Do you really know how to properly make a phone call to a lady that you're interested in spending some time with whom you've never had any contact with?
I know you guys are thinking, "of course I do".
Well, I think I need to explain proper phone etiquette because I get a lot of calls that go kinda like this.....
(PC = Prospective Companion)
Me: "Hello"
PC: "Hey, I saw your ad & was wondering if you're available this afternoon?"
Me: "Who am I speaking to?"
PC: "Oh, John"
Me: "Where did you happen to see my ad?"
PC: "On the internet"
Me: thinking "No shit Sherlock" but saying "What site did you see it on?"
PC: "Ah, CityVibe or TER"
Me: "Did you get to visit my website?"
PC: "Yeah, I like your pictures"
Me: "Thanks, Hey did you happen to see the contact page?"
PC: "Yeah, that's where I got your phone #" "Oh, & what's your rate?"
Me: "My rates are clearly listed on my website that you visited & I do require a reviewed provider reference
PC: "Yeah, but I'm on TER"
Me: "I understand John, have you done any reviews on TER?"
PC: "No, I don't write reviews"
Me: "Well, who else have you seen?"
At this point I may or may not get an answer to that question & things may or may not work out for the 2 of us. The conversation above doesn't have a good feeling to it for either person. I feel like I'm "grilling" this guy that wants to spend time with me & he's probably thinking "Geez, all this just to find out if she's available within the next hour"
"Forget this bitch" "Next"
OK, so this is how to make that 1st call a success
Me: "Hello"
PC: "Hi, My name is John & I saw your ad on TER" "I'd like to spend some time with you."
Me: "Hi John, thanks for calling, did you visit my website as well?"
PC: "Yeah I did, I like your pictures"
Me: "Thanks, so when were you thinking you might want to get together?"
PC: "Well, I'd like to see you right now but I know that isn't possible since you don't know me yet." "I'll be happy to give you the name of a lady I recently spent some time with."
At this point, I will get the info I need & do MY HOMEWORK (as quickly as possible) & I'll be able to call or email John to set up our rendezvous.
As you can see, many times that 1st meeting with a lady cannot take place within the next hour.
Believe me when I say that even if you have to wait until the next day, you will be happy that you made this connection happen. You may even find a lady that you want to visit on a somewhat regular basis. Just think, now you can call her & ask if she can see you in 45 minutes & hear a response like "Hey Sexy, can you get here any sooner, I can't wait"
I often wonder how many "PC's" I've lost & how many good times were not to be had by all, just because of that 1st phone call?
What do you guys think?
If the PC isn't smart enough to follow instructions from your web site or savey enough to know proper expected behaviors, then you shouldn't be expected to put up with his lack of class and/or poor manners. Other ladies have told me about numerous time wasters that they have had contact with. A lady's time is valuable to her as is a guy's time.
Excellent post! I'd also add that PCs should not be freaked out if I say "Can I call you back in a few minutes?" I leave my phone on when it's convenient, but do you really want me answering your questions about what to expect in your session while I'm at the grocery store? On the bus and overheard by a captive audience? Me either.
What a wonderful Hobbying world this would be if all phone calls went so smoothly. Unfortunately, the first conversation is received about 50-60% of the time! It can be VERY frustrating. That being said, like you, I try to be as polite as possible and walk them through the correct way to request a date.
Thank you for posting this. EXCELLENT!
Kisses, Betty
Sample Email from, let's [email protected]
Hello Giamarie,
I have visited your website many times and noticed you on the boards. I am interested in spending some time together on Friday, March 13 at 7:00pm. I prefer incall. However, I will be flexible in order to spend time with you. What is the best way to book an appointment (e.g., phone, contact form, email, etc.)? I noticed on your website that you prefer my filling out the contact form on your website. I will do that willingly, if needed. I look forward to meeting soon! You are a lovely lady and I cannot wait to make your acquaintance. By the way, some things about me are that I love cuddling and want to simply enjoy conversation with a nice lady.
Take care,
John
An email such as the one above would suffice in terms of first contact...I do not accept phone calls, unless from, of course, already established friends!
Xoxo, Giamarie
This one should also be on the newbie board!! Thanks girls!! You are awesome.
Hello, Giamarie. I am an XX yr. young (occupation) from (state), and would like to meet with you with you during your upcoming trip to (city you are visting). Some further personal info about me:
My name is (correct name), (height, weight, race, marital status)...saw your ad (wherever that was), and would like to discuss the possibility of us meeting. My cellphone # and e-mail address are provided below.
My references are (ladies name, e-mail address, website address) and (same for second provider info, if needed.)
In the meantime, hope all is well with you, and looking forward to hearing from you!
Sincerely.
(Real first name)
(cellphone #)
(e-mail address)
I am stating this as as example that gets you past square one. It is not a request to meet, just a sample as to how to write an e-mail that gets attention towards meeting...
Critique from the ladies is welcomed....
Best Regards,
CD
A great start...
As a hobbyist, Im never to experienced to learn something new. Also great posts for the newbie board.
I only provide my number after screening and an appointment has been set. I prefer the gentleman email me with his screening info, desired appointment date, length and time.
Put this on the newbie board!! It is great...everyone please take note! Thanks bobbi 
....in order to avoid that potnetial phone call tension.
I probably tend to give too much information, including a basic physical description, hobbies, TER handle, Date-check ID, etc. But I feel like, even though it might be a long read, the lady can take what info she wants and cast the remainder aside.
That seems to be appreciated by most ladies.
HPP (hottie potential provider)
Me (Bizzaro Superdude)
Ring, ring, ring….
Oblivious modern tune sung by Britney Spears, Rihanna, Hanna Montana, Beyonce (now known as Sasha Fierce??? What tha????)
And now one of two things will happen
HPP: Hi, this is HPP, and I cannot take your call cause I am busy/away from my phone/not available/occupied/whatever. Please leave your name, number and I will call you right back…. Thanks.
Well…. I do, and in a short 4 or 5 days she does indeed call back, stating “this is HPP, how are you?” Heck, at this point I don’t remember who she is and assume that she is the poor little ole lady who sometimes calls me from a nursing home in Florida and just to not be rude, I will ask how she is doing and how her kids are getting along…. As I go down that path… it becomes obvious we are not even talking about the same things… the HPP gets a bit perturbed that I don’t remember who I called only a short 4-5 days ago… and hangs up…
OR!!!! The alternative will happen…
HPP: Hi! This is HPP! Can I help you?
ME: You’re hot.
HPP: Well I try to be, what do you want?
ME: Um, well, er, I was thinking that if you wasn’t busy we could meet in about 10 min?
HPP: Who are you???
ME: I’m a horny dude…..
HPP: Clearly, but who are you….?
ME: I am ME…. And you’re hot!
HPP: Thank you, have we met before? If not, I have a web site that has my form to fill in….
ME: uh, yea, there’s some purty pictures on there, you’re hot….
HPP: Thanks again, but there is a form to fill in…
ME: Well, I thought since I wanted to meet in 9 min now, you would not require the form… I got the money, been saving up my change for ya…
HPP: Well, ME, I don’t work like that, I need to know who you are…. Really….
ME: well if you go on this web site – you will see a picture of me… http://www.amw.com/index.cfm I hope you like what ya see…. I’m the tall, fat, short, skinny kinda green lookin guy…..
HPP: well, uh, have you seen any other providers????
ME: uh, yea, but she said to never call her again….
HPP: uh, well, I am sorry to tell you but I’m busy and cannot see you… in a 8 min…
ME: uh, how about in 15 min…. or 30 min…. or 1 hour….
HPP: I don’t think so… I have to go now…
Click
I am sure that some of the phone calls go like this… not good… Dudes, if this even remotely resembles how you approach the ladies… then I suspect that you will be met with the same fate as our hero, the BizzaroSuperdude…
Fortunately, BSD is only an alter ego on the boards, and should never be confused with me, in reality. Otherwise I would have no reviews to write.
are clueless. I am friends with a few providers and they all say the same thing. They get an e-mail just like the OPs phone calls.
Hi You're hot! my # is call me.
or
Hi Great pics I wanna xxx all over you. Call me
A lot of times they don't even give a name.
Some will say I work for xxx inc. and give the companies web-site and no where on it will there be a mention of them.
When references are requested or they are directed to the providers web-site contact page they are never heard from again.
Guys if you want to get with some of the best providers out there, you have to be willing to share enough info about yourself so that she feels safe. Believe me no higher end girl needs or wants your info for any other purpose then to be assured you're OK. If not, then stick to the pimped girls who don't care about screening.
thanks man, needed some amusement (wipes tears from laughing)
enjoy 
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As I've only made a few of these phone calls, I realize I have made some mistakes and they could have gone much more smoother.
Thank you for posting this, I'll be sure to use this method in my future endeavors.
B
That way, initial introductions are already out of the way, and the phone call starts with a certain degree of comfort. I still get nervous with new friends, which is why I prefer email. I can write better than I talk. At least with an email, I can proofread it before I send it. If I say something incredibly stooopid on the phone, it's out there, and there ain't no gettin' it back.
I don't even put my phone number out there. I can't imagine the phone calls you ladies get, guys asking all manner of retarded questions.
Great post that might help some of the "manner challenged" guys out there to get their act together.
Thank you or all the positive responses.
This is the 1st time I had the nerve to post something on the general board & you have made me feel much better about sharing my thoughts from now on.
I didn't even think about posting this on the newbie board, great suggestion, I'll do that.
So wonderful! Most men seem to have it down, but a little reminder doesn't hurt anyone.