Honestly your whining about your last review will most likely be a bigger turn off than the review itself.

and for the record, the reviews are supposed to be an honest account of the reviewers experience and NOT simply free advertising for the hooker.

I think you really need to learn what guys are paying you for and then decide if you are comfortable providing it. Either that, or quit pretending to be a GFE.

I can't tell about your actual looks from the pics you have chosen to share in your ads, but It appears that you are cute enough, it's your attitude that seems to need adjusting. Maybe a break is in order for you?

and if you think this is harsh, all I can say is "you asked". You should probably be happy that this is on the GD board, and not your local board, I doubt this thread is going to make anyone rush to get into the long line to see you.

I feel my reviews are made by guys who want me to fall in love with them when I first see them.   For me chemistry  has to be established for the session to be "GFE"  
I am friendly and energetic and know how to hold a conversation so when a man is boring as hell and there is no sexual chemistry I get nervous and can't really help myself from cracking jokes or trying to find some sort of common ground... I feel like I should just take a break to collect myself but I want a little advice from hobbyists and other providers...
Why are the reviews so harsh as far as looks and appearance?   Why even write a review if you know you contributed to the negative energy?  Do you really need 2 free weeks that bad?  To be honest I am a normal girl and a lot of the things my reviewers have said hurts my feelings.  Do you have to be a mute sex kitten to get a friendly review?  Why am I given a low score because of my personality?  If you got what you came for what else matters?  

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As I said, it's not your reviews that are really the problem. You seem to have a very common disease that you even admitted to in your last post. You simply take this and more importantly yourself MUCH too seriously.

Whining about a bad review is one of the best ways to be labeled a drama queen and ruin your reputation. If you doubt me, just check out any regional board and check out the many rants by hookers that come here and whine about what they consider a substandard review.

Take my advice, or don't. Either way it's no skin off my nose (or dick I suppose) but remember YOU are the one asking for opinions, so don't whine even louder when you don't get the answers that you want.

Reviews will always be subjective and should be used by us with that in mind. For example, your most recent review screams bad chemistry and physical incompatibility. But were I to see you the it would be quite valuable, giving me three key pieces of information: 1) you're legit, 2) you're photos are accurate, at least in the opinion of that reviewer, and 3) going a bit slowly with you will result in a better experience. The rest I would discount as being unique to that particular session and not really relevant to me. Now, 20 reviews in a row like that would be a different story, then it looks like you're not able to please anyone, but that's hardly the case for you. So I imagine it's hard sometimes but try to let it roll off you back and keep on truckin'

but it also struck me as a teachable moment regarding how providers should think about reviews, and how we should be using them. Not that I'm necessarily right or that my view is the only one. GaG makes fair points as well.

Especially for having been with an agency for some of them. Agency guys, especially if you're a stand in, are a different breed.  

I'm certain the entire class would like to know  

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Especially for having been with an agency for some of them. Agency guys, especially if you're a stand in, are a different breed.  
   
 Honestly, don't look at your reviews as anything other than a progress report. For example, apparently for some you talk too much. So, how do you judge who wants to get to know each other and who doesn't? Pretend you already know them! There doesn't need to be any "hi, how are you? Let's get to know each other" unless that's what they want. They are paying for you to be their girlfriend, so act like it! Jump them on the way in, and if THEY show you things need to go slower, then go for a little slower intro. This method works especially well if you ever link back up with an agency for touring.  
   
 I've been seeing one guy for going on three years using this method, and I for the life of me couldn't tell you anything about him. They're not hard to please  
   
 Sorry about the guys on your thread. Some don't even know how to make themselves happy, so don't have much advice to give

even your positive reviews (which you have many) mention that you are a bit "chatty" but many guys like chatty, so no biggie.

A LOT of people talk to release nervous energy, it's just something that many people do. I really wouldn't get too hung up on it. It's just like being tall or short, neither in itself is good or bad. It just "is"

What you should be taking away from this is that you can't please everyone, and this last reviewer did you a favor by letting those who don't like "chatty" to possibly find another provider and letting those who like a woman to be able to carry on a conversation that you are the gal for them.

Now quit being so defensive, take your little break and come back refreshed and ready for all the little ups and downs that come with this business.

Thank you for actually giving some advice that may help.... I want to make people happy so I was looking for suggestions for things that may help both parties be satisfied after a session.  Still going to take this much needed break but hopefully will come back refreshed and confident in myself.

Is HIS impression that you were stalling.  A lot of gals use this ploy to waste the client's time.  Perhaps he was touchy...  or perhaps you were nervious & talked more than normal.  Frequently the "TRUTH" is somewhere in the middle.  

Thanks for the break suggestion even though I already stated I would be doing so... Letting you have your rant hopefully added excitement to your day!!!

Thank you very much... I will not be offering a refund though I know the end result was the expected climax... I am taking a break not just because of the review but just because I feel I need to regroup and get over myself I can't be a 10 to everybody even though I strive to be.

Lots of gals come on here claiming to want advice, but in reality only wanting validation or a bit of handholding. I am not the person to ask if all you want is coddling, but I am more than willing to offer useful advice when I can. I just am not one to sugarcoat it. lol

Just remember, despite the hookers with nothing but 10-10 reviews, it really is virtually impossible to be all things to all people. I strongly suggest you concentrate on your strengths and try to attract those clients that will appreciate what you have to offer and fuck the rest, or I guess more accurately, don't fuck them as the case may be. lol

in that review that's bugging you?  If so, that's probably not a component of a textbook business model for getting good reviews.   But you know that.    

I agree with the last poster.....IF you did say that (and my guess is you didn't) that would have easily sent a negative vibe. One bad out of many wouldn't necessarily turn me away. I'd most likely
ask you about it while pre arranging a meeting. If you answered it logically and coherently it wouldn't necessarily affect me . Actually, it would probably motivate you to prove him wrong...ALL to my advantage!        check you pm

Also If a guy just wanted two weeks he will give you a 8 to 10 and not say "I will not repeat" when a guy give below average feedback he puts his name on line part of what we pay for is to cover the ad / interview cost.

But... this is a review site, so you are going to have negative as well as positive.  When there is something to be learned from the negative, then take that in, otherwise just mainly focus on the positive.  The trick is to develop a thick skin, while still being true to yourself and not becoming hard and jaded.

The market will always tell you when you are doing something right, and it will also tell you when you are doing something wrong. If you are getting no responses from a certain type of ad, the market is not "talking" to you, it's screaming at you that whatever that ad was, STOP doing it.

Remember the ads are not to make you happy about what you are trying to say, they are designed to fill your dance card. My advice is to run several different types of ads, code them or ask the guys who respond which ad they read, and whatever works, keep doing, and what ever doesn't, stop doing. There is absolutely nothing wrong with trial and error as long as you learn from it.

So it's a necessary part of the review.

Sometimes expectations don't match reality and he doesn't seem to know how to express his desires. If K9 wasn't working he should have said so. Must have been at least okay, sounded like he filled the bag quickly.  

To get the ball moving I asked him which way he liked it... Most guys suggest doggy or I do because I know the view is motivating... I said that I liked doggie because it was less work for me... I didn't mean it to be negative more like a joke like I said I was really nervous and uncomfortable which is no excuse but I meant it to ease the tension not to create a bad feeling!  Bad choice of words on my part...  

Thank you everybody really making me feel maybe I am the one being too harsh on myself... i think I will practice in my weeks off is just learning to ask more open questions so people can tell me more about then and what they like so I know where to take things... I guess I act more like a companion than a girlfriend maybe that's my biggest flaw

But she's my newest stalker pal...soooo she has to make sure she tosses out some ad hominem for effect.

Thank you Ga... This is exactly what I needed... I honestly want to better myself and the experience I give...

What if I really don't like kissing until I know someone?  I know it sounds stupid but I like to peck or give gentle kisses All over I don't really enjoy making out so I try to do other things... Are any other girls or guys here like this?  And if so what can make up for what I lack here?

I have tried to mention in my ads that I am really friendly and outgoing... Sometimes when I write too much in an ad I get no responses... Will guys read it as wow she does talk too much?  Or will they understand I just want to make you happy so I'm giving the best description of myself I can?...

I certainty wouldn't suggest a refund, but I would suggest looking at things differently. I had a session semi-recently where I did an experiment. The girl provides FS but advertises under body rubs. I showed up and got a decent massage and told her I just wanted to kiss and cuddle, no cum. She was like "really? Can I at least give a BJ for a while?" To which I said yes. So she gives me a BJ, get's me close, I stop her. We spend some time kissing talking and cuddling and off I went. It was a GREAT session judging by how I felt when I left. I mean, I was a bit horny but the mutual touch, the kissing, the decent massage, it all added up to a really good feeling. OTOH I've had experiences with attractive girls who weren't into it felt like a waste of money despite cuming.  

There aren't very many (if any at all) guys who don't react positively to a smile, a hug and a compliment. Even if you have to stretch it a little, a compliment right off the bat will work wonders with most guys.  After reading through this thread, my guess is you might be a bit of a perfectionist or maybe an A type personality (that isn't a criticism), if so re read all your very good reviews and see them as the norm. You've gotten a lot of fair and honest advice on this thread.

I'm the same way. I need to be comfortable before I slide into Frenching. You have to find your own comfort level. As fun as this business can be, it can also be crushing if you make yourself everybody's blank slate. So there's nothing wrong with being the kind of lady who offers more as she gets more comfortable with a guy -  if that's what keeps you from getting the willies five minutes into every session.  

I think you need to look up the word stalking. Unless you're the OP, which would be surprising, you replied to me.

You can't be at your best for anyone if you don't start with yourself

Care to retort?

Our looks are gonna fade. We ant always gonna have that.

One last thing, you said something about being more of a GFE than a companion in the future. (Forgive me, I'm too sleepy to find that part of the tree.) Some people see that as part of the fantasy, but be careful with that. If your game is too good, you better have a judge on speed dial for restraining orders because some guys can lose the plot on this one. (Arizona's concealed carry, right?)

your website and you look hot to me!!
 

For the most part, your reviews are pretty stellar. One mediocre one isn't going to be a big deal. Chalk it up to bad chemistry and shake it off.

In fact, plenty of guys will book you BECAUSE you're a conversationalist. If making a connection by engaging on an intellectual level is going to bring out the best of you, then use that to your advantage! Market yourself in a way that reflects who you are and what an experience with you is like. If you convey your personality in your marketing, you'll attract the kinds of clients who will be compatible with you.  

deposits for 1 or 2-hour encounters.

reviews with the same vibe.  Experienced hobbyists can expect 1 review out of 10 or 12 to not be stellar.  If 2 or 3 out of about 5 reviews are less than stellar, then we have a problem.

With reviews of 8.21/8.21, I imagine that many women here would be happy to have those reviews.  That said, you seem to have a few who rate you mediocre but many others who like you greatly.  Perhaps you should focus on screening potential clients better to meet more of those who inspire you and less of those who make consistently good performance difficult?

How'm I doin' so far?

Your link doesn't work.  

Not surprising...that seems to be the tactic some gals use to not have to be accountable for their words.

You get your own posts deleted honey, cause clearly TER thinks you're a little bitch too.  

Then posts wouldn't get moved, or deleted.

doing the cowgirl position. She has never said anything directly to me but  I notice she "gives up " quickly. it's like she doesn't want to do the work.lol  

Do you know what today is? Or even what site we are on? I think clearing some of that up might reduce your paranoia. Even if I didn't like watching you flail, I don't make decisions on which posts stay or go, and today is a new day with plenty of opportunities to act like you aren't some crazy old guy on a computer.  

An occasional blah one won't sink you. More important are trends, consistency and the aggregate. Same as any online reviews.

It's a work in progress

You did have one...didn't you?

Providers go on a diatribe.

I actually do not even know how guys assume I am GFE I don't think I have ever described myself that way... I hate making out unless i know the person and am attracted to them... How can I jump on you when I first meet you if you have bad breath? Let's take a minute to get to know each other... Thank you for your response Im glad I know I'm not the only chatty girl in this hobby

Time to regroup and get myself together... Sorry my post got you in an argument but I think you seem secure enough to not let it shake you down

I know I am not GFE I don't understand where people get that I have never claimed that... On TER it seems my overall stats are just made for me I wish I could edit that because a lot of my reviews have lies of me doing things I don't do... To set the record straight I am not GFE... To experience that I have to know you I'm not as great an actress as I wish I could be if I'm not into you it will be obvious...

Well in this case I find it funny he claimed I was chatty because I got the impression he wanted a therapist and got the wrong stand in... I listened to his life story but I rather suck you off then kiss a man complaining about his past girl issues

My kind of guy

Thank you I actually have a medical degree and it's not nursing... so this is actually me capitalizing on my looks while I can... Cash is king and I need some cash before all I have are paychecks... I am doing this for all the right reasons and I wish this reviewer could appreciate that but unfortunately he wanted a robot hooker who did what his "regular" did!!!

It was actually me trying to make things better in the future... it's guys like you who use this as a bitter verbal attack instead of giving good suggestions...

That I was complaining and not genuinely asking for some good advice... I thank the providers and hobbyists who have a heart and gave me insight into the different personalities here for those of you who used this just to get attention... Boo hoo to you sorry your life sucks so bad you have to put down providers to make yourself feel better  
Kudos to the girls this shit ain't easy... Stay up and stay safe  
I appreciate the gentlemen who responded with actual advice it means the world to me to know that some of you recognize us as humans  
Toodles to the few bitter men hiding behind a computer screen who should've just stayed out of it-you know who you are

Riddle me this: are you TER admin? Are you deleting these posts I'm "asking to have removed"? No? Then you're just a crazy old man who's making it obvious why he's being moderated.  

And being compared to TERAdmin is quite the insult.

I asked if you were Admin, didn't compare you.  

Hey GaG....I won  LOL