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Provider Guilt?red_smile
Udo 1162 reads
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With a lot of men still out of work or underemployed, do any providers feel any guilt about taking a hobbyist's money knowing he should not be wasting his cash?

I had a conversation with a bartender yesterday and he told me that men will always "find" money for sex and alcohol. He said many men "find" this money by not making a child support payment, not paying a car note or not properly providing for their children (food, clothes, college fund).

I ask this since I think most hobbyists are married and/or have children to support.

I know that a provider could possibly only feel guilty if she knew enough about a gentleman's family and financial responsibilities.

Just asking!

"How do you hookers like getting face slapped...and then fucked bareback"?

Any other nonsense Udo?

Oh...I suppose you'll tell us that this is common in other parts of the world...sure Waldo  LOL

WTF are U doing here, you fucking pariah!  LMAO!

That its fun like it used to be.

But as far as "the way we were"....jeez , does that make me gay?

It's really ridiculous sometimes.  I was moderated as a new member, then unmoderated, then moderated again for no apparant reason.  I guess someone turned themselves into a min-mod and hit "report this post" because they didn't like something I said.  It's like the Iron Curtain, with everyone snitching on each other and the people who run this place just knee-jerk modding people.  I protested, so this is really just a test to see if I'm still moderated.  I doubt I'll be posting here at all now because of this.  If TER really wants this site to operate this way, then I'm done with it.  I'll keep reviewing, for reasons of my own that has value to me.  But as for the rest, I'm gone.  Bye!.....

I'm done with this place.  Too many tools.  Lucky for ya'll I'll keep reviewing.

Wtf are you spouting bs now. You're a damn newbie yerself

I can guess the answer lies in the reason anybody works, but let's hear reactions and honest replies.

This is a typical  view--not necessarily his- Ladies don't kill him.

You can put the same question to the bar owner.

If a man flat out told me my fee was his child support payment, I would tell him to go get fked or see another hooker more than willing to take it...even knowing where the money came from. I have  no way of knowing what men do, but I would assume a guy who can't do both would not find a provider charging what I do. If 200 gets him the same nut, he would probably go for that if he was having to pinch pennies.

That is why I now require your W2 or tax transcript as part of the screening process. And with your Social Security Number, I can access court documents to see if you are in arrears on support payments as well as do a credit check. As a final measure, I call your SO and ask about dietary intake for the family and compare her responses to the USDA food pyramid. Ironically, all this extra work will require a significant rate increase.

I could live with all that other shit.  BTW...I don't have a W-2...but I can phony up anything you might otherwise need :D

Posted By: rrasha88
That is why I now require your W2 or tax transcript as part of the screening process. And with your Social Security Number, I can access court documents to see if you are in arrears on support payments as well as do a credit check. As a final measure, I call your SO and ask about dietary intake for the family and compare her responses to the USDA food pyramid. Ironically, all this extra work will require a significant rate increase.

Wow. I guess you're really not into me if you fake the documents.

You sure missed this post LOL

If you really want a W-2 I'll still phony one up.  Some of us mongers really don't get W-2's.

Now if you want a copy of my corporate, partnership and trust returns....that I can accommodate.

I thought I was being sarcastic - "faking it" "not really into me."  See, you've been away too long. Your yang isn't fitting my yin.

If I worked at the BMW dealership would I feel guilty about selling someone a new BMW when their old Honda gets them around just fine?  Nope!

If I worked at Gucci, would I feel guilty about selling someone a 1000 dollar purse when they're pushing their kid around in a broken stroller?  Nope!  (but I might gossip about it with my co-workers after they leave...I mean really who does that lol)

How would I know that a gentleman is paying me instead of his child support unless he were to tell me so?  If a gentleman were to tell me that I probably would not want to see him again...but it would be because I think he's a douchebag, not because I feel guilty.

Personally, I'm wagering it's the former.

I love it...It's her fault that the guy blows his cash on women and she's the reason why the children suffer.  Reality is that at least 50% of the time the reason she's doing this is the kids for which her loser ex never stepped up to pay child support.

If it is satire, both the form and the forum are a poor choice.  

Here's a tip, Google "discretionary income".

He is one of those guys who likes to stir some shit up by pretending to be a retard. He gets his jollies from provoking us and invoking passionate responses from us, normal, guys.

So yeah, that would make him smart...Wouldn't promote him to genius category just yet though...

Does a guy get a price break if his wife is pretty...or ugly?  Maybe these providers could teach the wives some tricks.  

When my wife found out I was hobbying I considered inviting her to watch the BBBJ/DT skills of my ATF. The fee for couples was only slightly higher, might as well have the wife learn something at the same time.

your personal life and your financial situation is none of my business.  I assume that if you are coming to see me, you have the money to spend.  In my etiquette it says, "please do not discuss the donation or bring my attention to it" ... this implies that our interation should never revolve around the discussion of money.
If you make financial issues the topic of conversation and even cast a negative light on your personal situation I will be highly inclined to not repeat business with you...first of all, what is your  damn point?  You either have the money to spend or you don't.  Don't involve me in it and try to make it MY concern.  I take care of my financial business, and you take care of yours.
This is the only type of comment I will tolerate: "I wish I had the finances to see you more" LOL, which is of course a compliment in my mind, but if you are fishing for a discount, forget it.  I will patiently wait while you scrape together my fee, ha ha.

everytime I take care of a patient knowing that I am causing future generations to incur debt to pay for the Medicare which pays me.

Even I am insulted by that.
You would tweak on someones weakness. The most pathetic kind of predator.
You pick a fight that you are certain you will win... Pussy Rash.
Udo? What do You do? What makes you want to fuck strange women?
Tell me.
Quid Pro Quo?

saturnsky295 reads

With any man I meet in this situation:
!. hygiene
2. fee
3. respectful of me and my time
4. leaves me alone until he wishes to book another appointment.

Other than that, what he does after he leaves is none of my business and nor is his financial situation. All I care about is that he can afford my fee.

That you don't see johnnie boys.

So how would any of this affect you?

Udo197 reads

So you are mostly about being with a clean man who can pay you while you have no respect for his children or wife.

You sound like an ugly person. However, I do repect your honesty since some idiot hobbyists think they are in a (non-monetarily relationship) romantic relationship with providers. No money and no honey.

and then feel guilty in the morning for debasing myself.

Your posts are the ABBA of the hobby board.

russbbj247 reads

If a person can't afford to hobby, then they shouldn't. Period! I would hope that no provider would feel guilty, and they shouldn't. They provide a service, and anyone that partakes in that service is an adult and makes their own grown up decisions. It's not their job or concern to make sure anyone they see is fulfilling their personal responsibilities. I find it very hard to believe you even posted this question, unless you are just trying to stir the pot.

crazyshit225 reads

If you are spending money you shouldn't be on this hobby, then that's on you.

If you want to go down the guilt road, then how about we talk about taking advantage of a provider's need for money so that her best alternative is to sell/rent her body by the hour?  Because there's all sorts of stuff we could talk about that subject.

In the end, it comes down to two adults making a transaction.  That's it.  Everything else, while valid, is just too complex to boil down to a set of reasons.

I think they're capable of making their own decisions, regardless of how poor those decisions may be. I'm not any man's babysitter, nor am I any man's financial adviser. We have a business arrangement and anything that happens in his life aside from our time together is his own business, not mine.

And if he wants to try to blame the provider for taking his money because she's just SO irresistible he can't help but not make his car payment that month because he HAS to see her... just: LOL. They aren't a victim, and we certainly aren't perpetrators. I'm no psychologist, but it seems to me if an addiction is interfering with your life so drastically, the first step is to admit it, and then to do something about it besides try to act like it's anyone else's fault but your own.

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