How much is too much? I have never had my hands around a women's neck during intercourse until recently. On a third visit to a young lady, I was caressing her body. When my hand was gently on her neck, out of the blue she said "I like that". At our next meeting, not really sure how far too go I had hands gently on her neck and I could tell she liked it. I saw her again Friday night and it got crazy. For me normal Doggie is face down ass up. In this case she had her back arched up so I could quite frankly choke the shit out of her while we were fucking. That is the position that stands out in my mind. It was so fucking hot. She liked it no matter the position. I would never do this if she had not instigated it. It was a huge turn on but it scares me. Her entire neck fits into one of my hands. I already know how I will handle this in the future. I am just curious about other experiences with auto erotic asphyxiation. Hookers and Whoremongers you have the floor.

sitting on the bed next to her, and Tom Hagen (Robert Duvall) is saying, "It's like she never existed. All that's left is our friendship."

If she really enjoys true auto-erotic asphyxiation I have no advice for you because that game is too dangerous to play.
But if she simply likes a firm hand around her neck with no actual compressing of her airway, that's different. I'm no doctor but there are ways to apply pressure around the next without cutting off the airway or compressing the carotid artery.  Interfering with either of those is a bad idea.
You should get some advice from someone who's experienced in "breath play."  That's not me.

and I doubt I'd even try if they did ask.  It's just too damn dangerous.  I do love a slender graceful neck, and I'll firmly caress it, and even give it a nibble or two (sort of a Dracula thing) but that's about it.

On the other hand, one gal I know once got a bit tipsy (understatement) and got all choky with me.  I told her to stop and she complied.  She didn't even remember doing it the next day.  I definitely did not like it.

If you do decide to pursue this, I suggest you do a lot of research, and see gals who are likewise experts in this.  All BDSM practices require a safe word whereby the person immediately stops doing what they are doing when things go too far.  In this case, some kind of safe hand signal or similar non-verbal cue would be required.

There is definitely something about the neck that arouses the beast in us.

it's hard for someone to utter it if your hands are around their throat/larynx and they're slipping into unconsciousness.  One more reason to tread carefully here.

To me, even a hand gesture is not completely safe.  If the recipient is close to orgasm and passing out (which is what happens during auto-erotic asphyxiation) she may not be capable of a hand gesture either

That doesn't sound overly cavalier to me.

I have nothing else to add that hasn't already been said about exercising HUGE caution when doing something like this that has the potential to cost some woman her very life.

I fully support all fetishes that involve consenting adults that don't harm anyone. When someone is killed or severely injured that is well past the line where I can condone an activity. Large, strong hands and a slim delicate neck are a recipe for disaster. I hope the OP conducts himself accordingly.

And what does his handle have to do with it?  Do you know what a ball joint nut is?  It's a part in a car's suspension.  Is that "cavalier?"  Maybe if it's a Chevy Cavalier.  But I don't think any of those heaps are still on the road.

adams apple, You can aply light to medium pressure on area of thick part neck on both left and right sides, to cut off a little the oxygren  but just be aware not to push on adams apple and break anything.

It was a turn on. For that reason alone I will not allow it to escalate. When I see her again I will speak quit frankly with her about it. Obviously we need safe limits too this activity. For you doubters please understand I do know my own strength and I have no interest in hurting or killing somebody. Angelexotic you post was the most helpful. You actually have insight into this activity and that is what I was looking for.

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Actually they are typically called a castle nut but I didn't want to be branded a castle aficionado so it turned out balljointnut.