I am interested in how it is others have found their way to the hobby or to providing.
Clearly I know how i got here I was wondering about others.
In my case my ex was a hobbiest and when we broke I decided to see what it was he was finding here.I'm a quite sure the answers I was then looking for were answered quite differently than I had anticipated.I now can say I am clueless to what it is he found and have made a few personal discoveries that I have to be thankful for.How about you?  Kendall

This has been discussed before I think, but since you asked, Kendall, I'll tell you.  It's real simple, I wanted to have sex and intimacy with a real woman and do not have the time nor the inclination to go thru the dating rituals at my age (61) to get it.

I can have the benefits of a girlfriend with none of the hassles that go along with her.  Not only have I achieved my goals, but I have met some really nice ladies, yeah, guys too, along the way.  I actually keep in fairly close contact with a number of ladies and consider them more than just providers, but also friends.  I repeat with them when I can.

Swim

Thank you swimtrekr , I suppose it was probably asked before . I do appreciate your answering I have to say your response holds true for me as well . Kendall

Looking at real estate sites for property in North Carolina. When I clicked on a house that interested me, somehow, a lady's website popped up. At that point, I didn't have a clue that there were escorts with websites, and a whole new language that I didn't understand. Naturally, with my interest peaked, I did a lot of looking and learning. It took me a year and a half to work up the courage to call my first lady. By then, it had been about 3-1/2 years since I had had sex-at all-with anyone. Do ya' think I was ready? That was on December 11, 2005, and I'm still amazed at all of this, and that I can actually be part of it.

By the way, I never did get to see that first lady from the website. She retired before I could get there. I did send her an email, and thanked her.

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even before I found out that such a thing indeed existed.

From there on all it took was a catalyst, and that turned out to be the personals section of a weekly newspaper.

The rest as they say, is history.

I guess I was lucky b/c my first client was a sweetheart but... were he a jerk, that would've been the end of my little experiment

I stumbled upon the TER site, did some research and made my first date.

a planet run by damn dirty apes.  Oh BTW, you can get that gun from my cold dead hands anytime now.

Just a fortuitous accident.  Followed some links from Eros and Phoenix 411.  Wonderful discovery, pay my VIP dues, and worth every cent.

I was so thrilled by it and TER that I probably went a little crazy in the beginning.  I settled down and found my "niche" and love it.  Offers me a lot with little risk of discovery as long as I am careful.

would be easy to say bad marriage, never been married, or not easy to talk with civie women... and more excuses... Simple truths are

there are a lot of reasons....   and paths to this type of activity.... and perhaps slowly over the past year and a half, I have been discovering mine...  

Truth is, my parents had an idealic marriage.  They rarely had a disagreement - let alone a fight.  Perhaps it was that it was a different time....  my dad met my mom while he was a serviceman.... and that was at a time when men (and I mean Men in the truest sense of the word) joined up to defend their country and way of life - with no apologies - and the country was respectful and grateful to them for that.  My mother was a lady - a "stand by your man" type of woman - who would gladly sacrifice for her husband, her family and her country - and did, on many occasions.

A lot happened in this country since... but suffice to say, we seem to have changed.  Our leadership (if you can call it that) has changed.  Few are willing to stand up - and be counted for what they think right.  Few are unashamed for having the "old fashioned ideas" of truth and honesty.  The other day- my bank made no one but two mistakes in processing checks...  All I asked was that they admit the mistake - and tell me they were sorry.  I was told that was against company policy....!  Wow.  Talk about a shift.

anyway - I was born into a changing world... I was presented as a child with the idealic world of my parents.... and that was what I desired.  I know my parents had an amazing sex life...

Enter my world - I was relatively conservative in my political views... and the hippy dippy gals of my youth (and weren't they all) did not wish to go down that path... as I aged the pendulum began to edge the other way... and well, I started gettin' me some... but what I wanted was a very traditional marriage... kids, house even dog...

It wasn't happening.... I dabbled in the hobby - this was prior to the internet - but nothing serious... just an occasional roll in the hey.

Then, when I was not even looking for love or a mate as I had given up... I married - - and it was late in life....   and I might add - married someone who was something like me! or so I thought.  while a good person, we viewed many things differently.  

She eventually did what I should have done - found another person - and then divorced me....

I was out on my own... and got horny - was working in a metro area... and could not help but see the adds for massage parlors, and interesting get-away places... I went... I saw... I liked...  then I went with an agency gal - who did GFE.... and GFE meaning more than just the physical part of GFE.  It was a fantasy - I developed a hugh crush on this lady.  she was beautiful - had a career outside of the hobby - and in fact grew up and lived close to me...   I was in love.

or at least I told myself.  I came to realize that what I wanted in marriage - a person who (or at least pretended) was interested in what I had to say, was able to express her interest sexually, and who did not meet every statement out of my mouth as a challenge.... but rather as an interesting bit of information.  Someone who shared what interests we had in common - and differences - well - she did not accentuate the fact that we had them.... In short - what I found was a member of the opposite sex who was very nice to me - just as I had fantasized that my wife (when I married) would be.

Then someone put me to TER (and agency actually).  What I found was that there were providers and hobbiests who had similar - if not identical experiences.  they too, feel a bit cheated out of a good marriage - and this community - while it is not as great as my parents marriage....well  - it is a lot better than a bad marriage.

how did I get here?  by the grace of God.

like you I have made personal discoveries that I have to be thankful for.  Most important, over the past 1 1/2 year, I have made many discoveries that may in fact, be of hugh importance to my kids... and may in fact help them find happiness - in our changing world... yea... real answer - simple and significant.

I came accross an article in Playboy about TER and decided to see for myself. I had seen a few providers in the past, but never dreamed of anything like this. I read reviews and fantasized for quite a while before taking the plunge, but since then I'm like a kid in a candy store. I'm a relative newbie, but so far have had some amazing experiences. I wish I'd discovered the hobby much sooner.

Dude - all I can say is, "amen". If I posted, it be redundant to your summary.

My path to this world of Sex and Seduction

My path to this world of sex and seduction?

Easy:
My love of men, my interest in constantly seeking adventure and passion in life, my failed attempts at finding soulful emotional love and my victory in understanding that as a "service provider", I can offer men something that can evolve into a wonderful friendship over time and a long lasting memory of lust and pleasure too!

I have found my calling in this industry and I am happy to know that there are other women like me who enjoy what they do and are very content in finding a "craft" that goes back to the start of time.
--Sitara Devi

Re: My path to this world of Sex and Seduction

My story begins on 9/11. I saw some friends cheated out of life in their 30s and realized I was merely enduring life not living it. I opened my collar and my wallet and started working less and living more. I got poorer but richer for it. Somehow I stumbled on TER and arranged my first date and she was great and made me feel at least a decade younger and happier.  While collegues linger in their offices to avoid going home to unruley kids and loveless marriages I'm cutting out of work every chance I get to hang out with an assortment of fellow travellers, dancers and escorts some of whom are now very close friends. No regrets but sincere thanks and fondness to those I've met along the way.

I have to thank the media's coverage of the Eliot Spitzer mess for my introduction to TER and ultimately the hobby. I followed a link from drudgereport to another site with a reference to TER, and the rest is history. It pays to stay up on current events.

I had dated a girl in my early/mid 20s and the sex sucked (but she didn't, very little) and I was not really experienced much.  I actually lost my virginity to her (at 25!!!!).  We split up thank heaven and then I really wanted to have hot sex with a gorgeous woman who knew what they were doing and learn myself.  A friend of mine and I got a copy of Screw magazine (shows you how long ago that was) and the New Yorker, hit NYC, rented a room at a nice hotel and started calling.  We repeated this several times....some experiences good...some bad.  As we became more computer savvy and the industry started to move that way I ran across TER by complete accident.  It was awesome.  Can't tell you how many amazing ladies I never would have met if it wasn't got TER (now that is a shill....LOL).