you may or may not get off during your session with us gents or even want to, but you might as well enjoy it if we're going to be down there enjoying tasting you -

The “A” in DATY does not stand for aardvark. Do not approach the task like a hungry ant eater probing for a meal. Finesse is the name of the game.

is best.  

The biggest mistake men make in this area is thinking our clits are just smaller versions of their cocks...so they go at it the way they want their cock handled, sucked, or whatever.

I have an extremely sensitive joy button and indirect pressure is best and I swear some guys pretend they don't know when I have to disengage myself from their mouths and say gently please, they don't get it. If I have to take my foot and practically dislocate your shoulder, you're causing me extreme discomfort!!! And please don't try and suck on anything down there or my foot will find your shoulder.

Best thing is to listen to the lady you are with. REALLY listen we'll communicate what feels great, I do it verbally and through body language!!

Steph xoxo

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First (and most importantly), please for the love of everything that is holy do NOT pull my clitoral hood back under any circumstances. For me, direct stimulation of my clitoris is pure torture. It's not only an incredibly annoying feeling, but it's actually painful.  

so you can't count on a good answer from asking -

almost universally liked -

There is very little a guy can do if a lady does not want to get off. Sure, follow the responses and if you figure out she is not going to go anywhere, leave it.  If you are on point, and her responses tell you you're on the right track, keep at it, UNLESS she says I'm done, let's move on to something else.

Always start gentle and let her tell you when to suck harder or lick harder etc. if someone attacks my clit and tries to suck it off my body I firmly plant my palm on his forehead, push and scoot backwards, never to return. The damage has been done.

If you are on your back and he's gone pussy deaf between your legs, firmly plant one foot between his neck and shoulder and PUSH hard! Then scoot up, never to return, lol. Divert attention to his cock...

Just resist any temptation of using your teeth!

Steph xoxo

honestly I don't feel the need to ask -

I for one am just done when I don't cum fast enough for some gal and she starts just beating up my crank -

You think I go into the finest steakhouse and ask the chef "hey man how do you prefer I eat the steak?".

I love when we kiss extensively and your hands wander and just hint at touching me there. I like when you touch all around, but don't go straight for her. The teasing is like asking her permission. I get really wet when she's asked like that- with your hands. Gentle touches all around her while we are still kissing, and then move your hand over the pubic bone. Start at the top, and then feel downwards- just over the lips with the tips of your fingers. Don't dive in yet! Just pet her there briefly, still asking her permission with your gentle gouches. Feel my inevitable moisture- by now she'll be swollen and oozing- aching- for more. Then, if you like, you can part my lips with your fingers- I'll be gyrating for you- and feel how wet I am. Then move down with your mouth- flicker your tongue over the top part of my hood- the part closest to my belly button, in the opposite direction from the actual clit peaking out from beneath. Flicker there, and I'll guide you. Pay attention to my body language- subtle but persuasive- and you'll get me off very easily. I have that gift. You can even put your finger inside of me if your nails are well groomed and you'd like to. I'll be incredibly wet by then, and you can slide it right up in there, and feel my g-spot. Finger fuck me while flicking your tongue- maybe by then I'm pushing your face into me and gyrating, I'm going to come when I pull the pillow over my face. I'm a moaner! I'll come for you a zillion times if you have the desire to make me. Sometimes I get so orgasmic that I'll come just from the slightest touch, and sometimes even- though rarely- I'll be so peaked that I'll come even without your touch.  

OR you need to show documentation of a chef who serves steak that's attached to his body, nerve endings and all.  

Beautiful.

At least change the raccoon/garbage dump metaphor to a Tuscan truffle pig burrowing at a tree stump.

How many of you like a long lead-up to DATY like Sarah does?

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slow the fuck down, and back off the hard pressure on the clit!
Most improved after several attempts, and with much coaching.
I don't think that I have ever had to coach a woman that, tho.
So I guess it really is true after all!

The earthy ambrosia of the elusive white truffle displaced by a discarded jar of super chunk.

But, I know it has something to do with the hood. That does the trick for me after the slow buildup.

Thanks for the thrill, Sarah!

You have a grunting pig, a gnarly tree stump and buried fungi.  

Oh, and your analogies suck too.  Think analogies.  Dipshit.

It is chunkier at the top of the jar.. Just after opening one is the best part.

I'm with Sarah!  Doesn't have to be a real long lead up to it, but some light touching and teasing definitely gets everything ready down there.  And as the other ladies said, soft, gentle teasing is the way to go. Absolutely no biting, sucking or hard pressure.  If the lady is pushing, or kicking you away, that does not mean dig in harder.

the analogy is VALID - repeat V-A-L-I-D.

Pigs are like saints as they are revered more in death than in life.

My favorite DATY experiences have been where I sit on the floor with my back to the bed or a chair and the lady strattles my face. My hands on her ass, her hands behind my head. When you get the elevations correct, with heels and/or a pillow, it can be great for both of us. Her hands behind my head allow her to control the location, tempo and depth. Be careful, though, you may need to catch her when her knees buckle.

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Yourself or another woman...?

since the post about sucking cock was up I thought a lot of people might enjoy this convo as well....      

I was with a couple my first two times. And once was a double with one of my girlfriends who was trying to get started in the biz.

That whole little scenario doesn't have to take a long time.

Did not want to DATY. It rarely if ever works and I allow it because they want it. You go down and chew away at my lady parts and I will kick you in the dentures, just so you know. Those are my rules. You might have the money honey, and you are welcome to go elsewhere to spend it.  

feel the same way you do. If I come upon a lady with your preference I usually dont see them again. Although it's not always in the cards strict indifference to it is a turn off.