to let the ladies know pertinent things about us that might affect a session with them, or might help them determine if we would be a good match. I'm a wee bit tired of being YMMVd because I have facial hair - if a lady knows this in advance she could inform me if this would be an issue w/r/t kissing or daty. I am uncut - occasionally a lady declines bbbj as a result though I am fanatically clean. I'd like to know this in advance but the ladies do not for good reasons want to discuss specific acts. And I require a magnum condom. You'd think that would not be a problem but I've run into ladies who claim to be allergic to the lube on Trojans so would not allow me to use the ones I brought. An astonishing number of providers don't seem to "stock" them either.  I'm a white guy - haven't seen much anti-white discrimination that I know of but nonetheless it might be of interest. I'm late middle aged and a lot of my bits are getting a bit wobbly - the majority of providers would not care, but, who knows. Some of the younger girls might not relate to a guy pushing 60.... It would be nice to have a "hobbyist profile" on TER with not only such pertinent bits of info but perhaps a likes and dislikes page - ie I prefer that a lady and her incall not be a perfume factory, and that she not be playing rap music...... (classical or jazz would be nice...). I prefer a quiet, dimly lit, relaxed environment to high key, I like to let a lady I am not familiar with take the lead because I do not want to do anything to make her uncomfortable. Hot kissing is important to me. So is that 2nd pop in the 2nd our of our tryst. But I am much more GFE than PSE. I do not prefer to discuss politics during down time - I am sick to death of politics, working as I do neck deep in it. I like lingerie as long as it's *classy* lingerie, else I find it a bit tawdry. We are able to read a lady's ettiquette and about me pages where she may discuss her non explicit preferences. It would save a lot of time and make for a higher percentage of top notch experiences if the ladies could look up hobbyist profiles and know what may need to be addressed. She could PM me, for example, to address any more explicit issues perhaps....  well - just a thought. And - hey! In the absence of a "GoodTimingMan" profile on TER,  I guess I could always point a provider to this post......  '

As always you are so astude. I have always wished there was a one stop shop to screen a gent. Know what he like dislikes .Datecheck if verified comes close. he can put in his likes and such. Refrences like Miss Betty always tells us a little info to help things go smoothly...Pro Betty.
But....
The trouble of screening cost me so many many dates. As I said I trusted my instict before. My instict bailed on me after 4 yrs.And got careless...
Exspensive lesson but not a laughing matter.oops.it cost me big....
But it didn't cost me my life. If I wrote a story of what I have been thru learning the hard way...You would all be amazed. So when the new girls here may think I am a know it all. It's cuz I have made all the same mistakes as them all.
I was lucky to have worked the Bunny ranch.I can't tell you the crying jag sessions of mistakes We all made through the years. But We helped eachother.
I would love to come to a spot to say yes I will fuck this man!!!!!!!!!

i am taking to writing more extensive introductory e-mails from my Date-Check account. i do this for folks with whom i have not had the pleasure of bantering on the boards and PMing on TER.

i read the provider's website in detail and look for her concerns and interests so that i can find points in common on which we might elaborate more.

i don't have many issues that would be problematic in a 1.5 to 2 hour intriductory meeting. if the chemistry is good there then i raise the question of extended dinner dates and possible role playing. the latter may be taxing and stressful for ladies that don't like it but it is not a deal killer for me as far as repeating is concerned.

maybe you should suggest this worthy idea on the Suggestion and Policy Board? i would second it.

Honestly, I don't read posts like that one, they give me a headache...

Agree...all mashed together I just by pass it

They have a huge profile section you can fill out. A lot of it is in the form of questions, many of which you just mentioned. The rest you can do in narrative. You can give the provider your ID at the time you're booking and let her decide if you're a good match. I think most providers use Preferred 411.

you create a website for yourself. A page of pictures with blurred out faces. One incluing your bio and profile. One for services required, services desired and services never requested.  You could password protect it and only supply the password to finalists or semi-finalists.

It would probably save a lot of headaches, and such, with the process of getting together. A guy could write his bio, his likes and dislikes, and if she doesn't want to 'conform' to said desires then she can just tell us 'no thanks'.

Actually, we could put in there what we're willing to spend and where we're at. That way a provider can actually PM or email us first, saying they're in the area and ask us if we would like to meet them.

Yeah, I know, some guys might not like the idea of a provider contacting them. Especially if the hobbyist has a SO that has access to his email account. Just an idea...

But, yes. I could go for having my own 'space' on TER for the benefit of meeting providers in the future. We do our homework. Why can't they?

IMHO....  MP

It seems you are confusing TER for a dating site. Unless I am mistaken, all a provider would like is that her client be clean, polite and considerate. Anything else is a plus, but let's not confuse the reasons why we are all here?

I kid... I kid!

Client's message to me or on a profile:

Man looking for well-groomed provider. Must like nose hairs but am shaven down below. I don't use deodorant but I smell pretty. I don't have bad breath, but then I don't have any teeth -- great for oral by the way. Also, I have a St. Bernard I'd like to bring with me for protection. He's very nice and clean  -- when he doesn't drool like a faucet. Does this sound like something you'd interested in? By the way, are you running any specials?

Me:  Yikes! I'm out of here. Just kidding!

We just need to know the client is clean, respectful, not a psycho killer, have references, and asks us if there is anything they might be missing after "thoroughly reading our sites."  There are acronyms that can be used in other cases.



Hugs,
Ciara

by allowing us to have a passive way of "discussing" issues that we now cannot discuss with a provider - ie letting her know of our needs and preferences without violating the "don't talk about explicit details" issue.....

is a way for me to know if:

you will kiss / allow daty though I have a beard

you will provide bbbj though I'm uncut

you will provide or allow me to provide magnum thin condoms

Now - I can't ask you this by email or cotact page when I'm setting up a date....

and - believe it or not,

I get "ymmv'd" on these issues very frequently...

Cheers

GTM

The facial hair covers some nasty scarring  - a legacy of my lifetime of military service. I got tired of being stared at. Uncut? I'd rather spend time with experienced professional ladies.... never had a prob if I go that route. I guess I should just stop seeing newer / less experienced ladies and most of my probs would go away....

intended for.
For guys like you, who want more then their screen name out there, just start your own blog.

we ladies do get some tidbits to help make their meeting the best possible time. It doesn't go into a whole lot of detail but yes we do get some idea of likes and dislikes.

I too would like to see a profile from gentlemen on this board. Some helpful hints that make our meeting more pleasurable for you and make me a better planner.

The gentlemen here fear this is devulging into their privacy but how the heck can we please you without knowing exactly what you want. If we have an hour wouldn't it be nice to have all your goodies in that hour but the things you like the most getting special attention.

I read every gentlemen's reviews in hope that this will give me insite into his likes but only if he gives me the opportunity. Many will not say they are a member here till after you meet them.

Kisses Haley

Gals do read them to learn of our likes, dislikes and also to see if they think they can be successful with us.

I think it's a good idea that they do, but I'm a bit skeptical about the profile thing.

It strikes me as TMI.

While I could understand why this would benefit the ladies, creating a profile as you suggest would make me uncomfortable.

Much of the information you mention -- except the sexual information -- can be shared in an email with a provider. Some would be shared in the initial email -- age, race, facial hair, etc. -- and other details could be shared in a later email -- clothing requests, musical requests, perfume requests, etc.

Or, as someone suggests, you could start a blog or create a myspace profile and send them the link.

Maybe you should tell her upfront?  As for the rest of the details you mentioned, do you not give a lady you hoping to meet for the first time a description of yourself?

I would opt out on the hobbyist profiles.  Bad idea. I don't want to give anyone (e.g., LE or people I know that don't know I am a hobby participant) info that they can trace back to me in the "real" world.  This is my secret life, and I do not want to reveal info about myself in a public forum over which I have no control.

it seems to depend more on longevity as a provider and consistent reviews than donation amount. Some of the very best and most consistent service I have received has been at the 200-250 donation level.....

so i don't buy the notion that client profiles would turn it into a dating site. after all Date-Check already has a client profile feature and last i heard it wasn't a dating site either. anyway the client profile need not have reviews just preferences and it could be completely under client control.

the reason for mutual disclosure in business relationships is to communicate requirements clearly so there are no misunderstandings up front.

Now you know how the ladies feel when they refuse reviews for privacy reasons. These are also the women who do not show their faces on their websites. For many, this is their secret life.

But I understand what you're saying.