Re: Bookings.

Asian men are always the most polite with the exception of older men.

I'd like to hear from asian men about your culture and how women are treated? Do you treat your wives and girlfriends this well...or just your mistress?

I keep having this fantasy about Faye and I pleasing a busload of Asian tourist types right in the lobby of Hyatt Grand Central. All the while, there'd be music playing and people having a party in the background. We'd find a use for the doormen too. And all the Sony products, cameras...all that equipment and knodding asian men....whew!

HB

Heather, you are too funny!  When you gonna hang around my place (or my m/b) more?  Yea, a bus load a guys (Asian or otherwise), you 'n me a bit ripped, dressed to high heavens, nothing to do the next day (so we don't feel guilty about the "overload" from the night before)... and just cutting loose!  On video, of course (gotta consider the marketing abilities of this possibility in advance!  You're sumpin' else, girl! xox Faye Desiree

My Mom always told me to be polite to everyone.
Treat people as you want to be treated.
But if someone is a jerk to me, I give it back to them,
with a smile of course.

I mostly dont think I'm a jerk, and dont mean to be.  But someone else might no matter what I have done. And if you fight me back, I might think you are the jerk and thnk you are just hostile and misguided.

An Asian Jerk








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I’m only half Asian [the bottom half… unfortunately, for my partners …], but I try to treat all women with the respect they deserve.  Having two daughters really opened my eyes to issues like inequality in the workplace etc.  So as I’ve gotten older, I’ve tried to remember that.  Regardless, if I’m going to ask for GFE, then I should provide BFE.
IMHO, 88

I agree with the other dudes on here.  I'm asian and I treat my ladies like gold.  Even my favorite provider.  I even bought her a gift for christmas because she took good care of me.  When growing up, my dad used to say, 'treat everyone with respect and if they mess with you FIRST then give it back to them'.  But with women, its no different either.  They are nice, so am I.  

Azian Andy

btw, Heather and Faye, would love to see that fantasy come to life! =)

Perspective from an Asian guy. (That's me!)

OK, first off, I don't know if I'm the prototype Asian guy you might be thinking about.  I'm fourth generation, which for those non-ethnics out there means that my great grandparents came here from the proverbial slow boat from China.  It also means I'm a bit of an oddity because the rest of my extended family has gone melting pot and I'm one of the few remaining "thoroughbreds" on my particular branch of the clan.  I also grew up in the lily-white Pacific NW. This means I'm a bit of a banana (kinda like an oreo... you know... white on the inside).  Unfortunately, I can't speak a lick of the native tongue.  I know more Spanish than Chinese, and I never took Spanish.

What this means is that I've grown up with the classic underpinnings of the model minority myth: polite, smart (I hope), hard working (mostly)... etc... except that I also have been so throughly ingrained in American culture that I've also got the cross habits of libido, junk food, sports, and too much television. So my culture is really American at heart, with a shadow of the Asian influence.

I think the key thing for me regarding why I try to treat women well is simple.  It's hard for an Asian American guy to get dates in this Country, and you've got to make every single opportunity count.  And I'd like to think I'm an attractive enough guy, with wit and charm, and a good job... BUT... let's look at some math.

Figure this:  Start with 100 AVAILABLE, SINGLE women (and that's hard enough to find in and of itself!)
Right off, half the women out there won't even consider cross cultural dating, for whatever reason that may be. Now you have 50, including other Asian women.
Then maybe half of them will be attractive:  25
Of those, ten of them have horrible personalities: 15 left
And of those, let's say five of them find me interesting and attractive.

I figure I'm working in a dating pool that's 5% of available single women.  That means finding out the hard way the rest of the time.  So I continue to try, and on occasion I strike gold... but I find that I strike out more than I'd like. In the meanwhile, there are always wonderful escorts out there who can fill the romantic void, so it's best to treat them right.  If I expect a GFE experience, I should act like BFE in return.  Fair's fair, no?  Plus, hey, I'm a nice guy anyways.  Is that an Asian thing?  I don't know.  Wouldn't hurt if that was the common perception out there!

My guess is that for providers, what matters is whether you're clean, on-time, generous, and respectful. I doubt that there are many out there who screen for race... it probably wouldn't be good business, right?  Hey it's equal opportunity in action!  

You always ask the best questions Heather!  I almost answered an earlier posting you had with a similar response.  I may not bow (that's sooo 19th century), but I couldn't think of treating a woman who provides the services you ladies do, with anything but grace.

Squidmo

I usually hate to respond to posts that reveal too much about myself.  I value privacy for both providers and clients.

But to answer your question.  I was raised by my greatest role models, my father and mother.  They have a special bond which has survived years of marriage and the raising of two "hell raising" kids.

As a child, my father would have kicked my a@@ if I showed any disrespect to any woman especially my mom.

Even now I see the way my Mom brings my Dad tea while he is watching TV without even asking.

My Dad gets worried when my Mom is a few minutes late from work and always insists that my brother or I accompany her when she goes anywhere after dark.

I can only hope some of that rubs off on me.

eom

Heather,  I brought Asian Men into your thread below.  Nice to see you feel the same way.  

The difference is I prefer being the geisha to each man  individually, giving undivided attention as I believe they each deserve. Then each is allowed to be his true self and appreciated for HIM.

Otherwise it would just all be a blur.  For me. anyway.

Felicia, contrary to some ingrained beliefs, not everyone is the same.  Some men, first gens are so wound up in the American culture they act the same as your red-necks.  Although the majority of Asian men out there are brought up with the belief to hold women in the highest regard, there are others, who would abuse them.  

those who emulate them.  But fortunately that is not what I have encountered.  Hopefully I wont either

xoxo

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I always assumed that the Asian gangs you hear about on the news are running extortion rings to pay for import car parts.  Just kidding.  I just rented "The Fast and Furious".  Anyone have a 10 second car?

Neither do I, but neither am I naive to evil in this world.  
I care not to dig up dirt (we all have dirty laundry)and have little interest unless I have reason to suspect that it should affect me or someone of some importance to me.

Then again, maybe I am discovering thst I just love Asian men, anyway.  Even if they dont dance salsa or Ballroom/Latin Ballroom, and it is shocking how many do!  And very very well!  

Ecstasy, I'd drive in a fast car with you in ... well, in 10 seconds (or less!

xoxo

ff

Word up my asian brother.  I know how you feel and I hear ya.  I see the world as a bunch of racists, but there are some ladies out there who go for us asian guys.  Its rare indeed.  As an asian male, I have only dated 1 asian girl in my life.  Most off, I have dated white girls who are pretty kewl but after they knew me, not like I tried to pick them up at a club or something.  Its hard for us asians...really.  I'm a decent looking guy who is cool to be with... but to find someone to go out with is hard.  I agree with you totally dude...

I'm a 44 yo Asian guy currently in the process of getting a divorce and frankly the prospect of jumping into the dating pool scares the shit out of me.  A lot of the things that make us good BF's are overlooked by the fact some of us are vertically challenged (I'm 5'-6") and don't exactly present the most imposing figures and first impressions do mean a lot.  I did treat my soon to be ex-wife very well and when I see an SP treat them with the same respect I would a significant other.  I have asked some if they have a problem with my ethnicity and most of them have not and one I wasn't so sure about.