caring for the elder parents or grandparents...

While none of these ladies are saints, they are ALWAYS polite (or at least the majority) and while I may or may not like their particular style in the bedroom, I do like their style in politeness and caring about other humans.  They don't rag on life's little glitches...  they actually do try to help others outside of the biz and for the most part they are honest, intelligent business women.

But civie dating- here is what I think it is, it is a marketing style designed to see who has the biggest bank book without having to see who has the biggest dick...  Yea, cynical man "love" has little to do with it.  it is not the escorts that drive me to that position, it is the civies.