We posted a thread asking what your absolute deal breakers are with a provider and the top six were:

1. No DFK allowed
2. CBJ only
3. No DATY allowed
4. Excessive screening information required
5. Bad attitude on the boards and/or during the introduction process
6. Smokers

This is just informational only.

By rank:

If you don't get to see her yet:

1) Excessive screening esp. when it is a scam (credit card required during screening via third-party website)

2) NCNS & late more than 45 minutes (could mean she double booked and she's lettin you wait)

If you do get to her room:

1) Bad attitude - cold/mechanical during intro process
2) Both at the same time - No DATY No DFK
3) No DATY
4) No DFK
5) CBJ
6) Smoker

1. Dealbreaker
2. n/a
3.Dealbreaker
4. I'm outta here
5. Can't get away FAST enough
6. I struggle with this one.


May i recommend............wonderful to work with

4 and 5. Absolutely.

4) They are NOT getting my personal information. Period the end. I have no trouble seeing well reviewed providers with references alone.

5) I happen to read board posts of every TER provider that I have an interest in seeing. I have excluded many providers based on their board posts.

Everything else on your list can be overlooked for the right provider.

Its a shame because there are soooo many extremely sexy women out there but some of them just don't allow some very important interests.

My Deal breakers and deal killers.

Deal Breakers:

1) Cbj
2) No Dfk
3) No Daty

And one issue that is a deal killer that I'm surprised was not mentioned on either board

4) cell phone use during session.



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1.  Dealbreaker.
2.  Much as I love BBBJ, FS is the bees knees.
3.  Dealbreaker.
4.  I would pass if she went too far with this.
5.  Not a consideration.  Some of my best times were with ladies the rest of the board populace hated.
6.  Not a consideration.  I have no problem with a an afterglow ciggie, nor with 420.  Always cool...

FYI only.

1. No DFK allowed - DFK is something I want from a girlfriend. The hobby is not a dating service. If she wants to swap spit I'm game, and I really enjoy it, but I do not require it. CERTAINLY not a deal breaker.


2. CBJ only - kind of agree here. I primarily shop for BBBJCIM. BUT I have had a couple of CBJs that rocked. If the rest of the package is primo, CBJ is not a deal breaker for me.


3. No DATY allowed - you gotta realize that most providers "allow" DATY for the client. From what I hear most guys don't have a clue, and many providers grin and bear it. If she really is not of a mindset to enjoy DATY I don't care to waste my time on it. It's not doing anything for me lol. OTOH if she really likes it, wants to cum on my face, I'll give it the old college try...


4. Excessive screening information required - Agree 100%. Anything more than my first name, review board handles, DateCheck and P411 and my throw away cell number is too much for my taste. I fully support the right ofa provider to screen as hard as she wishes. I'd never debate the point. But if she wants more than I care to give, I move on. Lotsa pretty fish in the sea.

5. Bad attitude on the boards and/or during the introduction process -  Oh, HELL no! In my experience, a lot of the best sex I've ever had has been with women who were totally batshit crazy. A lot more has been with women who had strong personalities - whom  I might well not *like* "in person" - but again, it's not a dating service. And a few hookups I've had with providers who had conflict with me on the board ALL went very well thank you very much....

6. Smokers - I could not give a shit. I'm a Kona coffee and Single Malt drinker. You think I could even *taste* cigarette? LOL.....

Deal Breakers:

Screening beyond my comfort level

reviews that indicate disinterest or inconsistency
or a lot of YMMV

no personal website - ie BP CL CV Eros etc ad only, no go

if she does not do DFK Daty and BBBJ (all three), forget it. Her approach is not going to work for me. I'm not into the pincushion model of providing. However any one may be omitted if the rest of the package is pleasing...

larger than a size 6

lack of tone and fitness (gotta trust the pics for these last two, and sometimest that's a crap shoot lol)


Deal Makers -

I like her performance as established by reading many reviews, not referring to scores alone

Her presentation and reviews suggest that there is something interesting about her (provider) personality

Her reviews suggest a high degree of willingness to enjoy a client - not detached, clinical.

Her reviews suggest willing and highly proficient cocksucking


I like her appearance (again trusting in pics / reviews which is a crapshoot)

That's about it, really  How simple is that??

Interesting and understandable. The east coast has so much to offer.

However, I haven't been a size 6 since the 5th grade. I've always been well proportioned for my size and taller than all the boys in school.

I'm a size 10 and love to kiss!

xoxo Di

1.  Excessive screening (I will not give out personal info)

2.  Pics not as advertised

3.  Smokers

4.  Haughty attitude

5.  In a hurry

3, 3, 3, and 3.

From a starting point of "0", and -10 being a deal breaker:

1 = -3
2 = -3
3 = -20  :P
4 - -7
5 - -10
6 = Tough one.  Anywhere from 0 to -10, depending on how strong the taste/smell is.

This thread is a good illustration on how we all want different things.

and I am not one of those guys who denigrates "normal" sized to BBW women. Different strokes for different folks.

I have donated to see women larger than size 6 when everything else was to my liking. But of course, in the context of this post we are talking "ideals" here.

And truthfully I find it easier to respond physically to a size 0/2/4 lady - they are more my "type", more of what I am accustomed to in my personal life as  well.

But hey - I "imprinted" on little Asian spinners back in the day.....

In *your* case however, you are a fantastically proportioned size 10. You've really got it goin' on. And I like what I see when I read your reviews as well. I think we'd get along fine

Cheers

GTM

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CBJ only is the worst for me. I don't care about no DATY, I only enjoy that with certain providers anyway. No DFK allowed is fine as long as it's not YMMV. Some providers I've been with have a much too aggressive DFK style than I like anyway.

I haven't run into excessive screening information required yet, and I completely stay away from the girls with the bad attitudes.

NCNS of course is theultimate in flakyness, but it happens to a lesser degree with many providers. Things like being nonresponsive to phone call/emails etc will put a lady on my "must miss" list

spend any time thinking too much about, "deal breakers." I tend to focus on the object of my desire, and then pursue her. I suppose, subconsciously all 6 of those points cause me to rule out a lady. The main thing that catches my eye is a wide variation in appearance and performance scores.

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No DFK. Not a big deal. The whole 'package' is what I'm after anyway. I'll use my tongue elsewhere.

CBJ only? Again, not a big deal. I've had great dates with CBJ girls because the main thing is to use it somewhere's else.

No DATY. HERE is a problem. I loves my DATY. And I hope the ladies I know can appreciate it too.

Excessive screening? Well, I've been pretty lucky, or maybe because I'm on these boards all the fucking time, that my screening has been pretty light. Actually didn't know I've been screened sometimes.

Bad attitude. You're talking to ME about attitude?! lol!!!

Smokers. I smoke, so WTF?

All very interesting.It just shows how different we all can be?
  How about providers? What is a deal breaker for them?

and started watch the 1932 Classic Tarzan The Ape Man with Johnny Weismuller and Maureen O'Sullivan.

I don't think there was any deal breakers back in the jungle. After all, 'me tarzan, you jane' and nobody else out here besides my elephant and ape friends. The eatin is good, some wildabeast, and somedays Zebra meat, fresh water (I think) and some joint swinging in the vines. What more could one ask for? Pickens are slim but looks like they were having fun. No Deal Busters. lmfao

Well on second thought perhaps swinging through the vines with Allure would be cool. Me Tarzan you BBBJ!

Now that was funny:  

"Smokers - I could not give a shit. I'm a Kona coffee and Single Malt drinker. You think I could even *taste* cigarette? LOL....."


Hugs,
Ciara

I certainly don't want to meet with a lady that feels she HAS to. I want to meet with her because she WANTS to.

Yeah, I know I have to pay her. But I want her to have as good as time that I have.

Know what I'm sayin'?

1. Refusal to take a shower....no one wants to toss dingle berry salad, smell your armpits, or put our mouths on your tool and it aint clean!

2. Bad Breath...orange and green teeth are NOT SEXY and THEY ALWAYS WANT TO DFK? EWWWWWWW EWWWWWWWW!!

3. Being EXTREMELY Morbidly Obese........I think those funds spent on hobbying could be better allocated in the search and reception of the services of a bariatric surgeon.

4. Haggling....pisses me off! I will leave!

5. Speaking badly about other providers or hobbyist.....I am not interested in the fucking drama...just whip out your dick and lets get this party started.

6. Hinting, asking, or doing anything that may indicate this man wants a bareback session.....there is no excuse for this...not when I use female condoms. Not only will I leave, his name is going on THE LIST! SO DON'T ASK!

7. Asking to take photos during a session......again I will leave.

8. Being a board drama mangina king....not interested in the bs...I don't want to be your girlfriend....I am not running off into the sunset with you....can we please have a few hours of sheer PSE fucking so I can go home and care for my family?

9. Too many reviews..and no one can seem to satisfy him...I am not into sport fucking or inviting a shitty review!

10. Smoking....I have asthma me doing a breathing treatment during a session is NOT SEXY.

11. Being too rough.....its a pussy not a hole meant to be jack hammered! and STOP CHEWING MY CLIT!!! Unless you want your balls gnawed on!

12. Asking for time off the clock....this is not E-Harmony.......

13. Asking too many questions about my personal life.

14. Confusing me with a mental health professional. (I am not interested in his personal mental health issues)

15. Not having my dough exactly where I requested it....usually a lead into haggling...again I will walk out.

16. His phone ringing off the hook during a session....makes me think LE....or his wife knows where he is....

17. Having his laptop open or his computer on while I am there.....is he recording this or am I on a live feed.

18. Going on a dinner date and he has the table manners of a hungry hog....and OMG not tipping the staff!

Why are you haggling in session? You're right that is excessively RUDE.

I don't fare well with cognitive rude people.

what pisses me off worse than anything about haggling is the donation is on my TER profile, on my website, backpage, eros.....indys, P411, Date check....everything is very consistant...I dont understand where haggling is listed anywhere in my information.

Then think about it, I have fought traffic on the strip, prepared myself for this session (mentally and physically) then I get to this assholes room and he is giving me some bullshit ass BULLSHIT about how much of a beating he took on the crap table?

There is another beating he is going to have to take too...yup...him beating his meat to my blogs...bc I will turn and leave.

But baby, you know I ain't like that!

I'm ALL into Allure` and the time we spend together!

Mmmm! I'm imagining tasting your sweet pussy now!

Finger fucking you in the ass until my dick is nice and hard so I can fuck you!

Ooo! I hope this is PM?!

DFK, DATY (never had that happen), BBBJ, duh.  If she does not want these things, why is she doing this?

Not a smoker, but if she has done enough to hide it, I can live with it.  Attitude has not been a problem yet.....you never know.

Swim

So what exactly do you mean by "EXTREMELY morbidly obese"?
do you have a weight in mind or a BMI?
I have seen many white providers advertise no African-American males. Is there money better spent having skin medically lightened? I've heard some white hobbyist say they don't select African American providers. Same there?
How about amputees?
There are persons of size in both ends of the provider hobby equation. Your #3, I believe, is out of line as a comment, whether or not you feel that way.

for more reasons than one!  (wink wink)

The same reason why certain guys look for a blonde girl, or a black girl, or an oriental girl, or a heavy girl, doesn't mean they have to see us.

Why? Because we fucking pay them? Mother-fucker please!

These ladies have every right to turn us down. I'm actually surprised, knowing my alcoholic tendencies that I get dates!

So before you spout off with your alias-ass self, think again.

If you want to treat these ladies as a commodity or service, remember when you march your fat-ass into the restaurant down the street, and you see that sign that says 'We reserve the right to refuse service to anyone', that means YOU and your take-a-chair-and-sit-infront-of-the-buffet ass!

Big ol' fucking tub o' goo!

lots of post dont mean lots of sense

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and you missed the point as a mangina would. Read the post again and get a sober friend to help explain it.
Nothing wrong with personal choice.  
I dont see TS providers, but I dont go around saying their money would be well spent on a surgeon to remove their dick.
Are you gettin the picture?
if not, im sure you can find a good bottle of liqour and a nice NM cactus to hide under
signed... Half Hour, my real TER handle in case anybody cant figure that out.

btw, what makes you think Im fat? your fat head?