I've seen a few times providers post either in their ads or on Twitter that they will not accept any sort of barter and express being annoyed by it. Not something I have ever tried, nor really have interest in doing. TBH, money is my best barter, so...

 
That said, I am curous...

 
Clinets: Have you have tried bartering? With what? Have you ever successfully bartered?

 
Providers: What are some things clinets have tried to barter with you? Have you actually considered it? Or, for that matter, done it?

 
I'm mainly interested in hearing stories. I'm equally interested if you have a story from the 3rd person perspective, like one about another clinet and/or provider.

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I have never offered to barter with any providers. However one knew that I had a cabin up in the mountains that she wanted to stay at for a weekend. She offered to trade for that which we did.

Then another time, a provider I had seen many times needed some handyman work done around her place. She offered to trade her services out for me to do the necessary repairs.  

If you don’t ask you will never know. The worst thing that could possibly happen is she says, “no!”

I have made friends for life off honesty.  

You missed 100% off the shots you do not attempt.  

Yes & yes to your ?’s. I just recently had one of the most amazing dinner date & overnight due to the fun fact that this daring individual reached out with a proposal to pay in full what he could reasonably afford. I respectfully accepted. We built a bond. I feel it helps when they can see all of me before by subscribing to my paid content that is exclusive.

And if the provider explicitly says no negotiation/barter, I feel like they'd be justified to be pissed or even refuse to service/bl you if you try to barter. It's one thing to complain about pricing online and another wasting a sellers time when they explicitly said no negotiations or trades. No means no.  

 
The only exception for me is massage parlors where tips are negotiable and without haggling you'd often be taken to the cleaners. I remember almost a decade ago Amp hopping in Vegas and one jack shack lady asked me for over 100 for a happy ending hj. At the time the going rate for a handie was 40. I just chuckled and told her to then just go through with the regular non sexual massage and that bluff call made her agree to I think 45 or so.

It sounds like your recent experience was a guy offerring you less than your standrard rate. Given it was a dinner date and overnight, I'm guessing it was still a nice chunk of change.

 
That said, since you said yes to the barter question, anything you feel comfortable sharing? I'm curious about what was traded?

I traded my ex wife's pilates reformer for two sessions and a three way to a short lived favorite I was seeing.  She got frustrated with my over attentiveness to the OTR girl she brought to the three way and I don't think I got my last session.  But I got that reformer out of the garage.  Always a silver lining.

I had begun helping her screen, not asking or expecting anything in return. She said she wanted to formalize the arrangement by giving me one free session a month in return. I told her that wasn't necessary but she insisted. So we did that for a while. Fun.

You don’t expect many to be able to relate.  

In my over twenty years as a private adult entertainer I have learned that not all compensation is in dollars. Tribute is always required, and can come in other forms other, than your traditional monetary contribution. How can you make yourself useful to your Majesty? What can you, do to make your Empress happy & smile?

I have created a Hopes webpage because I dream big!

When I think of bartering, my original thought was chickens or potatoes. Then, I thought of what I've seen in the hobby, drugs. 😔 So no to all that...  

 
BUT my regular clients, even through my agency, would take me to vacations, exclusive restaurants or events, or pay for my travel or hotel sometimes. I'd ask the agency if I could take it or part of it off their rate and 99% of the time they'd agree.  

 
However, "gifts" like flowers or jewelry were considered tips. So once, this gent tried to give me a watch for a session. A.) It was our first session so I didn't know him from a can of paint. B.) I'm not a watch appraiser... So I politely declined. He called and gripped at my Madam, which was a stupid idea, and she said that he didn't have to pay, he would simply be banned from the agency. Magically, my price appeared in cash out of his shoe. She still banned him but she didn't post about him as far as I know.  

 
Don't expect a barter and don't try to barter with someone that youre just meeting. But every provider is free to do what they want...  

 
Best,
Katie

Because my line of work is appealing to some ladies, a few ladies have asked me for help or for guidance in launching their vision. A couple of girls have offered to take care of me in exchange for my assistance, but I politely declined. Except one girl, I did I take her up.  
It was cool, but it didn't feel right so we went back to our original business play plan.One thing, when we did me, she wasn't a clock watcher.

Strictly in conversation, we were not neglecting offers or anything like that. Here’s an interesting item that was mentioned:

Two separate providers (independently of each other) have told me they have bartered for dental work with clients that were dentists.  

I guess there are no dental 🦷 plans when you’re self employed.

Dental is a common need Indeed. I need a crown 👑 replaced now $1,100 & that is the cash discount. I have a cracked crown. I need a dentist. Willing to travel. No joke.  

I had a dentist previously it works out famously!

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Way back in 2004 when I was a VERY new and UTR, one of my first clients was a professional product photographer and ran a very well regarded wedding trade magazine. He offered to barter pics for sessions. He was a total sweetie, saw me often and mentored me with some industry 'best practices' type of knowledge. I'd already done a few shoots with him for his magazine (my hands even had a cover! so bizarre🤪) so I figured "Why not?".  
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Well, because he freakin' sucked at boudoir. We had our sessions planned as the deliverables were met and I realized it's super hard to have just finished sweaty fun and then look at pics so bad that I felt a bit traumatized.... and still have to smile and act pleased with the whole thing.🥴 So I picked the best handful of the dreadful lot and made specific requests about how they might be edited. The next bartered session came when the edits were finished... and the raw pics somehow looked better than the edited ones, and he even did several different styles of editing to show what X or Y style  produces.  
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Once more... gulp, deep breath, smile and nod.... "thank you sooooo much!"😘🫣🤢  I couldn't let him know just how awful the pics were; I was afraid it'd damage the great set up we had going on this side of things. So I kept my mouth shut and we continued seeing each other for a few years, but the ICK of it all never really went away for me.  
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Lessons learned: 1) Establish/verify the value of the thing to be bartered and make sure you actually get what you're bartering for BEFORE the service portion of the exchange. He's GOING TO get what he wants anyway, so you gotta be sure you get YOURS first. 2) Be willing to speak up and lose a good client if it goes sideways for any reason. Sitting in that ICK and smiling through a situation just isn't worth it.  
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And that's why I've not bartered since😑

I actually still have a watch that I was glad to take as payment. We are not the same. I know jewelry well. I have mine appraised & have jewelry insurance.

Long ago, I had my own escort agency & I was the Madame. I had a sissy slut who did not have the entire fee in cash, so he offered me his Movado watch. I gladly took the watch. I gave it to my Daddy. I also, hired the sissy slut as my first male escort. He was bisexual. We had a longtime working relationship that was awesome!

When my Daddy died 5 years ago his widow gave me back my Movado watch. My Daddy loved the fact that I was honest about this lifestyle. I love wearing the watch now because it reminds me of our friendship. My Daddy was my biggest supporter.  

I pegged the hottest male model piece of ass for this watch and I gave it to my Daddy. Now it’s mine & love wearing it. The last dinner date I had in Scottsdale we both had our Movado watches it’s cool AF.

I am sharing because I have been aware of the fun fact that you have never met a woman like me before. I am last of a dying breed. What you won’t do I do with a huge smile… gladly. We are not the same.  

Smile for me!  

KK having you back on the boards made me realize my novel about my lifetime in this industry might be a great idea. 💡 After have kids you change as person & if your a single mother the struggle is realer.

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I was in the trade's; I'm a retired plumber. trades rarely worked out in my experience, one party always felt cheated.  Happy to hear it can work out

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I have bartered successfully over the years. I changed professions about a decade ago, but still barter with on gal. Weve had the same deal going on for almost 2 decades.  

If it aint broke, dont fix it!  

If you have the right skills or goods, why not?

I have a friend back in NYC who’s a professional photographer. He said a few of his clients are escorts and porn actresses. He has been offered sex instead of money and declined. He feels once he crosses that line, it may open the floodgates. He doesn’t want free sex to replace paying the bills on time.

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And soured a bit of my vibe for him. Caused me to kind of mentally side-eye him - did he *honestly* think the pics were ok‽😵‍💫 Did he intentionally 'screw me over'?😱  His vibe with me didn't seem to change, remained a sweetheart even after he bowed out of the grandfathering he'd enjoyed as I raised my rates over those years, so who knows?  
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He knew I was staying UTR so at least he never asked about what I did with the pics; probably assumed I'd send them in email to prospective clients as I send selfies now. Thankfully, I didn't have to keep coming up with lies about why he's not seeing them on a site/ads.  
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And yeah, I'm of the same mind as your friend... I've no issue working with client's business if it makes sense (circular economy and all😉), but we're still swapping cash and keeping that type of biz and this type of play separate.

I have income coming from elsewhere so I would be up for a barter if done respectfully, cleanly, and discretely, and the item in return was over the value of my time. i.e. amazing concert tickets, a ton of airline miles, a Birkin (j/k) etc.  

I quite like learning from my clients, so professional advice might be interesting as well (legal advice if needed as an example).  

But bartering for my rates, never.

There is/was a pretty well know provider in the MPLS area that actually brought bartering into her ads.  She was/is a prepper and I had an extra 5000w generator that she was extremely interested in but schedules never worked out.  Value can be assessed and agreed upon before hand and less hard feelings come into play.

if it was something i already need or really want, ie tattoo work, cosmetic procedures (fillers, etc). with well-established clients that i trust i would also be open to having home renovation work done as well. i at one point had a bartering policy on my website but removed it since it seems to be much easier to just pay cash for bookings. i still have an eye open in case a good trade comes along.

Dear Queen,

 
Do it! I see a book tour together in our future! You do strike me as a former Madame.

 
I, too, see myself as the last of a dying breed. Everyone is trying to look and be the same. I never looked like everyone else, so I never fell into this trap. My uniqueness sets me apart. My GFE was legendary. No, I wouldn't wear a strap-on, but I would knit your grandkids something for their birthdays, which I always remember. I will read your books, bills, or policy statements. I'll be sure to stay on top of current affairs that interest you. Because if you find them interesting, then chances are that I will too. I'll listen. I'll kiss. If you usually watch a news program every morning but are driving to see me, I'll highlight what I thought was significant as you walk in. I will joke, cry, and become enmeshed entirely with you.  

 
Also, I'm never faking it. If I am giving head, I am trying to suck your soul out. I only did what felt right to me, and I did it full-heartedly. If we do bondage or submission play, then I'm not playing... I'm yours to use as you wish. Don't mention your hometown or history to me and expect not to be surprised by my best version of a meal from the region. On another forum, someone sent me a Yiddish song from 1941. I said that I was going to sleep, but I couldn't sleep without researching the music, history, mamalige, karnatsl, and kashtaval... It's a curse!  

 
It seemed like my hourly rate was high, but I half-heartedly joked that I made less than minimum wage. I spent 100x the amount of time thinking about you than you spent pounding my pussy! But no, I can rarely tell a real item from a knock-off. I never got my jewelry appraised because I think it's in poor taste. Maybe I'm a gullible sucker?  

 
We are different. You're a Domina, and I'm just naturally submissive. You were a Madame, and I have no problem being a diligent worker bee and leaving the heavy stuff to the Boss Lady. I found solace in working for an agency. My favorite thing to say was, "Let me ask my Madame."

 
But we do have something in common. We both lost our most fervent supporters five years ago. My mother applauded the financial independence, experiences, and opportunities that I gained through this hobby.  

 
As I am researching these sex worker books, I see that the common theme is being true to yourself and maintaining your health. If you do these things, then you will be successful and enjoy it. If you cannot, then you will not last!  

 
But back to bartering, which was a good question. I agree with your first reply, actually. It can't hurt to ask. You never know what value someone else will see in what you offer.  

 
Love,
Katie  

 
This is EXACTLY what Mag experienced in "All Hookers Go to Heaven," which I haven't been able to put down. Sex workers are complex, real people, and we aren't all the same!

I'm not the type to barter or haggle.  However, I have had providers mention something that they need doing that I was able to accomplish, and I have received complimentary or extended service in exchange.  I've similarly had civilian girls offer me extra spicy times in exchange for solving particular problems.  Sometimes, it really does come in handy being handy!

You being kind and proactively helping people, and them responding with and demonstrating appreciation for that in a way that helps you. Being a decent and generous person often creates self-sustaining cycles of the same.😇