I just recently posted on the LA Board about my recent unfortunate woes with the law. When I was posting, something I saw really stunned me. I didn't realize that a lot of men have the opinion, and I quote, "....we all love the rush of taking risks....".  This was in reference to having unprotected sex. In this day and age, how could anyone 18 and up and especially anyone who is in their 30's or 40's, who should be sensible and more responsible, see having unprotected sex that could lead to an early death and place anyone they come into contact with in health risk as "a risky fun rush"??

I am in my thirties and participated in this biz for 3 years and never once even thought of being with any gentleman by putting my health at risk for a "rush". When does one begin to think unselfishly about endangering others, their families and themselves or do they? Everyone who is in this biz, is in it for whatever their reasons may be and they are your own business. However, if you are a part of it, then it makes sense to be responsible, if not for yourself, then for others whom you participate with.

there's enough rush and enough risk from having PROTECTED sex with a stranger for any reasonable human being.  People who have unprotected sex are into something very different....

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The ploys:

Can't we just take it off? They sit and sulk with their wilting erection. I am not used to using condoms. I can't keep it hard. My fav: it sees it coming and it goes into its shell. They try and tap my clit with their penis porn style. They try and slide it on top of my clit. They tell me how x provider "suprised" them. These are the ways that will lead them out the door.

I added a 5/11 post to a 5/10 string on the Chicago board entitled "DATY and HIV risk".  Ran longer than I intended cause I let my imagination run a bit, but maybe pertinent to this string.  Anyone interested might want to take a look.

I did go to a local strip club just last week. Met a really hot looking Naomi Campbell type. We went up to the VIP to play.

We really got hot and she unzipped me...took it out...pulled her g-string aside and started to move down like she was going to go for it. I lost my erection right there. Scared the shit out of me. All I could think of was the likelyhood of coming down with something really bad.

Funny because I used to dislike condoms. Now I really cant even think of not using one.

Just me.

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did use a rubber then about 4 days later he called me and asked if I would be so kind and Not use a rubber. I said are you kidding me. Hell no. He then said do I know of anyone that would go Bare back. I said no and I do wish you luck on living the rest of your life if that is what you want to do but I love life and want to be around for a long time and if I didn't use rubbers then I won't be around for long.

This thread has remembering a since passed-away friend who was HIV+ for many years. He and his boyfriend (also HIV+) were very anonymously promiscuous (sp?) The boyfriend was even a part-time pro.

Whenever I asked if safe sex were being performed, I got an answer that personally didn't feel like the right answer: "How could you not?" Menwhile they were messing around in dark theaters, etc.

So who knows?

I was with a visiting girl last week, and she was very open about her desire for safety. I had no problem with this at all. I can appreciate all the work put into this job you call hobby (I don't call it that). Also I find communication very stimulating, so this honesty about our welfare didn't turn me off in the least. It kept things human.

Peace.

and he persisted on irritating the heck out of me. He also kept saying, "I will only see you and no one else if you allow me to go bareback."  I got so sick of his begging and trying to make me feel worthless for it, so I stopped seeing him. He was a real jerk, because he tried this with several providers. Now, I hear he's back with his wife. I only wish her the best of luck.

Hugs,
Ciara

Another city, another stripper.  Same story.  Or at least the same beginning.  I had to stop her and put a condom on.  But yeah, she probably was barebacking other guys.  Spooky shit.  

Is it because these girls can tell themselves they're not going to do it that the barebacking comes up?

The twenty percent enhanced sensation for your penis is not worth the risk of the years of misery and early death from AIDS, nor the added "pleasure" knowing you passed it on by seeking your thrill.  

This is a no brainer.  Either he doesn't believe the diseases are real or serious, or he has an unmentioned thrill in persuading a woman to be suicidal with him.  This is pathological.

/Zin

What about those jerks that think they are slick and try to take it of while changing positions... hmmm so sad last condom I had should have kept it on now all I can give you is a HJ... lol I am sure more than one was not amused by that response... and hey who cares if I DID have more protection... they were willing to risk my safety without my consent...and to the door they went sad, mad, who cares... not the type of clientele I want anyways...