Everyone agrees that stalkers are bad and should be deterred.  Everyone agrees that safety is important.  Everyone, however, won't agree with this post.  But hopefully this post will elevate the discussion.  Wishful thinking?At any rate ...    

...ARE creepy and potential stalkers.  If she doesn't want to see you, move on!  Why would you want to bang your head against the wall just to try to get to bang a provider who has made up her mind about you, rightly or wrongly?

This might all be true.  But I'll move on if they don't respond in 48 hours, let alone give a reason.   I actually composed a spreadsheet of the ones I want to see -- and the funds to see them all just can't be justified.  If one drops off the list, the list is still huge.

Your argument requires us to believe that stalking is a normative behavior response to rejection. I assure you, such is not the case. Stalking is a pathology evidenced by inept interpersonal skills, a sense of entitlement, erotomaniac delusions and most importantly, obliviousness to the victim’s response. These manifestations exist long before the client even contacts a provider.  

More like getting up and dusting yourself off after falling on your face.   Or ensuring this time that they are not misunderstood.   Which are normal responses.   Moving on is a response that may require new conditioning.   Especially for new folks.  Personally,  I would just move on and look at it as she just saved me $500.

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The poor stalker just couldn't help himself. It must be her freaking fault.  
Taking a backwards step in evolution one more time, OP.

I'm a landlubber.  

Yeah, seriously. THIS logic is what's creepy.

You sound more like the guy standing over a dead girls body with a bloody knife in his hand pleading to the cops "she drove me to it, if she had just "talked to me" I wouldn't have had to kill her"

I thought about saying seek help before you get arrested, but I believe his being arrested would be good for the community, overall.

It's always the woman's fault. After all ,  the first lesson in the Bible is the " woman tricked me into eating the damn fruit"!
And rape is always triggered by a woman's inappropriate  dress or behavior. And " no" really means " yes.....F me hard " .

I do just move on.  But that is because I have been doing this for years, want to avoid nonsense and drama, and believe that is the most efficient response.  Probably most everyone who reads and posts on these boards does the same.  Most of us have lists of ladies 10+ deep.  For the newbie or less established it is probably a different story.  Don't shoot the messenger I am just trying to provide insight into how these guys think to prevent problems.

No I think that guys should encourage guys to move on and ladies should reflect on how they could prevent problems.  Everyone always wants to escalate rather than deescalate,  not acknowledge how others feel, be callous, and not give people opportunities for growth.

You just said "You are missing the point." To yourself. I agree! LMFAO

This is NOT my thinking.  I am explaining the undesirable behavior and WHY some of these guys react this way so that people could better understand the problem.   I knew that many wouldn't get it.

Yikes!

Much better to trust your intuition, turn him down, but do so empathically in a way that is appropriate if the situation merits that.  Recognize that every situation is different.  Just reject him the way that you would want to be rejected.  

Be honest. You hacked my email and plagiarized my shit, didn't you?

Nah,

and if a hooker doesn't get back to me, I barely even notice in most cases as by the time I have figured out she hasn't gotten back to me, most likely I will have already been with three or four other women.  

Thanks for taking the time to explain it to him. I was just going to say that his hypothesis was lame...

Your OP would have made more sense if the hypothesis was about what type of tricks become that way rather than blaming the victim.

lists of ladies that are 10+ deep.  I only need 7-8 deep, so that's what's on my list.  Kudo's to you, big boy, if you need 10+ deep.  

alcoholics out of this. We tend to drink because we're thirsty.

Your third paragraph (where you give an example of the husband and wife) is known as law of attraction. There's a shitload of books/theories etc about this (the most widely known probably 'The Secret') with divided opinions. It seem to be either accepted (like a lightbulb moment) or completely rejected as utter bullshit. I haven't ever really seen anything in between. The law of attraction is widely used for mindset coaching (Tony Robbins we al) and is heavily utilised in networking marketing. Controversial? Yes. Proven to work? Yes

Because of things that I've said and done in my past that were pretty shitty or not appropriate strong reactions, I've lost some friends. However, I am still thankful to them for getting in my face and rudely confronting me, telling the public even, and being extremely straightforward and very harsh about it. Was that the perfect response? I don't know. But it worked. I learned a valuable life lesson that I will never forget. Sure, it hurt, but sometimes the painful truth is what helps us change. Or realize what we're doing. Sometimes when you cry mercy, and people keep kicking you, yeah. That's wrong. If the person backs off and changes, then it's time to back off.

Fair enough.

My bad. lol

Lol

Again, you seem to miss the point and irrationally influence others to do the same.  You could just randomly post something entirely misleading and nonsensical in the middle of a thread and shape the thoughts of those who can't think for themselves.

I have been told that GaGa may have some redeeming qualities.

and those are my best qualities, some people might find them redeeming I suppose. lol

Yes, but you are not insecure.  That is the only redeeming quality that we were able to come up with.

This is getting weird.  

Talking is one of them, and So Many Other Things To Do With Our Mouths .
Get my drift.. KISS,  KEEP IT SIMPLE SEXY!! AND FUN .
WINK

Based upon that interpretation are you telling me you can't see any validity in that verse?

Chick tries to be nice, says "sorry but I'm afraid I must decline your offer because you made me feel uncomfortable.  best of luck out there!"  

Her: Dude, you're creepy. Go away.

Oh , we get what you wrote.  
You were explaining the errant thinking and why these guys have these expectations.  

Poor Duncey can barely write a coherent sentence and routinely butchers simple English.

Over thinker. Relax, fun, and keep things professional.  How much time do you have on your hands?

Justifying creepy stalker behavior is condoning it, in my book.  People know (and I mean Guys and Gals can be stalkers) when they are "stalking" and they do it because THEY CAN GET AWAY WITH IT.