It would be a good idea for you to have a Plan B. Just in case your Plan A doesn't work out for that day. I do have a Plan B Provider. Until I found my current Provider, my Plan B used to be my Plan A.
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I'm guessing this has probably come up before but maybe it's time for a fresh discussion on the subject. I've been hobbying for a very very long time (I'm old, you see) and have found that it is virtually impossible to find a provider that is consistently reliable and honest. This is even the case with escorts that I have maintained lengthy relationships with - some as long as 10 years! I do understand that it is probably just something that naturally comes with the territory but it's still discouraging to feel that your 'ATF' cancelled on you because perhaps something better came along (as in bigger bucks, travel, etc.). I've always been a complete gentleman with every lady I have ever seen and have accepted the various excuses but many times doubt the veracity thereof. Please understand this doesn't happen all the time (or even the majority of the time) and I don't consider myself to be a loser, but it is still annoying and disheartening when it does happen. I would be interested to hear other thoughts and comments on this subject. Many thanks!
I've been Lucky so far in this Hobby. I've been at this a long time too. My Current Provider is Great. She can see me the same day I call her. Within about an hour or two. She's Never cancelled on me. I've been seeing her since March. If she did cancel a Session with me, I would totally understand. She's too Adorable for me to stop seeing her.
Mike if your favorite Provider cancels on you and since you've known her for a while, it's most likely for a Good Reason.
there was genuine reason to cancel. Sometimes things does happen and as long as it is not habitual, you should give benefit of doubt.
Disappointment and disheartening is because you are making it be more personal than it really is. You should always have more than 2 regulars you see. Make one of them to be a reputed agency.
Good advice -- I've never used an agency but that is a good reason to consider it. Thanks.
It would be a good idea for you to have a Plan B. Just in case your Plan A doesn't work out for that day. I do have a Plan B Provider. Until I found my current Provider, my Plan B used to be my Plan A.
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Imagine if we did that all the time. We'd have no business.
I see the OP is talking about frequent cancellations from providers... I've noticed tons of them lately, and not only for me. Guess our time isn't as valuable as theirs in their minds?
People take sick days from work for 'something better' all the time. Especially golf. Lol. Not saying it's right, but it is what it is. Lawyers don't show up for legal cases, doctors are two hours late for appointments because they have emergencies or have booked back to back, but if a hooker reschedules? Oh my God. Watch out!!
Lol. It's so true. Sexual healing is our specialty. Must be way more important than a check up at a doctor's office. Lets hope he/she's not late to take care of the blue balls!
In all seriousness, I understand it's hard to be stood up, and I try very hard not to do so. I was going to be 15 minutes late for an appointment a couple months ago and gave two hours notice. (Took a wrong turn while traveling) he cancelled. 
Courtney - you sound like a very responsible person and I do know it works both ways but I have never cancelled on a provider with other than ample notice and always for a very valid reason.
It was just a contribution to the discussion. You have a valid point and I share your frustration but on the other side of things... And not just for the money hehehe. We get blue balls too lol. Only it's more like being hit in the head with a 2x4 followed by frequent masturbation lolol
Agencies tend to be more Expensive than an Independent Provider. Ladies have to give the Agency a percentage of their Session Money which explains the Higher Prices from an Agency.
In some cities, indies are more expensive
...while I know of agencies that do have higher donation providers those same agencies also have providers with donations equal to many of the indpendents. I also know of agencies with reasonable donations lower than many independents. They aren't cut rate low reputation agencies either. They are very reputable and highly thought of. It is true that I can only speak about agencies in my area.
... And if your girl isn't available they offer you see someone else. A little tougher to make sure you get plan B
When I first started in this business in Wichita there were about 5 agencies. The price you collected ehen you got there was for a massage and everything else was above and beyond. The services in the Midwest has dwindled down due to the internet and the ones still around only have 1-2 girls.
Plenty of agencies with gorgeous ladies. No dwindling in this part of the country. Include Dallas, Houston and Austin.
West coast is good also LA, San Faran, Orange County, Denver, Seattle, etc.
when a provider can’t show up and offer alternatives. Some indies on the other hand just send you text message few minutes before like 15 to 30 minutes which is really bad.
For many reasons, I prefer reputed agencies to in ides, more choices for one thing, convenience, once you are screened, one doesn’t have to go through it
I make sure I have nothing planned for that time. I take a Shower and always show up on Time. Well there were a few times I was late by 15 minutes. No big deal with her. More and more I've noticed that my Provider can see me earlier than our planned time. She tells me that her Regulars who she knows a lot longer than me, are Cancelling out on her. It's a Shame because she's a Sweetheart. Oh well, their Loss.
You are completely off the CM (creep meter)
And yes, besides his creepiness in always talking about this provider he apparently owns, the random capitalization is annoying. Your post about it the other day was hilarious.
LMAO I had to go back and read his post again to see what you guys were talking about. Nothing gets past you TER Posters! I never would have noticed that he was randomly capitalizing shit until you pointed it out!
LOL! RCS! You're starting to sound like Rasha.
For the SPOTY? With Fidiot absent, and dungy and ridge making sense in their recent posts, a race that was long thought locked up, could open up again.
If there is a seperate award for CPOTY, I think ROGM got that one, since herpius left us way back in January.
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...first few posts in this thread, but finally his inner creep came out and he went back to "My Provider."
And I found it to be very frustrating, because of puncuality issues.
I do my best to be on time for everything - and I (almost) Never cancel. Not everyone has these values though - and it can be quite frustrating.
I think a hobbiest's best bet is to have a back up - BUT that can make the hobbiest look unreliable because if he doesn't let the back up know that she is a back up it will seem like he is blowing her off. So I think - if you are going to have a back up you should let her know that she is your back up. I know most people wont like hearing they are a back up, but I'd rather be told than think I was blown off.
Just my .02
Most indies would be a little put off knowing that they were "second choice" not to mention the fact knowing that they set aside time most likely to just be blown off. An agency with several gals is a different story, a phone call to say "will you have a girl available at such and such a time if I happen to free up this afternoon?" and your worries about blue balls go out the window.
Perhaps girls do it based on the amount of last minute cancellations that we get, so in order to secure at least one date, some girls even double book for the same time slot (having to cancel one later just in case the other one flakes out or cancel the one that presents a better financial gain for her). I am not saying it is a good practice however, If you factor in all the dates cancelled, all the NCNS etc.., we will not be able to still stand here. I find that many girls have learned that is important to take deposits in order to ensure that the gentleman is really committed to their date and not keeping her as a plan B in case plan A is able to make it so she is not left on the negatives. Also, some ladies even have a cancellation fee in place should any of those "last minute cancellations" occur.
Bottom line is: If people would treat this more from a business perspective (both providers and gentlemen) I guess the reliability issue would be almost nonexistent.
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My run down on this topic....
I will cancel because I have a cold, the flu or other ailment. I think you would rather not see a provider who is sick.
I have had to cancel ONCE because my elderly father fell and I had to make sure he was being taken care of properly. I would do that again.
I have had a just couple situations (one just recently) where the plans didn't seem to be completely 'set in stone' until it was to late. My misunderstanding and as the provider I was honest about it and did try to make amends.
On the other hand - I have missed some important milestones and celebrations, in my family members lives because I had committed to an appointment with my client. I try not to do that too much anymore but as any business owner knows, you have to make sure you're not in the 'red'. Hence- Sundays are family days.
I like all my gentlemen callers and consider my time with them important.
Now, as for the OP's situation, if you feel that way about your ATF, you should try out some new ladies, maybe she isn't your ATF anymore. 
Just my thoughts on the topic. Now I better go do my laundry, dishes and take the dog for a walk! LOL!
Big Hugs~~~~~~
Dependability is not as valued a trait as it used to be in every facet of life. Why should escorts be any different?
But I am thinking of reconsidering and making my "family day" and different day of the week because I seem to be getting a lot of callers on Sunday. But we'll see I guess.
my appointments are less reliable! Married gents have to sneak away, so that means last minute calls. Who knows, though? LOL! Let me know how it works out if you change your family day
I have had a girl cancel on someone else to see me. Sorry Mike. I'm sure it wasn't personal.
If she doesn't value your time or business, move on to the next. When she has no regulars she may just learn in how to treat them better. If you find yourself with a gal constantly canceling for whatever reason... she has too much going on in her life. Whether valid reasons or not. If she is canceling because someone else came along that is better, she doesn't value you at all. Yes it makes more sense for a gal to have an appt with whoever pays more, but in the long run, it is very disrespectful to the loyal regulars. I don't care who you are, once I make an appt I follow through.
Eventually how a gal runs her business catches up to her.