Do you think your wives, or fiances, or gfs would understand if they found out that you hobby? I wonder how many hobbyists actually introduced their SO to hobbying.  

Lol some girls are ok with 3somes one day...then not ok with it the next day...some women might be more pissed about their man putting money into another woman's pcket over the actual cheating part.. Shits cray..  

Though I think she used it as a pretext to get a good divorce settlement because for a while she wanted to meet my closest providers for threesomes.  

I liked for the subject line alone lmao. EOM

I'm single, and don't really have the desire to get married. If I was in a committed relationship, I probably wouldn't see escorts (unless I had my girlfriend's permission).  

when she found out what i did.....but we have been together for a very very long time, and lucky for me she forgave me and chose to join me in the hobby, now we only do this together..........never again would i put her through the pain i caused her......we have a great time now and i love it!!

The comment about Tinder being rife with people looking for the elusive "unicorn" (single woman to be part of MFF 3 way) is so true. Also the same on other hookup sites and SB/SD sites.  

You think so?
 

Male or female, if they don't have an "open relationship" then it's adultery, cheating, whatever-you-wanna-call-it, regardless of who their partner is screwing.  

She does not want me to even date other people.    I miss the hobby and only been gone 1 month.  Hard to do this dating.     Love the p4p and no bloviating.     She would have a fit about the hobby.    She doesn't even like a waitress at the waffle house because one screwed a girlfriends husband.   Lol.

This is a separate world for me and I choose discreet!

i completely agree with you...

Posted By: DebbieNoonerGirl

Male or female, if they don't have an "open relationship" then it's adultery, cheating, whatever-you-wanna-call-it, regardless of who their partner is screwing.    
   
 Then there's the usual stereotypes about escorts which can come into play: that he likely caught something and brought it home to her, if he's seeing escorts he must be doing drugs too, or that it obviously means he has a desire to demean women.... because all escorts are being degraded, of course.  
   

Posted By: TS Sasha

Maybe they are just too cheap to hire an escort lol.    
     
  Thoughts?

   
 Having spent a significant amount of time in the swinger world, I can tell you that the female half of any couple seeking FMF is going to be just as biased against escorts as any other civvie woman.  Some of them are even more prejudiced against providers because they honestly believe we're setting women back;  harming other women's efforts to be free of social stigmas regarding sexuality vs morality.    
   
 It usually has nothing to do with spending money, as "lifestyle" couples often spend quite a bit of cash going to parties, Meet N Greets, on website memberships, etc before even getting to play.  Some make regular trips to Vegas just to play.  
   
 Sure there are a few who have gone the escort route, and probably far more than will admit to it, but many of the ones who have definitely look at it as being something dirty, illicit, and even a little bit shameful.    
   
 The women don't want to be with an escort either for the reasons already mentioned, fear of STDs, or simply because they can't believe a pro would be really "into it".  They only want to fuck someone who's there solely because she wants it too, no compensation involved.    
   
 I cannot fault them for that last reason, though I do take issue with pretty much all of the others lol.    
   
 One little tidbit: I learned that with many/most of the couples seeking FMF, the female is not actually bisexual or even truly bi-curious.  She's just going along with it for her SO.  Big bummer for me. LOL.  
 That's just one of the reasons I was never very comfortable seeing couples as a provider, and no longer offer it now.    
   
 xoxoxoxoxooxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxxooxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxox  
   
   
   
   
   
 NOONER: (noun) A sexual encounter during lunch hour, especially one that is illicit.  

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and so now I am an old man with no wife and no family (kids haven't talked to me in 7 years).  But, now I don't have to hide it anymore and man that's refreshing.

have rules against having pros involved. Debbie is correct about female swingers. They get wind a provider is involved and see ya. I know if I ever brought up the subject of including a pro our little "off the books fun" would come to a sudden stop.

Posted By: DebbieNoonerGirl

Male or female, if they don't have an "open relationship" then it's adultery, cheating, whatever-you-wanna-call-it, regardless of who their partner is screwing.    
   
 Then there's the usual stereotypes about escorts which can come into play: that he likely caught something and brought it home to her, if he's seeing escorts he must be doing drugs too, or that it obviously means he has a desire to demean women.... because all escorts are being degraded, of course.  
   

Posted By: TS Sasha

Maybe they are just too cheap to hire an escort lol.    
     
  Thoughts?

   
 Having spent a significant amount of time in the swinger world, I can tell you that the female half of any couple seeking FMF is going to be just as biased against escorts as any other civvie woman.  Some of them are even more prejudiced against providers because they honestly believe we're setting women back;  harming other women's efforts to be free of social stigmas regarding sexuality vs morality.    
   
 It usually has nothing to do with spending money, as "lifestyle" couples often spend quite a bit of cash going to parties, Meet N Greets, on website memberships, etc before even getting to play.  Some make regular trips to Vegas just to play.  
   
 Sure there are a few who have gone the escort route, and probably far more than will admit to it, but many of the ones who have definitely look at it as being something dirty, illicit, and even a little bit shameful.    
   
 The women don't want to be with an escort either for the reasons already mentioned, fear of STDs, or simply because they can't believe a pro would be really "into it".  They only want to fuck someone who's there solely because she wants it too, no compensation involved.    
   
 I cannot fault them for that last reason, though I do take issue with pretty much all of the others lol.    
   
 One little tidbit: I learned that with many/most of the couples seeking FMF, the female is not actually bisexual or even truly bi-curious.  She's just going along with it for her SO.  Big bummer for me. LOL.  
 That's just one of the reasons I was never very comfortable seeing couples as a provider, and no longer offer it now.    
   
 xoxoxoxoxooxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxxooxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxox  
   
   
   
   
   
 NOONER: (noun) A sexual encounter during lunch hour, especially one that is illicit.  

-- Modified on 3/20/2016 6:30:39 AM

... like you suggest, she does not like the idea of hiring a professional.  

If my man is in need of sex elsewhere I'd be upset naturally, but I'd prefer he was seeing a provider than boning some woman in his office on the side. This is a service, it's business, no feelings are involved, I won't get breathy phone calls in the night from some stalker girl, providers look after their sexual health and use covers so I won't get some STI.
Logically it makes more sense for women to be less upset about it than an affair I think?

Yes, it is more logical, but just ask any hooker who has ever had to field a call as the "other woman" about how logical any of those women were at the time.

is when did women become possessive of their male mates?

She is BSing you, read between the lines.

We are almost all possessive as shit.  Your ignorance of this is astounding.

Did you read any of his last several posts? Many of them were completely out of character for him and actually made sense. I have to confess I am kind of relieved to have our moron back to his usual rather obtuse self.

Men are predominately the more possessive sex.

And as is the case with 99% of what you write, it was simply wrong.  As was your follow-up.

Name one culture where women can own a man as property

I honestly don't expect you realize how nonsensical that is.  Name one culture where men can own women as property.

Absolutely! And without a doubt.

I think you nailed it on the head.

I mean reproductively speaking. Males are possessive because they need to ensure that their genes are passed on, and that he doesn't waste his time and energy rearing someone else's offspring.

where were you when I needed someone to explain that to the ex?