I'm a relative newbie here so I just need to get some type clarification help if I can. I have been a member of TER for a while now and have read numerous reviews. Numerous in my case is hundreds if not thousands.
I understand the due diligence required to be safe in this hobby and do my best to do so. Our best tool, that I have discovered so far, for evaluating an experience ahead of time, are the reviews.
There are many ladies in my area that have multiple pages of great reviews, so they would be my first choice, but many of them also require references, not an easy thing for a newbie. I have been successful at contacting a few of these ladies and have been invited to a first visit with my limited experience in this hobby.
I have also read reviews with ratings in the 5 or 6 range, but when I read the actual review it is quite flattering to the experience so it leaves me at a loss as to the lower ratings. Or contrastingly, I have read 9 and 10 ratings that don't seem to be much fun after reading the actual review.
I suppose my question would be, How does one evaluate the reviews?
Toss them aside and give the experience a shot on its own? this seems contradictory to the due diligence theory.
Wait and seek out that perfect blend of great reviews and willingness to meet a newbie? This seems to be a search for a needle in a haystack.
Would just like to read what those experienced folks think about this.
Thanks for any help in advance.
Boris, using just the number scale along to judge reviews/ladies will leave you frustrated and confused. The actual text of the review will provide a much better idea of the experience, and hopefully an ad has pics that will give you at least a small visual flavor of looks. With that said my experiences with a provider whom I would rate a 6 in looks but a 9 in service was a much more enjoyable experience than ones I have rated a 9 in looks but 6 in service. Some reviewers have posted reviews of several providers rated as 10 "Once in a Lifetime", it always befuddled me to consider how it was possible to have multiple "Once in a Lifetime" experiences. Stick with providers with several pages of reviews, check to see how many providers the reviewers have seen, and trust the ones with the experience of many providers. At the end of the day the review and rating are subjective and each person has their own tastes. If you see a provider, and enjoy the experience, perhaps find a reviewer who also liked her, and check out some of other providers he has seen. This follow the trail approach has led me to several "gems". Good Luck and happy hobbying.
Perspective on your quote:
'Some reviewers have posted reviews of several providers rated as 10 "Once in a Lifetime", it always befuddled me to consider how it was possible to have multiple "Once in a Lifetime" experiences'
I can offer a few thoughts on why I think some may use this rating in a non-literal sense:
: First if someone takes 'once in a lifetime' so literally then nobody should use the rating until they know for certain that they are leaving the hobby for good or they are on their death beds. Then and only then could they reflect back on their 'lifetime' experiences and assign the '10' tag to the special one. Of course this would be in violation of TER guidelines that stipualte that reviews must be posted within 3 months of the session. Rather ridiculous to interpret the '10' rating category in such terms, don't you think?
: The gist of this very thread suggests that reviews are a valuable part of the process to assist the hobbyist in making informed decisions. As such a well-written and honest evaluation is mostly for the benefit of the reader. So when a hobbyist has multiple reviews where he assigned the '10' rating, one must not forget that the writer is trying to indicate to the reader that he feels that the lady in question will be a 'once in a lifteime' experience for the reader.
: When I reflect back on my time with a lady, I'll often think of my encounter in terms of how men in general (e.g. non-hobbyists) would think about this woman. How many of us have had the honor and privledge of being with a provider that in either appearance or performance would clearly represent a 'once in a lifetime' for your most typical guy?
: Guys giving out lots of 10's are easy markers, right? Maybe. Then again they simply may be finding what they seek. TER provides a nifty search engine that allows a hobbyist to find providers that satisfy his desired criteria. If he alwsys looks for 9's and 10's then guess what? If the gents before him gave honest evaluations and the ladies are consistently reviewed in that manner then of course he will find and select 9's and 10's. If a guy has a lot of 10's in his review history but each individual lady also carries those ratings on multiple reviews then there is nothing wrong with that picture.
: The hobby allows us the opprtunity to fulfill fantasy. For some this may mean being with lady who they feel is a 10 in looks and/or performance. If this is what makes a guy happy then the hobby will allow him to repeat that experience time and time again. So no guy should feel like he should withhold 10's like a holy grail, only to be distributed but one time. The hobby provides one with the chance to have 'once in a lifetime' experiences repeatedly.
I disagree on this somewhat.
I've noticed that for the most part, those who give 10s give LOTS of 10s. If you pull up their list of reviews, 10 of the 12 (for example) will be 10s. I immediately discount their score and pay attention more to the text.
I NEVER pay attention to appearance ratings. I've seen heavyset women who were rated by some as looking like a model. I'm glad they think so, but I don't. I doubt most of us would. I just remember that everybody has their own opinion on beauty and won't see somebody if I can't see pictures of them.
'I've noticed that for the most part, those who give 10s give LOTS of 10s. If you pull up their list of reviews, 10 of the 12 (for example) will be 10s....'
When you see this pattern look at the individual ladies reviews. If most of the ladies have plenty of other 10's then the reviewer may be a hobbyist who perfoms TER searches looking for 10's. In this case he may be merely giving out 10's with reckless abandon but rather he is finding the 10's that he seeks. On the other hand if none of his reviewed ladies have recieved 10's from other reviewers then perhaps something is amiss with his evaluation scale.
to click on the reviewer's name. Up will pop all of their reviews. You can then pick a few at random and see if the trend of giving a six or seven along with a favorable review continues. If so, then you have a hard grader and now you know how to interpret their reviews.
On the other hand if you see someone giving out all eights and nines and their reviews are a bit humdrum, then that tells you something else.
Reading reviews is an art form that takes a while to get the knack of.
If you see a provider with a lot of reviews by men who have only reviewed her or a very small number of women, then that is also a tip off that those reviews lack a certain level of authenticity.
I think the reviews are useful, but need to be evaluated carefully, looking in particular at other reviews the reviewers have done, sort of placing everything in context, etc. Going without a solid base of reviews is taking a risk, and I would not recommend it. (I have done it, and I've been sorry each time.)
As for willingness to meet a newbie, I really don't think that is such a big problem. Even very experienced providers will meet a completely new person if you give your full and correct name, a published phone number, and proof of where you work.
Finally, I would NOT recommend seeing someone who consistently was getting an overall performance rating of a 5 or 6. That will likely be a disappointing experience unless your standards are really low. I presume you are spending $200 at a minimum. Think about it -- would you spend a minimum of $200 on any experience expected to last an hour unless you knew it was going to be really good? I'd rather spend $500 on a great experience, than $200 three times on 3 mediocre experiences. But that's me -- looking for quality not quantity.
If you go on reviews, I would suggest that you look at the highest score... and then the lowest score... that is - if a gal has 10 pages of reviews, there will be one or two reviews.. that are not a 8, 9 or 10... look at the lowest most recent score.... The highest will give you what she is capable of making you feel like and the lowest will warn you about her "bad day." If you see someone with cosistant 5-7 - you may be as satisfied - as those with consistant 8-10s!
Rememeber each encounter is unique- you may hit a 7 gal... and she may just twig to you... and WOW the party begins. on the other hand, you may see a provider who has solid 9 and 10s... but you get her right after she finds out a loved on dies... has a car accident, and finds out "her man" is cheating on her... and your session may not be so good... So the advice is to read... also check on the reviewers... if I see a gal has ratings of 9s and 10s... and there is one 5 or 6, I will click on that reviewer to see if his scale is off kilter... sometimes yes, and sometimes no... but at least it helps put the actual single anamolous review in perspective.
NOW you asked for help... any help. I just had a session with a lady, that had I gone on recent reviews alone, I would have not even seen her. But she flirted with me on the boards, we exchanged e-mails... and know what?! She has aspects to the type of body I love... (Oh, and she gives an incredible BJ!) but what I liked was this was a person who chatted with me, had her own thoughts and was truly a fun time... From my experience - I would suggest that you flirt with the gal... in email and see if you like the personality... IMHO that is a better predictor of a great session than pages of reviews.
For the most part, providers are people, the reviews will keep you away from the ripoffs... they will not predict the chemistry that either is - or is not - persent in the session...
Hope this helps
In my opinion, it is best not to put too much stock in the number ratings.
Take for example, two people who have different tastes -- maybe one likes the rockin'-and-rollin' PSE experience, while one likes a shy and demure kind of girl-next-door. These two would almost certainly rate an identical experience completely differently, but, hopefully, they will describe the provider's personality the same way. The only time you would expect similar ratings in this scenario is if it was mediocre for the both of them.
That is speaking of performance, but the same is true for looks. Different tastes yield different scores. A guy who is into waifs and a guy who is into BBW simply won't rate the same way.
The bottom line is that unless you know the reviewer's taste, you won't know how to interpret his score.
Also, I once offended a provider by giving her too low a rating for looks. Which is not to say that I didn't find her attractive -- it is just that my idea of the number was different from hers. It was an unfortunate misunderstanding, but it begs the question of to what degree people inflate scores in an effort not to burn bridges. Or, alternatively, maybe drop scores in an effort to "punish" the provider for some kind of perceived slight.
The bottom line, I think, is that you should read the reviews and go with what the reviews say. If they consistantly describe a provider you want to spends some time with, then who cares what the precise numbers are?
I look for reviewers that have a number of reviews. I read their reviews of providers I have seen and compare my experiences to theirs. By doing this, I develop a respect for their opinion. This helps me make my mind up to either see or not see a provider. I also private e-mail them with questions sometimes.
I focus more on reading what the reviewer has stated than just comparing the numbers. Also, remember the profile is written by the first reviewer. If the profile says BBBJ and most of the reviews (if not all) say CBJ, then you disregard the profile.
Everybody is differant. My idea of a 10 might not be yours, you might only rate a 7. Every session is differant even when I see my atf. We all have ups and downs. No pun intended.