Physical attributes are always much easier to define, and a client can search for whatever it is he likes, height, hair colour, ethnicity, breast size etc. whether as something he just sees as attractive, or something he has no experience of in his ‘real world’ life.
Beyond the physical I know myself that what I find attractive as a client is what I find attractive as a man, and I make an effort to find it in both the real world and in the world of the ‘hobby’.
There is that ephemeral sense of the personality of the lady you want to meet but something you will only discover when you start to speak to them. Websites and other online presences help, but it’s only when you start to communicate, or when that door opens, that you can start to see if she has what you’re after. In the same way if you pass a woman on the street you will think you have some idea of her personality by the way she dresses and the way she carries herself, and you may think this is someone I would like to know, but it’s only when you start to talk that you get an idea of whether your guesses were correct or not.
Essentially, for me, it boils down to intelligence, bundled of course with wit and charm. I do like to spend time with women who excite me mentally as well as physically. I want someone who will engage with me instead of just blankly pandering to whatever I want. I want someone who will challenge me, at least open my eyes to other experiences and opinions. We certainly don’t need to argue but someone who automatically agrees with everything I say will just leave me uncertain as I’ll just think she’s playing too much of a part. I don’t want someone who will dumb down for me, if you’re smarter than me (not hard) don’t be afraid to show it, it’s much more of a turn on than a constant inane giggle after everything I say.
Of course there is a fantasy element in all of this, but I always like to feel that we’ve made a, even temporary, connection as two human beings. Talking before and after sex can be as much a part of the enjoyment of the experience as anything else. What will make me want to come back to see a lady is never anything physical, it’s always that sense that here is a woman I would like to know better, that thing that’s impossible to pin down, that little bit of magic she possesses, her character.
Of course I know that the minute that door opens I may be everything she does NOT want to see or spend time with, so I suppose I’m asking that she’ll at least leave me with a sense that we have connected on some level, even if it is for a short period of time.
Shorter meetings really only lend themselves to the physical, and that sort of encounter has its place, but when I meet a woman whose mind excites me, as much if not more so than her body, then I know I will want to spend more and more time with h
