I will send my ATF a "hey you, miss ya and hope you are coming in soon" between visits, but nothing beyond that.  What you are describing is a relationship, proper, and that would be fine for me except for you know, the wife.  No way.  That is IMHO just begging to get caught, having that much communication.

Again if I was single, I would be just fine communicating with her daily.  She is a cool chick, and I do very much care about her well-being.

I'm very close with a lot of girls, and I get a lot of emails, calls, & PMs.  It's all good.

Exactly once in the hundreds of women I have seen.  That's probably what the odds are.  Most of the time "keeping in touch" is a simple sales gimmick. It can go beyond that if both parties develop a mutual respect for each other and, most importantly, understand the boundaries of what is going on.

I mentioned meeting for lunch and she said sure. $1200. Reality check!

I could see communicating one a week possibly, but it seem a bit much.

but not on a daily basis, we speak or text a couple of times a week, and can go a week or longer without communicating.  

But I would caution you, as a person who has had experience here, that it rarely works out.

Most guys really can't handle the idea of her continuing to work, and most girls don't trust the guys who they met through doing this, because they know that there is always the possibility that the guy will find another girl.

The only time it really does work out consistently is when both truly get out of doing this, and there is some really magical luck involved.

This sort of thing happens often for my hobbyist and me.

I have some very good friends that just happen to be clients- works out nicely for all of us...

Enjoy

Re: Questions for providers/hobbyists

No daily basis
But often ...
But Just With one client who become a good friend
I have known him for couple years

We can develop  a healthy friendship drama free

but watchout no cross lines
And careful to share your personal life
That can be dangerous
If do not know the person well
Go slow  and enjoy
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Nooo....

My best client thus far and I talk over text about once a month. I think about him often but our communication is slim. Too much talking can get both of you in trouble. Especially the client, I would never want to create any undue drama for him.

We would text often but it didn't last very long. I think the hard part is finding someone with the same communication preferences you have. In my case I think I overwhelmed her. I just am a very open and communicative type of person and I think she may have maybe been into it at first but eventually thought it was just to much. I am attached to my phone at the hip due to the work I do, so I am the sort of person who gets and replies to emails, calls, and texts immediately and generally always has time to chat. I think it would be very nice honestly to find a lady in the profession that was open to doing that. Someone, perhaps even someone you could think of as a friend, that you can essentially be completely honest with and who can in turn be completely honest with you. No need to hide this part of your life from each other like you do everyone else. The kicker for me is knowing how much, if any of it, is real and is GFE. and can she separate it either? Any of you ladies have thoughts on that? Or interested in a pen pal? PM me

I don't communicate with anyone almost every day. Think about your best friend in the world. Do you communicate with him/her "almost every day?" And this after only meeting 4 times? My guess is you have crossed the line and you think this girl is into you. Yes, there is a .01% chance that could be the case. But it's also true that its 99.9% likely it isn't the case. You are enamored with her. You like her. It's going to turn into love for you very shortly if you keep this up and the odds of that working out are almost zero. Just my 2 cents, but I would start pulling back a bit and give yourself some space and clear your head. The second you stop paying her the communication on her end will come to a halt.

I have been very fortunate to have developed a few close friendships with women who are providers. I talk with my former ATF everyday and she has become one of my closest friends and we are involved in each others lives. I have another lady that I swap emails with on a regular and we have become friends and I know that if I needed her or if she needed me we would be there to help one another without hesitation.  But these connections are the exception and not the rule.

I have also had a connection with an ATF where the lines got crossed and some feelings were involved and it didn't end well....but then there was one situation where it did. So be careful to always know whrere the line is and stay on the right side of it.

Good luck.

That would tend to cross a boundry for sure.

But, 3-4 times a year?  Sure, I do that with a few gals that I have known a long time and consider good freinds as well as providers.

Several gals I keep up with through their blogs, which makes a lot of good marketing sense if you ask me.

Too much closeness breeds contempt. As adults, we should be able live our lives without constant contact. I have seen many people do this at work and fuck on the job regularly.

He's one of my best clients & I like to make him happy.

So we touch base at least 3x's a week.
Some weeks much more often.
and when I don't have the time, maybe 1x/week.

A Reminder For All Guys

I have several wonderful clients who text/email/call me often and I try to respond as often as I can.  I enjoy developing a relationship with my clients and communication is part of it, some of my clients have become friends and so we do talk quite often outside of appointments.  I'm very open with many things about my personal life... But many clients seem to get upset if I don't respond immediately (or at all.) One even told me "With what I pay you you should be able to answer my texts!"  So here is my reminder for guys: Just like you have a life, so does your ATF, and she may not be able to text you constantly.  Also, you have not bought the right for constant communication even if you see her often.  When your appointment time is up she shouldn't be obligated to keep you entertained for the rest of the day/week/month with back and forth emails or calls.  She may have family, another job, or other obligations that keep her busy and make communication difficult.  I know this doesn't exactly relate to the thread, but I thought I would put it out there.

That being said, if she DOES communicate with you daily I would say she is either a very ambitious business woman or has a soft spot for you  If you have a close relationship I wouldn't be afraid to ask her about it yourself.

Ones where we found we have things outside the hobby in common.  We'll talk about kids, photography, cooking, etc. Maybe every couple months for most.  Weekly with a couple.  Even tutored one through calculus and was on the phone with her damn near every night that semester.  And it made for a fun end of semester party when she pulled a B+.