How detailed do you get in your message, how do you describe what you are looking for? I have a couple of sessions that I enjoy and seek to have played out each time but it requires that I spell it out. Many providers take the request as a trap and dump the email. I have tried the acronyms (I hate when I get an email back asking what NQNS means!), I have worded it like a creative writing fantasy or as something that happened to someone else, I have called and asked (man does that sometimes get me some heat!), but I have found no way that is foolproof. What do you guys do? Any suggestions from the girls?

Read the reviews, they say if they are NQNS or not.

Try making the first email quite brief.

ie...

Dear Gertrude,

I came across your website and liked what I saw. I'm interested in making an appointment.  Would it be possible for you to answer a couple of questions before I book?

Regards

Lurkey.

Well not all do. I also mean answering any ad including ones where the reviews are not detailed or where none are available. But txs for answering.

I find it the easiest to e mail someone. Let them get to know you, build a rapport then ask them if you can or if they feel ok in you asking some more very detail questions.  By this time they will feel more relaxed with you and will be more open to answering your questions.  Most important though is always ask their permission first.

In a situation like that you may want to first ask the provider if she is into roleplay.  Then forward the info she request as her screening info, once you make contact a couple of time should build a rapport where you could gently ease into the subject,

good luck

Cheri

My first suggestion is to schedule with Sedona. Her response to your written queries will be so detailed, specific and direct that you will get off just reading them. LOL Interestingly, there is a similar thread on the Phoenix board (see: Phone Etiquette) that may be of some help. Don't know that there is one good and universal answer here. Some general rules to follow though: 1) ASK the provider first if it is OK with her for you to ask for more detailed information; 2) NEVER be rude, crude or crass in the way you ask your questions. Maturity and politeness are in order here. 3) Take your lead from her. Some will be comfortable being direct, others will want to be indirect and still others might not wish to deal with this at all outside of a face to face meeting.